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From what I've seen A-SW you're pretty active around here so I'd give you my vote. I agree with what was being said on the other thread about it being helpful to have people who are experiencing these things themselves moderating, maybe, alongside parents as well. There is the time old saying though that no one truly understands unless they've been through it themselves

Hello! Welcome... hopefully you'll find some useful info on here

Personally I don't understand the point of such a thing as when you take it off, no matter how great it works, your reality is still there :/ Nothing is going to help more than a healthy lifestyle, which is easier said than done I know. I also know first hand how evil side effects of medication are in regards to weight gain The thing is, is it not better for people to see the 'real' you rather than some super slimmed down version when it's not your reality? I agree re seeing your doctor if you're feeling this way and seeing if there is someone you can talk to about these issues.

Continue to learn about what my diagnosis of AS means for me Try not to let others get to me as much Focus on the positive and embrace what that could bring Try to have some sort of a life again!! I think that just about covers it

Hmm not really sure Nesf... Having now only a limited understanding of any I've learnt / tried to learn so far I might just revisit (last took Japanese in, ooh 1996!!) I feel old!!. It's having the time and the motivation though, as you say. I'm lucky to be awake by about 8.30 most nights after I've been in work. Pain gets to me by then with not sleeping much at night :/. Here's hoping this new year will bring me some respite in relation to that so that I can get a bit of a life back That said about languages I'm feeling quite keen to go and do a cake decorating course. At least that's be for a structured amount of weeks so I'd know they have to reach you the content in the specified amount of time

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Hello and welcome to the forum! Hope you find it useful

Hello and welcome to the forum! Hope you find it useful

Nesf, yeah I guess I have travelled a fair bit. I think being so isolated from travel when I was younger, living in Perth, made me intent on seeing more of the world. I remember being told that we'd need to know between 2500 - 3000 characters to even have a chance of understanding any part of a newspaper. I knew nowhere near that many!!! Not having learnt much Hungarian in a formal manner I'm not really sure how it would compare to Finnish in that sense. I seem to find that I see similarities in language though, whether that be in written or verbal form. One of my Norwegian friends used to struggle a little after I'd visit her. For the first few days she'd forget to speak English to me all the time, but then as she'd spend all her time thereafter speaking in English she would then fall into that mode even when speaking with Norwegian friends. I'm not surprised having conversations in different languages so closely together is confusing!!! It must be pretty cool to be able to do so though! I still keep thinking I might start learning another language again, but I need to stop feeling so tired all the time!! :/

My nephew (3) wants to watch the same things over and over again. It got to the point where he'd know things off by heart and could recite near enough a whole movie. He'd also know when the 'good' bits were coming and felt the need to tell us each time he was excited about it! We've started trying to limit the number of times he watches a movie, and have started getting him new ones for when he is here, even if they're in the bargain bin! He's absolutely obsessed with the movies Tangled and Puss in Boots, and Spongebob etc. He's not diagnosed but he sure shows traits, not least with this.

Sounds like how I felt when I got my diagnosis. I'd never even thought about it until it was suggested to me I might have AS in August / September of this year. It all really does start to make sense though when I sit and think about things. With the Hungarian it was more that I was traveling there so often and my friends were all being so kind and speaking in English that I felt I should try and learn. There was a stage though when I'd sit listening to them speaking Hungarian and I would answer in English... that was bizarre as I had no real comprehension in one sense that I knew what they were talking about but at the same time I could answer in the general flow of conversation... they thought it was most bizarre as well! I chose Japanese as we had a choice in our first year of Italian or Japanese, and living in Australia I felt that the latter would serve me well if I continued with it after high school. When we were learning the characters were were told it might be easier to remember them if we remembered little stories to go with them... some are still stuck in my head and I can write them at will, but I fear the rest of what I've learnt is locked away. I presume that if I was to go over old books or start learning again it might all start coming back. With Finnish, again it was something I thought would be cool to learn and also nice to be able to try and at least converse a little with my friends. I've picked up bits and pieces along the way, but it was rather amusing when my 'teacher' decided in front of the class that I knew far more than I was letting on. Looking back I think it was probably more a case of understanding more than even I realised, with having spent so much time around people who still spoke Finnish when I was around them. The same probably goes for Norwegian, if I'd tried to learn that properly I'd have probably had a good grounding a couple of years ago as I spent so much time in Oslo. Ahhhh it's amazing how our brains work (or don't work at times!)!! On a side note, I do believe that Hungarian is one of the hardest languages to learn, but I think Finnish would probably be also as it is part of the Finno-Ugric languages. I guess Japanese it quite hard to learn too... nothing like trying to make things hard for myself eh!

I didn't think I'd use the term aspie, but found myself referring to myself as such last night in a post on here. I do think it fit the feel of what I was saying though. I'd not be likely to use it outside of a forum where people knew what it meant though, if I ever do use it again.

