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About mumtoadozen

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  • Birthday 05/18/1971

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    Forensic science. Passed my level one diploma with honours, level two diploma with highest honours and near completion with my level three.
    Enrolled on a BSc Honours for Criminal and psychological studies with the OU starting in October.
    In my spare time I'm a homeschooling mum with a passion for all things crafty.
  1. No I had my assessment at the with the clinical psychologist at the adult mental health team unit, the lady I saw is specialised in adult diagnosis for ASD. I did the questionnaires and even took the ones I had done. She would be unable to do anything that involved my parents as neither are a part of my life, and even if they were they wouldn't have any concept of my early development as I was raised for the first five years by my grand parents and great grandmother, all no longer with us I'm afraid. I know from the word of my grandparents that I was a chatterbox from an early age so that confirmed for her that it wasn't HF autism.
  2. Call it quads......I can relate to all of the above Just recently received my diagnosis of Aspergers and ADD. Fortunately I married someone on the spectrum so I've been able to maintain a relationship that is built on understanding whilst my own parents disowned me lol. It's great to be among like-minded fellows here
  3. Hi Gina I'm a 42 year old Aspie I can relate to a lot of what you've said and only have two close female friends (though in honesty I'm a tad tomboyish and so are those two friends so it helps) Hope to get to know you better Chell
  4. Hi Chris and welcome I'm 42 and can relate to an awful lot of what you write (though your combine harvester was my shark obsession lol) and I don't 'do' people, though I have overcompensated by having 12 children, though kids are easier to get along with than adults if you ask me :/ I received my 'official' diagnosis last Friday and was actually told by the clinical psychologist that really, if you 'know'..... you know, especially having other diagnosis' in the family. I've always been someone who researches and has to have answers so for me, seeking an official dx was just me being me, my husband on the other hand knows he's on the spectrum but doesn't need to have that official intervention as it changes nothing (lawd am I making sense?) You sound like a very interesting, in control person and I hope you gain as much as I have from these very helpful people
  5. After only a couple of weeks between Dr apt and triage telephone appointment with the mental health team, I had my appointment with the clinical psychologist last Friday. There was a bit of a confusion to begin with as the GP had given the impression I was Bi-Polar for whatever assumptions she had to do that, but, after showing her the printed off results for the AQ test and completing her own evaluations, I have been given the dx of Aspergers with ADD. It's taken time to sink in and I've gone through a myriad of emotions, anger being the predominant one as I've been ostracised by my own parents for being 'different'. Both divorced when I was about 18mths, dad had nothing to do with me, mother lied and never told me about my biological father until I was 15 then at 19 I found him, yadda yadda yadda. But, I know it's because of my inability to deal with pressured situations that I retaliate, push people away to sacrifice the option of being hurt and this is what I find difficult to cope with. I'm wanting to amend things with my dad, there's no hope with my mother, we just clash. Anyway, does anyone think it's worth disclosing my diagnosis with my dad? Not that I'm looking at it as to 'excuse' my behaviour, just explain and educate him into why I am the way I am............does that make sense? I've got a lot I'm trying to accept with this 'official' diagnosis and though it's a long time coming, and not totally unexpected, before was really a case of just questioning myself and putting my behaviours and traits down to just being 'quirky' and 'bad'. I dunno, guess getting it off my chest with people who do 'get it' is something I need to do.
  6. I saw an article on the BBC news website and wondered what people's views are on it. I know myself it's been a bit of a battle to get my doctor to refer me for an assessment, based purely on her assumption that it's generally a male disorder and because 'I could keep eye contact' (when I was actually focussed on the bridge of her nose) my issues were biological as far as my anxiety was concerned. Needless to say I had full bloodwork done all of which came back normal. I'm just wondering if any other ladies here have had the same difficulties getting a diagnosis and what your opinions are in regards to this article. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-23613816
  7. So as the title says I received my son's report from the community paed. Funny how seeing it in black and white makes it an emotional read. He's stated as having a neurodevelopmental disorder with signs of hypersensitivity, temper outbursts, fine and gross motor skills are delayed more than his other skills, signs of autism spectrum disorder with aspects of hyper activity and inattention! All this I'm trying to get my head around Added to this, she has made reference to his face being impassive with only one note of him smiling in response to several social smiling prompts, his greeting behaviours were on prompting from me (don't know if that is good or bad). His understanding of instruction and language was at a level above his chronological age (he's 4). There seems to be reference to him being on the 75th centile for height and weight and his head being on the 98th.....don't know if there is a relevance to that :/ His hypermobility extends to his ankles, knees, elbows, shoulders, wrists and hips, he's flat footed and clumsy when he runs. Ball skills reasonable, no visual or hearing concerns, and his pencil skills are delayed significantly as he could not draw a person, write any letters of his name and could only copy a circle. A lot of thigs have been highlighted that we weren't aware of, especially with his flat feet and his hypermobility, he scored 5/9 on the Beighton score with the hospital paed but that was back, elbows, knees, thumbs and fingers, we weren't aware it had extended to his hips, wrists and shoulders. Just wondering now if his gastric issues are all interlinked with it Just a bit dumbfounded and lost at the minute I think :/
