A-S warrior

ok, so you,ve heard me bang on about the positives that aspergers bring, but as with most things in life there are cons and unwanted side effects. it would be unrealistic of me to say im cured of it and i dont have any problems. this topic is all about something that effects alot of us and that is obssesive compulsive disorder. i had all sorts of things i used to do on a regular basis, knock on wood, salute magpies, never walk over 3 drains, i even had a picture of my girlfriend with all the things she brought for me surrounding the picture to protect her and every night i kissed the picture 3 times. i called it my alter. now im not for a second suggesting you do what i did to get over it. but im telling you how i have beaten it for good. about 6 weeks ago i started going to church and talking to a good friend who is helping me through my relationship break up. i know what your thinking he brain washed me right? well no. embracing god has really helped me with most of my problems in life, and its making me a much happier person. doing ocd rituals means im not worshiping god, im worshiping something else, and god is the one protecting me not my own rituals, and my self built alter was attracting the wrong kind of sprits and again ones witch were not god. so that for me was an instant cure for my ocd. now i appreciate that ocd takes many forms, i was a frequent hand washer as well, but when i got a stomach virus in jauary witch lasted a week, that showed me that it doesnt make a difference how many times i wash my hands im still subject to illness, so that liberated me of that ocd and thus learning my lesson. another one was making sure the oven was turned off over and over, the question is if i turned it off and im alone in the house why would it still be on? ocd cant be cured but it can be contained. so over to you, what are your ocd rituals? how do they make you feel safe? and were did they stem from? and can yours be locked up forever?

alot of the pepole i have met with aspergers do have a tremendous memory, even photographic like i say. all i,ll say for now is this, whatever you do to prove to yourself that you can do something that you thought you couldnt is a huge challange to overcome! you couldnt cope with the thought of university but yet you still went through with the interview and then ended up getting a place in university, its an amazing achievment. its not the size of a challange to overcome that matters. its the fact you overcame a challange! and you should! be proud of that, and does it matter if i think its enough? if its enough to you thats all that matters. i personally think lots of small challanges taken one step at a time have big results, and to get a place at uni is to me a big challange to overcome alone! going through the interview proccess is a very intimidating experience for anybody. i never said that all the walls for an asperger sufferer are going to get broken down at once, it takes lots of time and patience and determination. even talking to the guy at the till at tesco is a huge huge step if you,ve never done it before. im not just going to go around spaming this forum with my slogans and statments, my goal is to talk to individuals and learn about aspergers and give as much help as i can. if i can change one persons life for the better then it was all worth it. im not trying to be mr popular on here, im just trying to help. you probably dont want to hear this, but i have a feeling that you are going to do very well at uni, small baby steps eventually equals big results. just like filling up a bucket of water with a pippette. takes a while but eventually that bucket gets filled.

ok right erm ,all im trying to put forward the advantages that aspergers has and trying to help pepole become more positve and not try to see aspergers as a disability so much. what wrong with trying to motivate pepole? plus you probably DO have the remarkable feats i say, you probably dont realise it. my main goal is to help a-s suffers achieve a point of no limitations and help pepole to reach a level they thought they never could. ive been on forums before were pepole dont like my comments and have been over critical to the point it upsets me, i diddnt think i would get that here but you have proven me wrong. i try so hard to say the right thing and be a gentleman but theres always someone ready to debunk everything i say. at the end of the day i was on your side and backing you up. my achievements? diagnosed when i was 5, went through hell as a boy suffered ocd, panic attacks, epilepsy, severe depression and anger issues. ive put my mother through hell and back with my aspergers, have you read the topic help aggressive teen? i was worse than him. i was put in a isolated cubicle in classrooms so i couldnt distrupt the class, i was scared of crowds terrified in fact, diddnt talk properly since i was in my teens. and went to useless support workers that diddnt know what they were talking about, labled by teachers as naughty, dangerous, rude and just trying to get attention, and delberatley scrawls his hand writing to waste time. i was the same as a severly autistic person. assement after assement after assesment! i even rember at age 10 wanting to kill myself. my very worried mum was desperate to get me the help i needed and gues what? no one gave a damn! i was as negative as you can get, and from there i pulled myself up forced myself into uncomfatable situations, came out of my comfort zone, got a job at a night club to challange myself, ive had my heart broken when my relationship with my girlfriend painfully ended (she was indian and i am white) i lost her because of her family ties. but i forced myself to overcome all of these challanges over the last 21 years. when i realised my ability to come through all of this with a limp but a smile all the while is due to the metodical brain power and the ability to look at things in a very matter of fact way is due to me having aspergers, as soon as you embrace it and start to see it as a tool to help you achieve your potential and be optomistic in your approach is when you will then start to see what it is im talking about. aspergers if used in the right way is a gift! yes it isnt easy and it doesnt happen over night it happens when you employ a positive, forward thinking attitude! ive know about my aspergers for 16 years, now my goal is to give the help no one gave me, the insight into the coping stratiges ive employed over the years, rember ive had 16 years to find this positive view over aspergers, and i think its time to make pepole become less negative and more (alot more!) positive. and start to use that brilliant brain (that you dont yet realise you have!) for good, my examples of the celebritys were for inspriation, to show that the sky is the limit even for pepole with aspergers! there are no limitations at all! im here to help pepole catch on to this quicker than i did. for example if i was paralised from the waist down, does that mean i shouldnt at least try to walk? you never know i might suprise myself and walk again! or maybe i need the inspration of someone who was completley paralised that just ran a marition. positive thinking is the key! im tired of pepole on the autistic spectrum being ignored and disregarded, arnt you?

