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As far as I am concerned my son is over weight and I have difficulty finding trousers to fit him. I have approached CAMHS over this possibility however get the same answer? your son is not over weight? I insisted I have an appointment so he could be weighed and then they could have the correct information. The chart showed my son was over weight and the line was above the safety line. I could not believe that this stupid person sat there and told me the charts are so out of date on the NHS therefore she could not go by this information as children are taller than they were in 1960. If you tried to put on a piece of adult clothing that was made one hundred years ago, it would fit a child by the modern standards. This was the excuses that was used, I call it lame. I insisted I have an appointment to see a dietician so I could help my son now before it gets out of hand. I was offered an appointment with her and contacted them before hand to explain my son has AS so charts would be helpful, when I arrived to this appointment she did not take my phone call seriously thus unprepared when we arrived. I have been waiting a year for the next appointment as every time I get offered one I get a phone call from the department to reschedule. I have needed to go in-depth of all possibilities of how a child can become over weight when food and exercise are not the issue. I am over weight myself not because I over eat but because I am on steroids three times a day. Not sure if I am going to get into trouble for this but the Asthma medication is steroids. Every one hears the same rubbish that the Asthma medication will not make you put on weight it is designed in a different way. I am not telling any one to stop taking there Asthma medication because you needs this med to prevent an Asthma attack. My son is also on the Asthma medication and feel it has contributed to the over weight problem, my son needs this medication thus he needs to continue taking it. My son?s chest is double that of a normal child because his lungs grow larger to compensate for the lack of oxygen. The situation has got out of hand because my son was told by a child? he cannot run fast because he is too fat? He now throws up every time he eats. Parents have shouted abuse at me and I find that are too ignorant to see past the black and white. People tend to pick up on the media and when they see an over weight child accuse the parent of cruelty and do not stop to think or care if there are other reasons behind it. I apologise if this post upsets any one.

Hi ScienceGeek I tend to growl never know when I am doing it but tend to behave that way when agitated. It upsets my dog more as she thinks she is in trouble. LOL

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Hi Kinda My parents were very worried about me but did not have any understanding of AS therefore we clashed in every way and they were unaware their behaviour towards me pushed me further away from them. When I worked it out with some help from the councillor I was then ready to talk to my parents. The most important thing I needed was my parents to listen and not give advice this can be hard for any parent because parents love there children and want so desperately to help. It is hard as a parent to work out what to do. I have a daughter at the age of seventeen and she will not acknowledge she has AS, my son became so over whelmed in trying to figure out why he was different so he was open to his diagnoses and has a better understanding of why he comes across as different. I have to just listen to my daughter off load and not comment on anything or she will see this as pressure. I have to communicate in a very positive way at all times when I talk to her. Sometimes I feel like I am walking on egg shells and have to be very careful how I talk to her. In my last post I explained what every day could be like for him, I did not mean to worry you further. Tell him how proud of him you are and remember to tell him exactly what you are proud of. Sorry if I up set any one on my last post.

I would like to change the government decision on the new car tax law. If the government keep pushing up the prices on cars I could be forced to give up driving thus become house bond. I cannot use public transport because I become too anxious; I tried to change my behaviour and state of mind to cope with public transport with devastating results. The government can be so stupid at times, if a mini bus takes twelve children to school there would be minus twelve cars on the road. America uses school buses why cant we! This change would help the rush hour, small step but a start. If the issue is pollution I am sure there are better ways! Like investing in more eco friendly cars? I would change the wok force policy. If you are not a people person you are likely to be kicked out thus they are discriminating against the right to be you, your human rights.

Hi Since I can remember my obsession were to be normal, I did not like being different and it confused me why I was called different. I suffered depression and became over whelmed emotionally with the pressure to put myself across as being the same as every one else. I was lucky enough to gain access to an AS councillor. My councillor was able to explain why I was different, why people misinterpret my action and it was ok to be me. My life has changed since then I joined an AS social group and found for the first time real friends who understands me and I understand them. I do not have to have the pressure of pretending to be normal. If I asked you to go out side and pretend to be a dog, people would give you all sorts of abuse and you would get laughed at, because you are pretending to be a dog you could not verbally tell them you are just pretending because dogs dont talk but You would feel awkward, strange, misunderstood and more than likely get arrested and sent to a mental hospital. When you arrive at the mental hospital and try to tell them you are confused, to why you are there because all you did was try to be different and see how it felt. The hospital doctors may misinterpreted this information and lock you up for good. You would feel so frustrated because you could not understand how it all went wrong. I am not saying your son is a dog just trying to explain how it is for him in a term you may understand. not sure if any of this helps.

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Hi Mumble This is a situation that most of us find our self?s in and for the same reason I did not talk to any one for ten years I would recommend that action. I have been going to an Asperger group for the last two months and found my confidence within that group. Everyone can openly discuss a situation and get advice and which words to use in a situation. We also have advice on how the other person or party see things differently. Most situations are a misunderstanding. From reading your post I think this manager over stepped his boundaries and got himself into trouble he should have been clear with you and explained his professional code of conduct. You did nothing wrong he did, but you are the one left feeling confused some one should have explained there code of conduct and the legal term so you would understand how to keep yourself safe and understand in black and white what the rules are he was not suposed to push the issue of friendship or even mention close friendship and that was a breach of conduct from him.

Hi bjkmummy When I was advised years ago my son will shift his obsessions on to something else I felt frustrated because they did not truly understand my son would follow me from room to room in a frantic state until he got the information he needed, name of dinosaur which period they lived in? he drove me crazy.? The worst time was when he was in nursery, he would behave like a dinosaur and the children wanted to interact with him but every time they tried to approach him he would react by stamping and roar so loudly the children started to become fearful of him. His teachers or peers did not realize he was just a scared child and the result was a misunderstanding and a label, violent child. I came across PC cd-rom called walking with dinosaurs Liam would play non stop but at least I got some space and he learned more about dinosaurs but he started to talk to his peers about dinosaurs instead of roaring. The other disc I bought was Jurassic park operation Genesis I needed to learn how to play the game first then teach my son. WOW he became so engrossed in playing the game and it gave me quality time with him, we learned how to work together as a team. I watched Walking with dinosaurs and learned as much as he did so I could talk to him on his level. He is now seven and he still talks about dinosaurs but has moved his obsession onto transformers. Years ago I felt his obsessions would never end with dinosaurs, it took four years. Try not to get too overwhelmed. He will move on to be obsessed with something else, just pray the obsession is not spiders. LOL