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  1. Bagpuss

    my positive thread

    Elun, that's lovely <'>
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    Greenwich Meetup

    We are setting off first thing in the morning, and as usual, totally disorganised. We've realised today that we havn't even bought a gas bottle yet which sort of scuppers our plans for cooking and heating I thought I'd pop online to check forum before starting the ironing, packing blah blah blah.........and whoosh, hours have passed Don't know how much time I'll have to pop on forum before then (who am I kidding, I'll be on it at least another sixteen times ) so I'll say bye for now and see you all Saturday. I've got a couple of mobile numbers, so I'll ring someone when we get the Greenwich Park and try to find you all. Hope someone recognises me now I'm dark haired We'll be the group of peeps looking half starved and cold muttering obscenities about caravans Byeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
  3. Thanks NobbyNobbs. Yes, she does get on well with boys. She treats them as she does her "girl" friends, and there is one particular boy who she is very close too, and has been for years. He calls for her every morning for school, and often on evenings too. She also enjoys alot of the games that the boys play in the playground. Thanks for the book idea She loves reading, so I'll see if the library has it in.
  4. Flora, I'm sorry to read what your DD went through, that's awful <'> Thanks for the mag idea, I hadn't thought of that She tends to pick animal or pokemon mags when we go out, but maybe if I just buy her a girlie one, and leave it on her bed, she may take a look.
  5. Thanks Enid. I can understand what you mean. My eldest DD just does not "get" fashion, make up, hair, etc etc, so if her friends are chatting about that she doesn't contribute at all to the conversation. She also struggles with conversations centred around someone else being complained about...ie, friends falling out with other friends and just the general girlie chats that they begin to have at that age. If they move onto something she is interested in, say Pokemon or DS games, then she can contribute, but otherwise, whoosh, straight over her head. I had wondered if girls on the spectrum found this age particularly difficult, in comparison to boys, due to girls being very cliquey etc. What happened with your son?
  6. Your right Flora, it does tear you apart. I just feel kinda helpless, and that I can't "teach" her about "girliness".....does that make any sense? We have secondary school looming in a year and I'm already feeling jittery
  7. Thanks Tally <'> I did try and suggest she took it further than hello, but she thinks they will feel she is butting in. even though I've explained that they possibly could be waiting for her to say something more. I did wonder if, as she became older, and her friends moved onto things other than pokemon and guinea pigs, she would be left behind somewhat.
  8. Our eldest DD is 10 (AS) and has become abit tearful tonight regarding playtimes at school. She does have friends and often goes to their houses after school or has them here. Often classmates will call for her too, either to walk to school or to play out after school. However, she said that two particular friends, one of which is one of her closest, are going off by themselves to talk at playtimes and she is beginning to feel left out. She said it had been happening for a long while, but she didn't want to say anything about it. She said she is now "going off" her closest friend due to this, even though she has been at this particular girls house twice for tea in the last fortnight. I'm struggling to get a handle on exactly what is happening, as DD can't read these situations clearly, and I don't know if this is being done deliberately or not. She said when they walk off she tries to go over to them, and says hello. They reply hello and then they walk off again. She said she doesn't attempt to say anything further, because she doesn't know what to say. I asked her if she could maybe try to join in with what they are talking about, but she says she doesn't know what they are talking about. I tried suggesting that maybe she could listen to what they were talking about, after saying hello, and then join in, but she's adamant that they will feel she is eavesdropping. I think she feels that if they wanted to talk to her they would include her, and all she needs to do is say hello, and take it no further. She said she then wanders off and finds other people to play with, and specifically people that are playing a game of some sorts. She seems to get on very well with boys and enjoys joining in their games. I'm at abit of a loss as to what to do to help her I asked her if she'd like to talk to her friends and explain that she was feeling left out, but she doesn't. I've asked her if she'd like me to have a word with her teacher, again it was an absolute no from her. I've also said that maybe if she feels uncomfortable with going over to her friends when they are alone and chatting, she could just find her other friends and do something she is comfortable with, rather than attempting to go over and talk to them. She seemed the happiest with that suggestion. She went on a weeks residential school trip recently, and while we were all waiting in the hall with the other pupils and their parents before the bus arrived, I noticed how the other girls were all in small groups, excitedly chatting about their clothes, their hair, the trip, their bags etc, but DD stood on the sidelines, with DH and I. The girls did make attempts to come over and talk to her, often, but it seemed they had to carry the conversation and DD just didn't get all the girlie chit chat. I didn't get the impression she was deliberately being left out or that they disliked her in anyway, in many ways I think they find her quite uncomplicated.......did get a huge lump in my throat though I do wonder if this is all down to girlies just being girlies, but trying to explain that to DD in a way that she understands is so difficult. Any advice?
  9. Have edited to add you too TN
  10. Have edited list to add you and your boys Sue
  11. Thanks Brooke and well done
  12. Sorry Mumble, can't help with cafe's as I don't know York very well, other than spending the odd day trip there. From what I remember though, York Station itself has places to eat. Unsure what time the meet up will finish as we usually meet at Newcastle and go for a meal which tends to last only a few hours. I should think it'll be like Greenwich with people staying as long as they can/want with no pressure.
  13. Usual weekly WW weigh in and lost 2 lb
  14. If your DD is upset Looby I'd persue it hunni <'>
  15. He'll love it won't he
  16. What about 11.00? Would everyone be able to make it for then? So far we have..... Me & DH Mumble KarenT & J Pearl and poss JP Sue & two boys TheNeil
  17. Ah, but we'll be having our own little mini meet up next week <'>
  18. Looby, I'm sorry, it must be difficult to come away without any answers How does your DD feel about it? Does she want to persue it or not? <'>
  19. Hi All, Could we have a show of cyber hands for York, National Railway Museum, Sat 9th August? Ta
  20. Bagpuss

    my positive thread

    You can get them delivered all in one digest Pearl.
  21. Bagpuss

    Greenwich Meetup

    Fret not Warren, it can't be any worse than Sheppey where we stayed last year This year we will be in our van, slap bang in the middle of a boggy field and will sink without a trace Croydon, dry land, and a private loo would be heaven
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