  8. Thanks Starlight I've purchased Look me in the eye as it seems quite up my street I also bought Running with scissors because it was one of those 'other people also bought....' and the synopsis was appealing Should keep me busy for a while lol Chell
  9. My son's ADOS appointment is booked for the 21st November At least we are moving forward. Thing is, my head can't handle walking in unaware of what happens so can anyone who is experienced of this please tell me what we are to expect. Many thanks Chell
  10. I'm sorry to post again, I'm a bit of a chatter when I need answers (only on internet though) Ever since my son has received his initial diagnosis, I've found myself soul searching more than usual with my own issues and wondering if I have some form of ASD. Now I do have an appointment with GP and to be honest I have always ridiculed my own quirks and 'specialness' so it's not a case of diagnosing myself to 'fit the criteria' iykwim? I do find that some of the areas do not fit with my persona because from an early age things were drummed into me to 'conform'. So eye contact, although it severely pains me to do it, I make a point of trying to hold as my father always told me that only sly people with things to hide will not look you in the eye. But looking back there are things I can remember that would stand me aside from other children my age, I hated and still do, social situations, I would try to sink back into oblivion so no one would notice me, I'd have little rituals, get extremely frustrated if people would upset my routine, would isolate myself and scream into my pillow when things got too much (the list could possibly go on but I've blocked a lot of my memories because of things that went on as a child with family separation) Over the years I've learned to internalise my frustrations, to a point that if it things overwhelm me I withdraw into myself because if I were to scream, shout and lash out as my instinct wants me to do, it would be detrimental to my kids seeing that.............but would someone with ASD have that ability to control? So I question myself again Yet I still have traits in me that I can see in my son. At 42 I still use comforters to calm myself, especially (and this one is embarrassing) a pair of baby cords that I rub because I love the feel, this I know I can link back to being a child with a candlewick bedspread who loved the feel and texture, but wash them and the frustrations build up if they have not been tumbled to softness. I have to make sure all the light switches are in the right position before I go to bed. Certain smells, textures and sounds are unbearable. I cut my food and place into piles that are all equal but will smell it before I eat it (that one drives my husband mad so we rarely go out for a meal). I use aids that take me back/remind me of good calming episodes in my life (which makes me a hoarder because I emotionally attach to inanimate objects), I fixate on certain things like sharks and forensics and arrange things in asymmetrical/alphabetical order or research something until I've exhausted every avenue to find an answer, I hate change to the point it brings on severe anxiety........another list that goes on. For years I've put all of my issues down to depression and anxiety. The gp referred me for CBT which worked for a short time and I walked away with added diagnosis' of social anxiety, acute panic and borderline agoraphobia. I guess I'm just trying to look for something to connect me to my son on a deeper level and clutching at straws...I don't know, just a ramble to look back over I guess
  11. Thank you all for your advice, I very much appreciate it
  12. I'm wondering if any of you guys can recommend any good books about ASD's. I'm a HUGE reader of biographies rather than information/advice based writings (my head absorbs more by the experiences of others unless I'm reading for my coursework) At the moment I'm hovering over a few by Temple Grandin but can't decide which one I'd like to read first. I have purchased Raising Cubby and Twirling Naked in the street and no one noticed which are written by authors who were diagnosed later in life. Many thanks Chell
  13. Hi again, not stalking you I promise My son is homeschooled with his four older sisters and most of his beneficial learning is with his tablet, he loves interacting with the games etc. He is also extremely tech minded and is always more focussed when he's on some form of device. I believe that it's something to do with lots of things to focus on (that is what has been suggested anyway) but all I know for sure is it does seem to help him take in more information learning wise :/ I'm sure some of these other lovely people will have better answers for you.
  14. Hi there and nice to meet you I'm new here too after my son (4yrs) was diagnosed with High Functioning Autism last Tuesday. I can truly empathise with the mood swings, it's the most upsetting and frustrating part for us because we just don't know how to help him I hope to get to know you better
  15. Hi Luch To be honest we seem to have been thrown in at the deep end with a dx but no definition of procedure (if there is such a thing) just a 'wait for apt with OT, physio and for ADOS' The biggest brick wall we have faced is from the HV, she just turned up at his appointment with no warning or invitation for a start and she's quite an intimidation for me. So covering his literalness was not brought up along with a few other relevant things as I could feel her burning me with every answer and example I brought up as if she didn't know, which in fairness she didn't because I've dealt with a nursery nurse since he was born as she takes over most of the workload. The problem is because I suffer from severe anxiety and depression and we lost our 11th child to a stillbirth at 40+4 she has put my son's issues down to that and wrote an awful referral, thank god his keyworker had witnessed more of his behaviour/quirks/meltdowns to realise there was an underlying cause (plus she has a son with very similar traits that is officially diagnosed) I have no clue about SALT but will look into that along with everything else you have suggested. Thank you ever so much for your insight
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