dayle1

hi loulou My son started hitting and kicking in year 3 always when some kid had done something to him like name calling or taunting. This continued through year 4. We and the teachers were constantly telling him to rather go and tell the teacher if someone annoyed him. We even made him some football cards which he could show to a teacher (white meant he felt ill, yellow meant he felt annoyed and red meant he felt angry) this saved him having to speak when he was stressed out. He only used the white one but I think the cards gave him another option other than hitting or telling a teacher (which was too difficult for him). Currently he's in year 5 now and he hasn't hit anyone this year and he's gone and told the teacher when he's feeling angry. He has had a lot of praise from all the school staff for this and this has reinforced the communicating bit for him. It can be very worrying when they do these things. I still supervise my son quite a bit when in group situations. Dayle

Thanks for all the replies. I like this forum so much as I can relate so well to everyone - it's good to know I'm not alone. Thanks everyone.

My 10 year old son was diagnosed with Asperger's about 18 months ago. What frustrates me is that everyone keeps saying "he's only mild". He is a clever boy good at maths and science like many others and he's currently doing well at school. But he still struggles with social situations. When we are with NT kids something always goes wrong. In public he quite often behaves inappropriately especially if something doesn't work out the way he wants it to. So when people say it's mild I feel very frustrated and don't know what to say. Does anyone else have this and feel like me?