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You can't blame Hannah for what she is doing. How else is she meant to learn and do her research?. Adults can be very candid, honest and speak from first-hand experience. Children may not really understand why they have autism or why they are different to everyone else. Have you tried interviewing a child? It's not easy. And children can be very reluctant to speak in the presence of their parents (and they can't be seen without their parents). It's a difficult one. It's all very well saying that the future is children. Yes, I agree us adults are forgotten about. But there's nothing you or I can do about it unless you want to retrain as an adult psychologist specialising in adult autism.

Does she "really" have a crush...what is her body language telling you Ben? What is your gut instinct. I would just go along and act friendly and see how far she takes things. Perhaps she doesn't fancy her boyfriend any more...?

Dam, I knew I forgot the 12 of the 12th 2012 at 12.12pm and 12seconds....

I have very high expectations of people too. Perhaps this reflects on my own experiences as I was brought up to be curteous, polite and to do the best to my ability. Working did not mean sitting around - there was always something to do. Maybe attitudes have changed now (for the worse?). I expect newbies to the job to be enthusiastic and to work hard - especially as jobs are hard to come by. But the newbies I have seen of late seem to not want to work and just want to earn as much as possible and do as little as possible. Recently, I went into a shop. The twenty-something girl was nattering to her colleague, she didn't look at me when asking for payment, she did not say "please" or "thank you" - I mean, what sort of "attitude" is this? Am I old fashioned or out of touch? Decent manners would not have gone amiss...I really felt like complaining to her manager. In my line of work, I work with "real" people who have feelings. I "have" to take responsibility for what I do/say - but I don't think about it, it's innate. So I expect others to take responsibility too...is this too much to ask in today's society?

Hi, yes it just doesn't seem fair does it? For me, I have worked since I left school. Both my parents worked. For me, it was a case of having to in order to live and fend for myself. I am not the sort to sit around. And I too do not like people who don't pull their weight, don't do their fair share and above all, do not take responsibility for their actions. You know what I mean, the shirkers, the ones who whine and complain all the time, I see first hand the "degree culture" people who come in, expect to do a senior person's job but don't do their own job properly or don't even know what to do. They have no work ethic, they expect everything to be handed to them especially as they've been "promised" by the gov'ment that they will get a superb job upon graduation. These people have no experience in the workplace and are not expecting to start from the bottom. I have worked with all sorts of "difficult" people. Lyndalou, perhaps you should take a step back and look at your work ethic. Do you "have" to work lunchbreaks or stay late? Why should you be the only one or even have to? Do you feel taken advantage of by your colleagues? You should think of yourself first.

Sa Skimrande What lens have you got that has fungus?. This clearly is not a good thing.

I hear "Dove" soap does a gentle job... :lol:

Um... I think it's a bit late for now - but save for when you're fully recovered. You just have to let it run its course. I eat lots of garlic but that didn't stop me getting the bug. Biggest problem is lack of basic hand washing ... sadly for me, I have to shake a lot of hands in my job... Drink gallons of cold boiled water

SmileyK, sorry to have to tell you this, but expect to have the virus for at least 3-5 days. Your body needs rest (so no gym!), plenty of water, fruit tea etc and you have to ride it out. Get well soon

I see it as somebody I can relate to..somebody who gives good advice and whom I would listen to.

Ah well perhaps I was a bit over-optimistic (and my 5D hasn't died...yet). But going back to possessions/hoarding etc, I refuse to give up my OM cameras as these are tough workhorses, don't have sensors to keep clean, and don't require power (except for the internal lightmeter). Glad I got these serviced a few years ago before placing them into semi-retirement.

As I'm not good talking socially, texting suits me fine - same with speaking on the telephone. Texting is a convenience but abuses the English language much so. Also I can't help but be distracted at times when my daughter is forever texting her friends...what do they say? One liners or one worders before hitting "send" each time. But I still encourage my daughter to speak and she's an excellent speller and average writer. But if I'm sitting on a train, I would prefer people text rather than me have to listen to their phone conversation in the carriage. But of course I'm of the generation that grew up writing letters, thank you cards etc to people. When I was at school. people "spoke" to each other. I suppose I could be happy without texting but as I said, for me, it is convenient at times. My mother still tries to get my father to use his mobile to make calls even - let alone text...

Ah when my 5D gives up the ghost Sa Skimrande, I know who to come to :lol:

Well it's reeeally nice to be wanted or listened to eh? I think this is a rather shortsighted comment Justine1 I think people who are self-diagnosed and have advice to give have a lot of wisdom to pass down to the younger members and for me at least, getting a formal diagnosis so late in life is now pointless. It's not going to achieve anything; the state or anyone else is not going to help me because I'm not a child/student or an adult living on benefits and I've made my own way in life, not without its difficulties of course. Getting a diagnosis doesn't mean its the right one or that all doctors/psychiatrists are to be believed.

I'm difficult to buy for because I normally buy what I need for myself so kinda "have it already". For example I might buy a lens for a specific purpose but use it only once or many hundreds of times. I collect model trains which are not cheap but I don't "play" with them as I haven't put up a layout. So they're still in their original boxes. I buy books as and when I need them but rarely throw any away as I use them for reference (many are work-related text books and therefore expensive). My wife has a standing joke with me of having "two of everything"...sometimes it's "10", "50" or "200" of everything. For example I might have 300 model trains each representing a specific era (steam diesel, livery variations etc that I grew up with) but my wife just sees it as "a train". I have a few photographic lenses - one or two I might only ever have used once...but "it's there in case I need it". I have about 4 digital cameras but only use one as my workhorse (only if it fails then I have backups to choose from). I have over 20 watches that I've collected over the years - many are probably "junk" but some are fine gents watches that I won't part with. But if I had to buy for someone else...I'd be flummoxed...

I'm a pitta too but I've kinda gone off pitta bread... :lol: Seriously though, much of it is true to me

Hi BrightEyes, welcome to the forum

Sounds like you did well today and shifted that virus really quickly...

Very nice

I think as adults we can pass on our wisdom to our children. For the AS adults who have children, the adults are well placed to see the signs in their children first before any health professionals...of course I'm talking about the 35-50yr old adults who were never diagnosed as children themselves. Us adults are not listened to and I fear now that AS is to be taken out of the DSM-V altogether, what is to be become of tomorrow's children? Does this make sense?

Well I suppose FB or MySpace are two good forms of media and somewhere where readers can post reviews

You may have to quarantine yourself for a while otherwise you will pass the bug on

I know exactly how you feel. But it can take at least 3-4 days. Keep drinking... and handwashing etc

I'm really looking forward to reading it... hope it sells well...

Sounds like you are at the start of it. You may or may not get diarrhoea. Can take a few days so you shouldn't go back to work yet. It's really important to keep hydrated and rested. Herbal tea, boiled water/water/salt solution (the chemist does a "proper" concoction) Can be a really nasty bug Get better soon x