when your buying like £70 worth of shopping and the spotty teenage girl behind the counter asks, would you like a bag? pepole asking stupid questions forinstence when i say oh my head hurts, some says does it? a sign that says elevator can be found on the third floor, oh it CAN be found? well i sure hope i find it! pepole with no integrity. and no morals.

i said it before somewere, doctors and menal health "professionals" that arnt on the autistic spectrum simply dont understand it and never will. it takes someone with aspergers to understand it. for example if you thought you had aspergers who would you turn to? the specialist? or the guy who has aspergers and has overcome it? altough i see my a-s as an ability, newer suffers certainly dont. thats why there should be pepole like me working in the nhs with pepole on the autistic spectum. i actully know what im talking about and would be solving pepoles problems much more effectivley and quickly without all the trouble and distress inbetween. but no! you need a phd in bulls*it these days to be able to do anything!

i have to admit and im about to reveal a guilty pleasure, i like to fantasise about being the captain of thunderbird 3. i immagine that i indeed live on tracy island and im part if the team with my cousins and i see myself as the astronaut of the group yes im 21 and should of grown out of it along time ago. i dont even think its an a-s thing i just think that men never grow up and that we all like to immagine were our favorate childhood heros at least 3 to 4 times a week. if you dont your lying!

the key to it all is positive and forward thinking, if you need help with that aeoleinne then i,ll be glad to.

athelite to athelite i think you would agree we shouldnt accept limitations as an option. but i guess me being young and eager and very experienced at my age i can miss the fine print in some individuals. but! im fully confident i can help the majority of pepole that suffer a-s with my approach, maybe i need to be a tad more disaplined. i just need to talk to a few more pepole on here and get my bearings.

your not doomed at all! it just may be harder for you to learn these things but try hard and the rewards will come. anything worth doing is never going to be easy. and theres a reason you havent had a relationship yet and thats because your destiny partner hasnt found you yet, that person will be so special they will understand your needs perfectly. it can just take time for that person to find you. and dont ever sell yourself short by saying your intelligence isnt supreme or at least high. just belive in your self a bit more.

@lancslad regarding your sowing seeds analogy, why settle for just one? or the other? why not sow a whole rainforest of lushfruits and flowing water, with all sorts of new and extiting animals and fruits to try?

this is the one time where i would say, you are not there to make friends, you are there to get your qualification. freinds are just a mere bouns. at the end of the day you have us and a husband to come home to. and thats all that really matters in the grand scheme of things. pepeole that talk about you behind your back are not pepole you want to waste your energy on, save that energy for the pepole that matter in your life, the pepole that dont mind matter, the pepole that mind dont matter its as simple as 2+2! the amount of pepole ive ditched over the years because there two faced and untrustworthy, its really easy for me to delete there number and blank them in the street as soon as they step out of line. im also doing a maths class, im as mad as a box of frogs but because there genuine pepole they love me regardless.

