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Asun86

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  1. I think this sums it up for me also. I feel bad that I cannot expressive it effectively as I don't want others to think I'm cold and heartless. As for trying to lesser the emotions, I think it's just part of being human to feel such things but sometimes having too much empathy and compassion can get you caught up in things that you really need to walk away from. I guess the only way to really lesser that kind of feeling is to live and learn.
  2. I really enjoyed the snow this year, I miss it, it's really beautiful.
  3. Asun86

    Pets

    I have two Staffordshire bull terriers, walking them helps me keep fit, builds my confidence when outside and allows me to meet new people so I guess they mean quite a lot. I look forward to walking them now and tend to take them on at least 2 hours walking per day, in some way it's a therapy for me.
  4. Just this one and a car forum, I don't have the same car now but the people there was always up for a laugh.
  5. I find it difficult to believe that being Autistic has any direct affect on sexuality but in some weird way I feel being Autistic could have some indirect link to sexuality, basically we're attracted firstly by physical attraction and therefore to believe that Autism can directly affect that is out of the question in my mind. I wondered about my own sex drive and if it was linked to Autism, in the end I just came to the conclusion that it was just normal for a man of my age and found that a logical explanation seemed to fit such questions. So personally for me I just feel something along the lines of "An NT can experience this just the same" so have never put anything sexually related down to being Autistic. There has been some research I read but there wasn't enough to make it stick, it linked a sexually related topic to Autistic men and found it to be true of myself, so maybe there is something in nerve cells of the Autistic mind.
  6. I don't know know the background story about Jack but it's really nice to see your attitude is a positive one and one that is ready for the challenges ahead. I think the attitude of "bring it on" is kind of how I feel after getting diagnosed with ASD and would say it's probably the best way to be. All the best
  7. I find it really stressful so try not to think about it much. For me like Lizzy-Wilson, it's the being center of attention part, being given a present then knowing everyone's watching you to see what reaction you have when you open it. In some ironic way when I give out presents a thank you is more then enough but I seem to think people expect you sometimes to make a song and dance about the gift they got you but that's probably just in my head I enjoy the charity aspect of it though.
  8. Anything Roots Manuva, a pretty unique guy, rather weird in some respect but talks a lot of sense.
  9. I personally think aspects of the internet have just created allowance of stupidity. I don't think spending a 1 hour a day on something like facebook could have much of a negative affect, I think it's when people start to almost live on the internet, this is when they take things too seriously and forgot about what's really important in the real World. I think taking time away from the internet is healthy, is a massive World out there to explore.
  10. I think it's this massive build up to what really is 1 day that affects me the most, it's like there is some great expectation for Christmas and that the whole month of December is Christmas. I'm trying to be more social this year but so far I'm not coping to well, worrying about presents, cards, the crowds of people xD
  11. I guess I'm similar to water girl, I have a main interest which I've always been obsessed with but I go though stages for a "month or so" where I'm obsessive about a certain subject. My main obsession is that of your Son, cars ! I always had loads of little toy cars, I would arrange them in colours or arrange them based upon popularity. He sounds quite sweet I used to love ones that changed colour with heat and it sounds easy to buy him things for Christmas and Birthdays
  12. It was the 1st result on google. I wanted to be able to ask people about Aspergers Syndrome and the forum seemed to have a decent reply rate, after some looking around for other forums I found this one to be the best one so have stuck with it. I think the impact on me personally was positive, to read what others had written and be able to relate to it.
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    Any Gamers ?

    Basically I do enjoy gaming and wondered if there was any gamers on the site who would be up for some fun online. I personally use steam as I'm a Pc gamer, I wont post my ID yet as their might be 0 interest. But thought it might be good if people on PC, PS3 and XBOX360 had a little topic where they could swap info to have some Aspie gamer mates. All the best.
  14. What about Aspergers social groups ? Then you would meet people who were like minded. You say mid 30's like mid 30's is a time to put on your slippers and watch antiques roadshow but it's still very young. Everyone is different obviously, what kind of things do you like to do ? Maybe there is some location where other people have the same interests as yourself, I always find it helps to just put on a happy face and be polite. I have kind of hidden away from the World until I got my diagnoses, I wont let my Aspergers control and define my life to this 12 year old shy boy who never changed, 26 now and I could say "well I'm mid 20s and I don't have any friends, time to give up" No way, there is a life out there to be had and if I was mid 30's I would be thinking in the same positive way. I really hate to give advice, but when I see someone in the same situation, it's almost like I should tell them, because I would want someone to do the same for me, especially if they are in the process of over coming the same issues. keep your chin up !
  15. Hello there, I've been in a similar situation as yourself so thought I could offer a little advice or help maybe The medical issue, there is normally some way to resolve this, maybe you can take 1 or 2 weeks supply of anti depressants, revisit your gp and repeat and this way they can assess you each time. I to have no Autistic social group near me, but in 2013 there is one being opened, this has given me great hope, a chance to meet other Aspies, so for you I wondered where is your closest ? Maybe you can drive there or get someone to drive you, I see your location is in Farnborough and just from a quick search there is an Autistic trust in Basingstoke called the Basingstoke National Autistic Society and maybe this will be of some use. I hope so If that's totally useless there will be others but obviously the commute could get pretty hefty, but it might just be worth it so you can experience being around other people with Aspergers ! Grrrr, I don't want to be an ######, just take things in moderation, alcohol can be a real depressant in it's self. After about 50,000 attempts. . You have gone though a lot and you're still here fighting, you're asking for help and advice, all this is positive, not many people have to deal with depression, undiagnosed Aspergers when they're growing up and as recently diagnosed 26 year old I doff my hat to you ! Never give up hope !
  16. Well basically I have gone through the process of applying for this benefit after my GP has been giving me medical certificates ever since I was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome (Also for Depression), I've had to attend a back to work interview at an office in Croydon and recently got a letting saying this want me to go to the job center for an interview. This is causing me a lot of stress and I'm not really ready for it. I had a tumor in 2006 which has caused a lot of damage to my knee, I can't walk very far and have problems with my back. I have problems with depression, a few times I've tried to take my own life, most recent one was around 3 weeks ago and I have Aspergers, all the issues that brings with social anxiety, it's almost like they haven't really taken in to account anything I have told them. I'm a little bit lost in what I should be doing, what to expect, obviously I'm dreading going and the only reason I applied for Disability Living Allowance for my knee originally was to get away from the stress and anxiety of going to the job center constantly, so I had some income to survive. I don't have a support worker, maybe this interview will get me one ? I have no support yet for my Aspergers. So it's almost like I've gone around in a massive circle in the past 6 years, all to put me back in the horrible situation of huge anxiety.
  17. I guess for me personally it would be because I would have got bored of the cycle of stress and could only see one route to escape it.
  18. Asun86

