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The benefits wouldn't be for me as a carer, I work full time and my parents are 73yrs old and retired. My brother wasn't saying he would take his own life, he was saying my mom should I know there isn't anything "wrong" with him, it was just a figure of speech, he is not well at the moment, believe me I know that or after the things he ha said and done to us, I would have turned my back on him a long time ago. I am his sister and I love him x

I have booked a telephone appointment with my dr, I know he can't tell me anything about my brother, but I need to get this logged somewhere and I will see what he has to say. I know he stopped taking the steroids because he has gone much smaller, at one point he looked huge, his pupils would be dilated, sweating, figity etc. He will mess with stimulants he said too, trouble is he tends to lie alot, so I never know exactly what he is taking. Does anyone claim any benefits on here, I really want to get him some financial help before he loses his home Apparently my mom just told me, he was talking about me to her, saying there is nothing wrong with him, and she stuck up for me, which is why he's gone off on one. Thanks for the replies, writing it down for him is a good idea, I might do that over the weekend, try and get my sister to meet with us, because I am afraid he might hit out at me x

Hello I am from the UK, near Birmingham, Midlands. Things have got worse, he was threatening my mom over the phone midnight last night, saying she should be careful if he see's her out and why doesn't she take an overdose. I really don't know where to turn here

Hi there I am 32yrs old, the youngest. I am pretty sure my brother has Aspergers, though I have not had the bottle to suggest this to him yet. Things are getting worse, so I needed to join this forum to hopefully get some advice. This is so hard to explain, I don't even know where to start He struggled through school, had few friends, had a great sense of humor but a horrible temper. He was/is brilliant with electricals, he was always taking things apart and putting them back together again. Tv's, remote control cars, remote planes etc. This is still a major hobby of his. He has had probably 40 jobs since leaving school, mostly factory, temp jobs, he will get bullied or sacked. I got him a job once where I work, so i got to see why he cannot keep a job. If you ask him to do something, he quickly gets distracted by something else, he was always breaking things, he tried welding and I was told he was trying to start little fires on the welding bench. He would stare at people, or talk to them for a long time, and not be interested in anything anyone spoke about, he would come to me and tell me how he was being picked on by my friends, (which i know is untrue, because he accuses me, my sister, mom and dad of the same) He comes across very arrogant to people, overly confident, if anyone says anything negative he would get very aggressive. He is always getting into debt, my parents have paid so much in the worry he will get evicted from his flat, they are 73yrs old and cannot have him move back in with them, because he is terrible to live with (I know that sounds nasty but its true) Heres some of my brothers symptoms His social skills are very awkward, he talks non stop about how things work, uses long words and phrases, asks inappropriate questions, his mind is permanently racing with thoughts - you can see him thinking intensely he is very slobbish in his ways, messy Paranoia If I cry to him, he has no emotion No friends Eye contact is avoided, if I look into his eyes too much, he will frown at me, and ask what is wrong He is very affectionate (at times) likes to cuddle his mom, like child like Moods vary massively Uses very long complex words, talks to me like I am a child, gets annoyed if I look like I am not taking in what he is saying Monotone voice , but not always Cannot sit still When family are together, he will sit there silent If we take him out for a meal, he will sit frowning, looking around at others, he looks paranoid He will often call me a few hours after seeing him, asking "What did you mean when you said that, are you making fun of me, I am a very handsome, clever man, I won't have people bullying me" Doesn't understand when a joke his told, will look at us blankly Talks about himself all the time Does not appreciate all the money we give him, I spent £50 last week on gas and electric for him, 2hrs later, had a text accusing me of stealing money from him No manners He sometimes is inappropriate towards me, via texts, eg, calls me sexy, babe etc. very sensitive I could go on, I cannot think of everything at the moment because it all really upsets me, my mom is terrified about what will happen when she is not around, he will of course have me, but what if he loses his flat etc:( I love my brother, so please don't think I am impatient and not understand, I have read alot about this, I am always there when he needs me. I woke up a few days ago to 16 messages on whatsapp, here's a few things he wrote.... "I love you sister, however, I would advise you not talking to me like a child, adolescent, teenager, Confident I would prefer, ... also I know that the general condense for the female alliance is...Is to make lads feel like infidels or underlings" That above was following me being on the phone to him for an hour, because he was crying to me, saying he didn't want to feel like this anymore, and I was comforting him, saying everything would be ok, and that I was there for him always. He reads in depth on Wiki about drugs, and will take them. He says he is/was taking stimulants ans steroids as he is heavily into building his body. Thank you, this is really upsetting, I hope I can get some help for him x