women that are "willing" are usually love starved by there fathers, and seek a replacement to fill that gap (no pun intended) its very rare that you find a primal women that want to sleep around without any kind of emotinal issues. so its up to men to sence this and be a gentleman and not take the oppertunity just because its offered to us on a plate. when those urges come you have to rember no matter what that is somebodys daughter your about to blow your load in. (yes i made it deliberatley disgusting to put the point across and eliminate the romance completley) women, and yourself! deserve respect, and true love is a thing worth being patient for, theres nothing quite like it.

im in the worthing area.

do a google search of al the celebritys that have aspergers. you,ll see that im not an exeption and that the most famous succesful pepole, albert einstein, michael jackson, patrick moore, bill gates, al gore, robin williams, jim henson, george washington, heather kuzmich, vincent van gough, bob dylan all have aspergers.

all in good time my friend, you will see what im talking about one day. ive known about my aspergers for 16 years, so thats 3 quarters of my life! some consider me an expert, ive helped alot of pepole with aspergers over the years. i dont call myself an expert though, i like to remain humble.

your profile picture makes me happy lol, i hope you pick up on it to because breaking down the walls that aspergers can bring is a very liberating feeling and you have the sence that anything is possible.

me and the love of my life being in a wonderfull 2 year relationship and then being torn apart because shes from india and im a white man (worst pain that god willing you will never feel i wouldnt wish it on my worst enimy) achieving a good musclular pyhsique and then being called gay for having a good healthy body. pepole that tell me that beliving in god is stupid. rasist pepole that cant justify what they say. pepole that think low fat diets help you lose weight, (when infact its exsessive glycogen levels form carbohydrates that make you fat) (sorry for the bro science) alchool being the centre of pepoles universes. good pepole being treated badly. trolls that have no intelligence. i,ll shall be back with more..

hi peeps, seems to be a very sceptical reaction as i expected. the thing is i was diagnosed at a very young age, i was 5 im 21 now, so for 16+ years ive walked in the knowledge knowing i have aspergers so ive had 16 years to find coping stratiges. for the first 14 years it was a huge disability to me and was a burden. now i know for a fact alot of you guys posting on here have only knowingly lived with it for less than 5 years and dont yet realise the true potential it offers. and at the 5 year point for me i was in a terrible state, had little to no friends, picked on and alienated, to make it worse felt like a stranger in my own home. ive journeyed through to the point im at today and no for a fact that the only barriers as an asperger sufferer is the ones we make in our minds. there is nothing you cant do that ordenary pepole cant do. in fact better. it took me nearly 16 years to have this mindset. and my mission is to give you guys a short cut. so you dont have to battle with aspergers like i did. once you get to a level where you feel like its a gift which it is! you then realise the true power aspergers brings us. now yes we all have our downfulls but just because something is hard for us doesnt mean we should be wrapped up in cotton wool, we just have to work much harder than most pepole, witch in the long run is very rewarding, as it makes us better pepole. my goal is to help, i joined this forum to help pepole, negative pepole! which is a side effect of aspergers. aspergers is a disability if you let it become one. i genuinly want to help you guys have the best lives possible, the lives you deserve. if your willing to embrace the idea that aspergers is a gift then your already half way there. its up to you if you want to settle to be that quiet guy that sits in the corner of a room, living a humdrum routine life that makes you feel safe (but unfulfilled) thats up to you. but you know deep down your a hell of alot more than that, A HELL OF ALOT MORE. im just trying to make you realise that. @ lancslad with your artery skills and my ruthless determination i think we would make a formidable team, as they say 2 minds are better than 1 if you wana co pilot this thread with me im all for that.

