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  1. 'MMR fears coming true'

    I'm very confused by all of this. I have gone down the private route of single jabs. I also wanted to make sure my son was immune. So far I have done 2 blood tests and he is not immune to measles and mumps. He has so far received 2 measles jabs and one mumps. He's not even 5 yet but I just can't go on jabbing. I took him to the homeopath ( they don't really believe in vaccinations). She said that I immunize him now against mumps, by the time he's adult that immunity would ware off and he would be more prone to get it then. In her opinion it's better having a childhood illness in childhood and deal with it then. I think my son has immune system issuees as he's not building antibodies ... also he had Moluscum Contagiosum for ages. Anybody else done blood tests? Do you know if your kids are immune? If anybody knows anything on the subject, I would be very grateful.
  2. Matthew

    You could try reading the following article, and maybe print it and give it to the teacher and ca if they are approachable. It's about 10 things people who teach autistic children should know. http://www.familytimesinc.com/FT_1205/10Things.htm Try to get the school on your side if you can. You could maybe speak to HT about your concerns and maybe make some suggestions that might work for your son. I started the whole process by seeing HT, because the teacher finally said my son had to fit in with other kids and not all the others around him. He's just started reception, but what made me angry is that they don't seem to have any common sense to see something that does work with other kids, makes things only worse for him. Anyway, my son has different behaviour strategy in place, and I'm hoping things are going to get better. HT who is also senco in our school things he might have Aspergers. I'm very surprised about the way your teacher is handling it. Your son has dx, and they should not expect him to behave like others. Good luck.
  3. So, yeah, I suspect I have aspergers

    Hi there, I'm not an expert in diagnosing ASD, but it sounds like you might be. Have you read the thread about myths connected to ASD? No 2 people are the same, so not having certain symptoms doesn't mean you can't get dx. I have a little son who might have Aspergers, and I'm here to try and find out what I can, and also to be able to understand a little bit of what it's like living in his world. If I was you, I personally would like to get a dx, and then look into getting appropriate support. Also, I don't know what your family background is, but knowing what it is might help people in your life understand your needs better. I think you're done the right thing by joining the forum. <'>
  4. My son will be 5 in June, and he still finds it hard to stay close to me when we go outside. He has wondered off few times while shopping, and was lost once for 20 minutes in the shopping centre while my husband was supposed to be looking after him. That was 6 months ago, and when we went to Security to collect him, he was not upset at all. He never wants to hold my hand, and can't walk in line with me ( either runs 10 yards ahead, or drags behind). I don't know if it is correct to say that he doesn't have separation anxiety, but I think he is so impulsive, that it takes over and he wants to do what he wants to do at that moment. I think they are all so different. My son still wakes us every morning at around 6am. I wish he would entertain himself in the morning
  5. Thank you all for your kind replies. It's still all new to me and everything seems so confusing. My son still doesn't have dx, but at least we have got things moving. I find it reassuring to read there are other people out there who have similar issues. Thank you once again.
  6. Well it's not like we thought our son was the same as the others. We knew he was different. He learnt his letters at 2.5 and started doing sums at 3.5. We thought he was bright but immature behaviour wise. When he was 3 he moved to the older group in his private nursery and the teacher asked us within a week if his hearing was all right. He would not respond if called while playing outside but was OK indoors during circle time. We took him to ENT consultants who kept saying it's "selective hearing". I insisted they tested him because I didn't know how to parent him, and they did ( his hearing was fine). I went on such a guilt trip at that time, because when I tried to call him and he wouldn't respond, I would call him louder, and louder .... In the end he would respond and ask me to give him a hug ... he was confused. At that time I decided I think to be much easier on him. I think if I want the way I was I would have had a nervous breakdown, and he would have lots of tantrums. We found that counting to 3 works really well with him ( probably numbers). Now he's quite happy, and we have a peaceful household. I think it's very hard when it's your first child because you can't compare it to anything. I don't know what is age appropriate behaviour. I only know that my 2.5 year old can do so many things that his older brother is not able to do. I also found it helpful that school things he might be AS, because I was worried they would label him naughty. Now we need to move towards dx. GP is due to refer him this week to CAMH. Does anyone know how good CAMH dx is, and how long you need to wait to see them?
  7. I'm really relieved that there's somebody out there who has similar experience. Our Head teacher is also SENCO, and we made appointment to see him as we were concerned about him getting violent. Teachers were using normal behaviour rewards/punishments which didn't work and were causing upset to my son, but they said he had to fit in with other kids and not everyone around him. That made me decide to talk to HT and he said he suspects he has AS and will put him at the top of the list for assessment. My worry at the moment ( I know he's still so little). is that he will not be able to learn in the school setting. Did your son manage to get used to school??
  8. Hi, I have read some of the posts on the forum, and some of it seems familiar but lots of it doesn't. I was wondering if anyone has had similar experiences. My son has just started reception and he struggles in school. Teachers say that if he had 1 on 1 adult attention he wouldn't have problems, but in the school setting he just switches off. He doesn't see himself as part of the class of a group ( his table), and doesn't follow instruction unless they call him by name. Academically his knowledge surpasses his peers, especially at maths. He is now becoming violent at school and hits children, usually ones he wants to play with and doesn't know how. His Mondays and Tuesdays at school are much worse than other days. Now he doesn't want to go to school. I have read lots of posts describing how good their children are at school and they how they take it on the family when they get back. With us it seems quite opposite. Does anyone out there have a happy child at home and unhappy at school? I must add that my son hasn't been diagnosed, but the EP is going to see him in early May ( he has been pushed to the top of the list in his school). Thanks.