Can't say that I really fit with that.. Looking back I remember being obsessed with dolphins and wanting to work with then. Then there was the whole 'Egypt' thing where I needed to read everything I could. If a particular assignment hit a note with me at school I'd run with it and want to know all I could, I remember wanting to know all there was about thylacines, and unfortunately no Internet when I was working on this stuff so had limited info, didn't make me happy!! I was very into photography for about ten years or so. Started out being asked if I'd like to photograph a well known singer's gig and realised I loved doing this. Previously I'd only really taken a point and shoot camera to shows. Having been bitten by the bug I bight a better camera and started photographing more and more bands, many if them local in the beginning. People then started telling me my work was good and I started doing more and more. The fact I was shooting gigs officially afforded me the opportunity to see the shows from completely different perspectives and the Aspie in me was relieved as I didn't have to stand in the crowds (one of my least favourite places to be). However, if no barrier was there I literally suffered to get the shots. Sadly I had to give up the photography last year due to pain from a physical condition but while it lasted I almost fooled myself into believing I had a discuss life Have never liked taking promos as font like directing people, and landscapes, people photog etc just never really interested me :/

Hi William, welcome to the forum. Good on you for posting... I know how daunting it can all seem. I've recently been diagnosed as having Aspergers and feel that I'm doing ok although now I think that perhaps done people who know about it think I'm, for want of a better word, thick!! Sounds like you are studying some really interesting stuff there. I hope that when you go back next year things will be easier for you as it'd be shame for you not to finish. I think asking for help is one of the hardest things to do, the next would be being able to accept it. It is something that maybe we all need to try to be a little better at though as I'm sure our lives would be a lot easier!! I'm not a very social person and have few friends. I've been used by many who call themselves friends but no longer associate with them. My social life, as such, used to revolve around photographing metal gigs. I love metal music, although I must say I'm quite partial to some that definitely doesn't fit that category!! I used to love getting out to gigs but only if I was photographing them, and now realise why!! The not having to interact too much or actually be in the crowd suited me to the ground! Sadly now though I can't shoot gigs as the pain from another semi- diagnosed issue makes it unbearable. Anyway, welcome again, and I hope the forum can help you in some way

Hi Nesf, welcome Sorry to read that you've been going through a lot recently, I do hope that things have turned a corner for you though and it all starts to get better from now on. What a truly fabulous gift you have though!! I do rather envy those who can pick up a language(s) so quickly, though I do believe, if I put my mind to it, I'd not do too badly myself. I studied Japanese for five years whilst in highschool and did pretty well. I also started picking up some Hungarian as I travelled to Budapest for a bit. Then I decided I wanted to teach myself Finnish or Norwegian. Ended up going for Finnish but took some classes, which were too sporadic for my liking. Still think I'd like to teach myself, or go to proper classes, but need the time to focus!!!

Hello! I wouldn't let your diagnosis put you off re the music industry... I have spent a lot of time in and around the metal scene for years up until last year and I don't think having Aspergers was a huge disadvantage. Granted I mostly did photography, with some interviewing etc. If music is your passion you'll find a way to make it work

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I'm trying to be positive about my diagnosis, however late it is, but there are times when I can't help but think what life might have been like if I'd had a diagnosis when I was younger. That said, I don't suppose it's been around as a diagnosis long enough for it to have made any difference to me at school / college etc. I guess there is some grief / sadness etc that perhaps I'd not have had to experience some of the rubbish times at work etc that I have but on the other hand I can look at my life and think, 'wow, I got through it all' and without even knowing what was going on. Things can only get better right!?!

Hello! From what you've said it sounds like it might be a good idea to try and get a diagnosis, given that they can tailor your treatments / support around it if you find you have a diagnosis. Good luck!!

Hello... I'm new around here and was diagnosed myself with Aspergers, rather than being a parent of a child with a diagnosis. I've found it very useful just reading lots and lots of posts on here and more recently decided to sign up and post myself. Hope you manage to find some answers while you're here

Hello and welcome! I'm pretty new around here but have already read quite a bit and found it very useful. Hope you enjoy your time here and more so that you manage to discover more when you visit your parents

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Hi I've been reading through the forum for a few weeks now and thought it was about time I plucked up the courage to make a post. I have always thought I was 'weird' compared to most people I've come across in life and found that I tended to fit in with those that didn't fit what society deemed normal, metal bands etc. I'll occasionally get on really well with colleagues but more often than not I'd really just feel like the odd one out. I had no idea why I was left feeling this way and put it down to many reasons, like not wanting children, not having a husband, the fact I photographed rock / metal bands whilst the day job was a medical secretary, being Australian and trying to fit in here... You name it and I've sat there and wondered if any of it could be a reason for, well, anything. So anyway, long story short I saw a psychologist about something completely unrelated and was asked if I'd like to see someone who specialised in Aspergers as they thought I had it. A couple of weeks later and I got my diagnosis. This was in September so it's all very new and at 34 it was like a bolt from the blue, although if I'm honest not that much of a shock when I actually sat and thought about it. Looking back I can see so many things that would now point to a diagnosis even from very early on in my childhood but of course, I'm just that bit too old to have been diagnosed as a child. I'm relieved that I now know though as I don't have to feel 'weird' anymore and can finally start understanding more about what actually makes me tick I'm impressed with the amount of support you guys all offer each other and have found it truly enlightening and have learnt so much already just from looking around these forums and various other websites. I look forward to spending some time around here