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robert7111a

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  1. All NT people stim but I'm of the understanding that autistic people do it more or have more odd stim habits...? I'm sure anxiety plays a huge part and stimming is a way to reduce that anxiety. Perhaps somebody will confirm or correct me...
  2. Darn, should have known about Pulborough as I was doing a photographic stint on the Arun Valley line last year. And how could I forget Redhill? Perhaps the train I got didn't stop there...? It didn't stop at Horley either. Um....ok....
  3. I'm gonna steal your thunder ... Barnham, Ford, Arundel, Amberley, Billingshurst, Christs Hospital, Horsham, Ifield, Faygate, Crawley, Littlehaven, Three Bridges, Gatwick Airport, (Horley), East Croydon, Clapham Junction and...London Victoria. This is coach number....4 of....4. Please keep your luggage with you at all times. I may have gotten some of the stations between Horsham and Three Bridges out of order and I haven't included the suburban stations in London the train passes through. Sorry Warrior...couldn't resist
  4. I travel on trains a lot when I'm out photographing (especially your way Warrior) so I find myself uttering under my breath all the calling stations etc. I almost know the routes off by heart. Today I sat with my laptop in a coffee shop. There was music blaring. I must have been the only one who thought it was too loud so ended up putting earplugs in.
  5. Merry - I'm deeply honoured. I don't post much over a period of time, usually just in short bursts. Thank you! I never really knew what stimming meant until I joined this forum - and even then, it didn't really twig. But I never knew until recently that it isn't just peculiar to those on the autistic spectrum. It's only really since I met my wife that teddy bears came into the family. We acquired a pair of identical teddies whilst we were courting (we were both drinking heavily at the time to drown our anxieties) and when we got married, the teddies kinda became "married" too. Then the girl teddy "died" when she accidently got dropped into the sea when our daughter was 3 so the male "widow" we both took pity on. Sounds really daft doesn't it? So he has a lot of sentimental attachment to us both. Over time, our daughter got a collection of furry toys; some of the smaller ones (plus our teddy) live on our bed with our (real) cat who doesn't mind sharing the space. Hence our bed gets a bit crowded sometimes! I tend to play certain short made-up exercises on the piano repetitively: certain key signatures, notes, harmonies etc have a calming effect on me. But I might have to repeat the exercise until my fingers drop off. Also I might listen to a sustained organ note for minutes at a time - I listen out for all the harmonics going through my head. It's calming. Bet your husband loves your legs....
  6. I have Marc Segar's book too. I also have a fantastic book written by somebody on this forum. A few of the stories etc really hit a raw nerve and brought a tear to my eye. You know who you are :smile: x
  7. OMG - yes, yes, yes, my room is in a perpetual state of mess. Piles of stuff here and there (in some kind of order - not). I feel somewhat comfortable as I know where everything is. I never used to be messy but as I've gotten more stuff etc, I haven't found homes for it all. Much of it is paperwork, half-finished work etc - it's no wonder I can't find anything! My partner wants to decorate the room - guess what, I went into panic mode and meltdown.
  8. A topic I've recently got interested in is stimming. How many of you adults out there stim? Come on, be honest. And what are your most annoying (to others) or most embarrassing stimming habits and why do you do them? I am not talking about nail-biting, knee bouncing, twirling hair etc, minor body rocking etc that everybody on the planet does. I am talking about stim habits most pertitent to people on the autistic spectrum. I used to spin around a lot whilst walking when I was nervous but this is rare now I blink heavily when I'm stressed I stare I cover my ears when there's a loud noise I still sleep with toy furry animals I bite the tips of my fingers and I'm still looking for other behaviors...
  9. That is really sad and not a good start to the new year. Big hug x
  10. Hi Oakers I didn't use Fotopic that much so when it went to the wall, I wasn't really bothered about signing up to anything else. Also what kinda put me off was enthusiasts who would put up everything - even rubbish, blurry photos just to get noticed. That isn't me. Another excuse I know, but life is so hectic at present, I'm still captioning up "official" photos that I took 6 months ago! Maybe it's this hectic life that is stopping me, or my lack of spontaneous seeking to share achievements etc that uploading recent stuff to a "new" site isn't at the top of my priorities at the moment. Who knows eh...?
