Hi thanks for replying , I hope we dont divorce its been twenty years this year we have four kids two with special needs (I have a younger daughter with down syndrome ) it's like we have drifted apart , I just can't imagine life not living with my children I am also very close to my son ,my older two daughters have flown the nest lol , she says she won't make it difficult and wants me in the kids lives ...... Maybe we do a open thing who knows