    Hello there !

    Trekster, thanks for your welcome. I speak a bit of French and also a bit of German. I'm a big multi player gamer on the pc and enjoy games like L4D. Darkshine, I still remember a lot of routes and maps from old games as well, maybe it will be useful one day xD
  19. I have the issue of the original poster, I find it very hard to continue a conversation, I find the worst part of that is it's obvious to the other person that I'm unable to carry a conversation and therefore panic in my head, it's difficult for me to put it in to words but I guess someone reading this will be able to relate to me. Almost like I'm looking at myself from their point of view and trying to imagine what they are imaging when looking at me, I'm terrible at explaining things ! I have one good friend, he wasn't afraid when I told him I have Asperger's, he even said to me about a year before my diagnoses that I might have it, I think I'm a good judge of people and have been lucky in the past to have found decent people like my self as friends, I tend to find shy people make better friends in my experience, they seem loyal and caring and really value your friendship, not that someone who isn't shy can't be a great friend but from my experience personally it's been the case. Wrote too much again
  20. I'm a stronger person and proud of my autism, I'm stronger everyday without her and my autism is what has made me who I am, so thank you for your kind words. It's seen as a shameful thing in France to be autistic, you would never think a country in the EU would have such views, maybe some Medical professionals who are Autistic should round up some NT and torture them for good measure (Sarcastic joke )
  21. I finally got my letter to confirm my Aspergers Syndrome ! only took 10 weeks ! JustWilliam, you should present your case to your GP and directly ask for a Autistic Assessment. The problem with Aspergers if a lot of the sufferers don't feel able to directly ask for things and often get passed around, knowing deep inside what they want but talking ages to ask for it, so my advice is just go for it. Make an appointment, talk to your GP and say why you believe you have Aspergers. Good luck.
  22. My ex is French, she was disgraced when I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome and left me a week after, she claimed I had a disease that needed to be cured and that I wasn't normal, so yes I know first hand how the French see Autism and it's pretty shocking and old fashioned. The problem there is people don't get help with it because they are afraid of what will happen to them when they are diagnosed with Autism so they end up just hiding away and enter a World of depression, drug, alcohol abuse and all the problems those things bring.
  23. Thank you Sidewinder040, I registered to their site and will keep and eye out for local meets.
  24. I had this, what were my parents thinking ! I had a little villa with palm trees, was one of my favorite lego sets.
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    giving up

    Welcome to the forum Pwnzrd ! I often ask myself similar questions to which you have stated in your post. Speaking to other Aspies can really help as they can relate to you perfectly and you can feel better knowing the problems you face aren't just your problems but that of other people on the spectrum, like the old saying, you are not alone ! This really helps because some people are over coming them problems better then others and can offer very helpful advice. If you are depressed, then seek help. Sometimes it's better to go to the A & E department of your hospital (best to check they have a department for mental health first) and have a little chat with a psychiatric nurse, they assess you and offer you treatment based upon what you tell them. If you do go to your GP with depression they will just offer some tablets without giving any information about the effects of depression and how it's best to combat your own depression so you might become a guinea pig for different medication, which isn't good. I worried too much about how society see's me and how the average worker would probably see me as a normal person and think I'm being a sponge on the benefits system, one of the effects of depression is lack of self worth, you feel like a burden sometimes, maybe you have this maybe you don't. Asperger's is of course a life long condition but it doesn't have to control you, there is a good life out there for all Aspies with the right help, I would say never give up hope, for example you are out of the house, going to pubs, playing music, you have done so much more with your life then I have with mine, I would personally say your doing pretty well for an Aspie but who am I'm to judge. I hope that I have been of some use to you. All the best.
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