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chriss

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  1. Does he like football? I read a Luke Jackson book where he talks about football and how being a fan can help people with ASD bond with others. My son (8) is a Liverpool fan and even though he is incapable of sitting down long enough to watch more than 5 minutes of any match he gets a lot out of it. We live on Merseyside, so lots of his peers are LFC supporters and it gives him a sense of belonging, and as he gets older it will give him a topic of conversation with other men that, hopefully, won't bore them silly. As Luke says "when is an obsession not an obsession?" "when it's football!" By the way I always tell my son when Liverpool have won, so he can bask in reflective glory, but if I can get away without telling them they have lost I keep mum so he isn't downcast.
  2. You can argue that anybody who commits murder has a personality disorder. I find this kind of case devastating and I doubt very much if the expert witnesses in this case have delved very far into the history of these offenders.
  3. I got a shock when I read this thread as it put me in mind of my ex, who is my son's father. When we went to pubs or clubs he was forever going back to the bar saying his glass was dirty and there were some places he wouldn't set foot in as he said they were unhygenic. When I cooked for him he would examine the cutlery and crockery. I used to get very hurt by this. He has also offended my family and freinds by doing it in their homes too. He doesn't have a diagnosis and is unlikely to get one as he thinks there is nothing wrong with his behaviour. He also doesn't think there is anything wrong with our AS/OCD son ! The only thing I can suggest is cognitive behavioural therapy, i.e. trying to swap the negative thoughts he has with more positive ones. For example, explain how the dish washer works to get things super clean or by emphasising that eating healthily is more important than anything else in keeping himself well and it is very,very rare that anyone gets ill from cutlery. Is he learning some of this behaviour from anyone else? My ex has told our son not to touch handles in toilets with his bare hands as they are covered in germs. Sometimes there is no way round this so it has created major problems for us. I have told my son that daddy isn't always right about germs...
  4. I found a piece online about identical twins. One was left-handed and the whirl of the hair on her crown went in one direction, her twin was right handed and the whirl went in the opposite direction. Wierd! Apparently, the way your hair falls on it's crown can be connected to whether you are left or right handed. Some times (but not always ) children with double crowns can be ambidextrous and the hair in each of their crowns goes in opposite directions. I also found an old wives tales page which says double crowns are said to be the sign of a traveller or prosperity or a long life. Amazing what you can find online isn't it?!
  5. I definitely understand how "stoppage" works. For me having a baby that seemed to be awake 24/7 was a highly effective form of contraception!
  6. I found the double-crown thing interesting. So I googled "double crown" hair neurological. And there is a link between double crowns and ASDs and ADHD!
  7. You could try a gyropen. They are about 3 pounds in WHSmiths. I think they are the sloped pens mentioned above. My son is having some success with his mostly because you can see what you are actually putting on the page more clearly than you can with an ordinary pen or pencil.
  8. Clare63 my son has a double crown and long thick eye lashes too!
  9. He writes with his right hand but uses both hands for anything else including colouring. When we play games like tennis he swaps his racket from hand to hand and plays equally well (or should I say badly!) with either.
  10. Thanks for your replies . I think it might be the case that if I got an IEP at my son's school it wouldn't really be worth the paper it is written on as they don't really recognise the problem. It might be worth contacting the Ed Psych if only to ask for suggestions of how I can help him deal with things by talking them through at home, and possibly to see if they can spur the school into helping him too.
  11. Thanks for your reply Di. I know what you mean about break times. I think about him all the time whilst he as school and dread what he is going to say when he comes home. I can't work because to put him in after school or breakfast club would destroy him as he has enough to cope with as things are. I have got nowhere with the Ed Psych in the past. He spent 2 minutes observing him in class and said "are you sure he has Asperger's?". Luckily that fool has retired now so it might be worth seeing his replacement. But it is just like banging your head against a wall. The school doesn't want to admit he is having problems because then they would have to help him - at the moment it easier for them to turn a blind eye. Do you think the social skills bit on his IEP makes a difference?
  12. Hi Suzie-Girl, Good to see you on here! I'm a single mum too and it can be so hard and so lonely. I have a 7 year old with As and I love him to bits.
  13. Can I just ask parents of children in mainstream education if their children have IEP's which mention social skills? My son is struggling with this and despite being in a class of 37 he is very lonely. Can I ask them to give him an IEP which includes help with sociaisation and if so will it make any difference to anything? He is doing well academically but his self-esteem is disappearing fast. Has anyone got any ideas as to what I can suggest to the school to help him fit in better? At the moment I feel as if the fact that he has Asperger's is ignored.
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