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drafting a contract. as we speak:-)

ok. al give it a go in a bit. bein spat at at the. moment! x

well so far av managed not t give him the x box and will try my hardest not to give in until he attends school. the last time i tried this the stand off lasted six weeks without him goin t school and therefore not having the x box and every day was a living Hell. smashing up furniture. threatening his brother an sister. waking them up in the night purposely. school mentor was out to him. attendance officers. even the police! to no avail. unfortunately i gave. in in the end so the six weeks ov Hell were for nothin!

once again battles with 14 year old son over school. asked me to phone school to say he would be in for a couple ov hours. then had to re phone them to stipulate that a couple ov hours meant two hours! then decides he not goin at all because i mentioned the word world! tookhis game from him an remote for telly so he couldn't play them cos he won't go. to school. this led to him throwing stuff at me. pouring. shower cream down the stairs and throwing a glass bowl down the stairs. where will it end? should i just ov given in and let him play game while i went to work? or am i doin right in takin things off him if he won't go to school? he has aspergers

smiley k i wish i could show him your post! x

hi Justine. he has no interest in school whatsoever. all he says is they can't make me go. no one can make me do anything i don't want to. he has no goals for his future years. he just lives for today and its like banging your head against a brick wall tryin to get thru to him. he puts his hands over his ears and shakes his head.

thank you so much for your reply.it makes so much sense. i know he will always have his ways but just hope that this is a bad teenage phase on top ov it all. i guess all i can do is be there for him although he doesn't want me there or an where near him. its like sometimes you feel like he wants t open up then Summat just switches off and he then turns mouthy and aggressive. as far as he concerned he can just be left alone for the rest ov his life with no interaction with the outside world. its not just him i feel for but my other two children. we can't go anywhere cos we always have t get back for him cos i worry he hasn't eaten etc. i work part time which is gettin harder t keep up cos ov the constant battles over gettin him t school or eating etc. do i stop tryin t make him go to school and just let him sleep his life away? i can't physically take him there. no one seems to have any advice bout the school thing. hes happiest when hes left alone in his room wit his game. do i just leave him to it? as i said before he acknowledges no body and says he hasn't got family and were just all randomers who pretend to be family. he comes out with the strangest ideas. i think him speaking to someone from mental health could be a good thing but i can't get him there

hi. I've only just joined this. my son is 14. and has just been diagnose with aspergers. he sounds exactly like your son. how have things been since!.?e

hi. im new to all this so please bear with me. my son is 14. and 3 professionals have agreed he aspergers. do we now receive somethin in writing to state this? and then what happens? he has an appointment soon for camhs which he is adamant he is not attending. the school have bent over backwards to help him. letting him go in for two hours a day and in a reduced class separate to the other classes but he. can go for weeks without attending.he. is very manipulative and angry at everybody and is very wilful. i am a single parent and he has two younger siblings who he regards as being no relation to him. his father. will not recognise anything is wrong with him. i just don't know how this situation will ever get any better if he won't accept help. he doesn't leave his room. has terrible sleeping and eating patterns. i fear for his future.