this is going to be like an online dairy, because what i want to say isnt going to be i one post im affraid. ok first of all aspergers syndrome should be renamed as "the gift". it should not be labeled as a disability because regardless of what your doctor says or what any wanabe autistic specialist thinks it is in fact an ability and a huge one at that! i know of no other condition that delivers you, supreme intelligence, photographic memory, the ability to learn and devolop everyday, take your hobbies and turn them into a lifestyle and be more dedicated than anyother person in your chosen feild and to have the methodical brain power to become the best at it, bascicly in short aspergers=genius! the only flaw is our social problems but the thing is if you change your thought pattern and act in caracter temporaraly, there is no reason on this earth why you cant enjoy a big social life too. have 2 pepole the normal you when your at home and with family and then an alter ego (second personality) when your at work, out with friends and so on. its that easy! so with all that said try and tell me that aspergers is a disability now! im 100% confident that i can reply and silence you lol. in this diary i hope to talk to negative asperger sufferers and convert them into positve, optimistic apprentice A-S warriors! if your ready for change (yes i know you dont like change but trust me!) then post and follow my mission diary. i wont stop until every asperger "sufferer" has seen the light and starts using there aspergers as a tool to acheive greatness that only the average person can only dream of!

my mission objective is simple, to shine the light and make pepole see that aspergers is a gift and not something to be labeled as a disability. pepole with aspergers actully have an advantage over the average person. and hopefully soon more pepole see that.

i,ll start, constant beeping at supermarkets, rude pepole bumping into me and not saying sorry. this new generation of hip hop music thats making kids talk like idiots, bruh! train being delayed when im already late. staff at the jobcentre talking to me like a naughty school boy in detention. lazy pepole. non autistic pepole that think they understand autisum (you dont and never will) when somebodys being bullied everybody takes the easy way out and jumps on the band waggon and joins in, instead of having the strengh to stand up to that person. those pepole are weak minded and cant think for themselves. and are worse than the bully. my dog barking at night when i have to be up early. pepole that think its mandatory to put the tv on, and then moan when theres nothing on. read a book then! or go for a walk! think about it! as you can tell my list is looooong, now please post up the things that make you tear your hair out!

toning the muscle requires heavy resistance work. the muscle needs to be broken down during exersie to come back and be stonger. (im a bodybuilder by the way) dont worry about getting massive arms and breasts like flapjacks because women dont have the same hormones as men to build large amounts of muscle. it requires testosterone and for women to get the levels of testosterone neccersary they have to put it in to there bodys artifically. so dont be affraid to lift some nice heavy weights, just look at some of the women in the olympics this year, they lift very heavy weights and have the bodys women dream of. thats why women say im lossing weight but not toning up. thats because there scared of lifting weights in fear of looking big and muscluar and this shouldnt be the case. so my advice to you, hit the squat rack!

sure you want to meet women that way? there not very classy, dont care about themselves and certainly wont care about you. women have a funny way of finding you. and it wont always be in the most obvious places. trust me you,ll be 100 times happier waiting for the right one and eliminating women you meet when your out on "the pull" dont be tempted to follow your friends example. at the end of the day sex is overrated usually a huge disapointment and if your the romantic type like me lots of emotion to go with it. real love with someone that is the love of your life is literally awsome, and the best feeling ive ever felt. and that kind of woman you dont meet at a bar trust me! as i said women that give you all that love and care and give you that butterflies feeling in your belly when they smile at you pop up in the strangest places, so have a can of lynx ready because you never know when!

one thing ive always done is take on different personas, i.e at home im my normal self, at work or collage i go into character. think of yourself as a very calm person and a person that goes with the flow in convosations. yes you are acting, but being yourself as much as possible and eliminating the part of you that makes inappropriate comments. going into character by almost mimicking the average person is a very good tactic that ive utilised many times over the years. observe pepole but dont stair! and take on board there mannerisums and habits when in convosation and try to apply some of those to your communication skills.

dont be upset when pepole complain, there not angry at you, there angry at the establisment so dont take it personaly. i disagree with the lancslad, a diagnosis would be a huge benifit to you. you can explain to your boss why you behave a certain way in certain situations, and he cant fire you because thats discrimination. to me as an asperger "sufferer" (my topic in the introductions section sums up how i feel about it check it out) as far as i see it you sound classic aspergers. i worked in a night club and had the same problems as you. the problem is we see things as they actully are very black and white, the average joe on the street sees things in a very colourful way. thats why we have such a problem understanding what the hell there on about and vice versa. as far as being the best waitress you can be you have to play a character, lets say if your name is kate, you go to work and become stephanie the waitress the girl that likes to smile and make customers happy. its easier than you might think! good luck :-)