  11. Sa Skimrande Please don't continue to vent your anger here. Try and move on. This is getting way off-topic and personal.
  12. Ben, if your friend has cancer - this is already a death sentence. It can't get any worse. She is already ill and her immune system is whacked. Damn all the risks and just do it. There's no point tying yourself up in knots about it. And if she really wants to go, then she's not going to let anything get in her way. Think of this as a positive experience rather than wonder about "what if..."
  13. Ah then I have a problem as I don't have an account with either. I once had an account with Fotopic before they went under. So sorry mate, looks like this aint gonna be possible...
  14. Hi Kelly83 and welcome. From what I've been reading, it seems to be very difficult to get a dx on the NHS and Aspergers has now been dropped from the latest psychiatrist's bible. Never give up and hope you get a dx for your daughter I sense the smell of cup cakes wafting in now...yum...
  15. Ok, I'll sort out one or later - only problem is...I don't know how to upload pictures here...
  16. Isn't one trait of AS flash anger or instant rage? Guess this comes down to frustration...
  17. Well, despite all the negativity and bad weather 2013 started off with nice sunny weather and a stroll round the park with my camera. It's been a while since I've been out and to just relax and snap some pics of the trees, the fountains, the ducks and geese etc was great. Give me a camera, a nice big park and lots of sunshine and I'm in heaven. Made a huge difference with a welcome break from the dreary weather we've been having. Certainly enough to lift me out of the lows of my mood cycle.
  18. I too was bullied all my life too, i..e at school and in the workplace. It lead me to suicide. Eventually I got a hold of myself. Then the few months before Christmas, I was at the low point of my mood cycle again as a new bullly emerged at work. So I know what its like, I can really empathise with you. You have to deal with it - otherwise the bullies win. Ignore the posts - bullies don't like being ignored. . If you are that concerned, as Suzy says, take the matter up with her and PM her. Personally I don't know what this OP has meant to have done/said to you - it's none of my business. Can't you just ignore the OP posts? (edited for thread flowing purposes)
  19. Happy New Year to all of our members and moderators
  20. I guess from any forum, take it or leave it. Personally I am not bothered as I take things as they come. If a topic doesn't interest me, then I don't read/comment on it. People have complained in the past that there have been no active moderators - now that we have one or two new moderators, people are complaining about their recent flurry of activity. One can't win. Does it really matter? How open and honest do you want to be? If you really have an axe to grind, then surely this (or any other) should be welcomed as a topic for adult discussion (note the word adult as we don't want children to read some of this stuff) or you bite your lip and keep quiet. Sounds like a bit of sour grapes to me - sorry
  21. Depends on my mood, my purpose and the town centre concerned. For example, I no longer go into my local town centre a few miles away as it has gone downhill and I don't like the people. There is a shopping mall about 10 miles away which is great as it has everything under one roof and most importantly (for me), free parking. I can park, use the free facilities, have a coffee and either wander and let the world go by. It also gives me good practice to wander aimlessly, look at and learn people's body language. Rather at odds though, I hate crowds and queuing, especially if there are staff standing around doing nothing. But somewhere I read about how to cope with crowds and to see people as "nonpersons" (although I think this is rather derogatory) in the sense that I can just ignore them and not interact. But if a shop is too crowded, I tend to avoid unless I really have to. Although I miss the traditional High Street, I am not the sort of person to stand and banter to the greengrocer, fishmonger, newsagent etc. And I hate sales staff coming up to you every 5 minutes saying "can I help you?" Perhaps I'm just a miserable old humbug..
  22. Off-topic I know, but why is everyone bashing the moderators lately? Makes me think "community" is perhaps the wrong word
  23. Oh, the system appears to have taken my latin term as a swear word. Take the first three letters of "community" and substitute the "o" for "u" - if you know what I mean. "c*m" is the latin term I meant
  24. Excellent question Darkshine I see it as an interactive collection of members with common values and harmony "######" is derived from Latin and means "with/together" whilst "munus" is a broad term for fellowship
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