thomas79

Hi there Thank you for your message it was very helpful I know I sound pathetic but I'm hope to be about to become fully fluent in my understanding of not only Aspergers but also myself. I'm from Hertfordshire I've looked online I'm 33 I was hoping to find a group or something that would be best to deal with me I'm not sure how to explain it. Thanks for your tip on where to look when talking to people I'm going to try it. I work in an office it's a finance house but not like a high street bank we only do finance for the automotive industry. I'm not sure if the company I work for would be happy with me saying the name of it but its very very well known all over the world and I have worked for them for 10 years but its always been so hard to walk into the office with so many people there I now understand the reason why. So much to learn about myself but thank you for answering I really mean that. Regards Thomas

Hi firstly thanks for your answer much appreciated. I looked on google so much information it's overwhelming. Eye contact and communication are very big issues. Anxiety about so many things, communication is so essential for my work and I get so stressed trying to communicate with people. I feel like I've so much to add to conversations and a an never do it. Any help in these areas would really be useful.

Hi Sorry I am very new here, I found out last year through diagnosis that Aspergers is a part of my life. The diagnosis was in June and only since the start of this year have I tried to accept it. I was very angry and upset that I lived for 33 years without knowing why I seemed so different to everyone else. I never thought I would let it make a difference but my girlfriend who is Italian and who has learned so much about Aspergers and completely accepted it knows that i have not faced it. The truth is I feel extremely vulnerable about it and don't really know what to do. I've have a little help but I rejected so much help. Overall I guess I'm saying I put on a front and tried to ignore it I don't really know why but I know that life must offer more than I'm feeling. Can anyone please suggest some first steps to learn about and best manage my Aspergers. I know everyone is different but there must be common methods of management that would help ? Anyone that can help would be much appreciated Regards Thomas