DCLehnsherr

Hi, My name is Dranz, and I guess the main reason i am here is because, after several years of having a title and little else, I decided it is time I came to understand that having AS is normal and isn't something I should hate! I was diagnosed in my last year of university after struggling against the social aspects and the fact i just couldn't manage to be like everyone else no matter how hard I forced it. One thing led to another and I ended up seeing a counsellor who knew about Aspergers from an affected family member, and she recommended I get checked out. In under a year I was given a piece of paper and a title and sent on my way. Several house moves, other things and a nice diagnosis of bipolar disorder later and we hit today where I remain just as confused about everything as I was at university! My main issues are definitely relationships (don't get it), friendships (everyone seems to move on while I stay in one place), and just being myself. I hate outside noise of pretty much any type, but music is the worst. I spent most of my spare time alone, though I do know I am better off when I am with my sisters. I have a job for which I am beyond thankful for, but am terrified of losing daily and my biggest obstacle is definitely balancing my loner inclinations with seeing another world and coming to terms with the fact it won't be mine. My biggest strengths and guiding lights are my adorable little sisters (both over 12 years younger). I am probably only alive because they were around and helped me feel some acceptance in the darkest hours, even now <3 I adore chickens, Japan (most recently in the form of a random obsession with Oda Nobunaga!) and dream to have a house in the middle of nowhere with no noise, no neighbours and a heck of alot of feathered friends who don't care that there are days when the mind just will not cooperate enough to listen to their idiocy. And despite this being a little ranty I really am a lovely person Pleased to meet you all. Dranz

Hi Tsukimi, It will probably sound really strange, but it was a relief to read this post and the replies to it as this reflects my feelings perfectly. I have had noisy neighbours in all the houses I have lived in, and it has impacted badly each time. In my current flat it comes from both Flat 1 which is in my building, and a building across the road (which amazes me, I can't comprehend why anyone would wnat their music that loud!) and while I complained to the landlord more than once it got to the stage where he pretty much said that Flat 1 can do whatever they want as long as it didn't go on past midnight. I was infuriated, but moving again is a step too far (I have moved 4 times in the past couple of years) so I am having to learn to just handle it. The main way I try to do this is headphones (I can't use earplugs without extreme pain in my right ear so they are nightime last resort only). I bought some noise cancelling headphones and a long extention lead and use them to watch TV programs because it cancels out a lot of the noise. I have the TV turned up louder because I know it won't annoy anyone. If I am on the laptop I need to use my MP3 player because any idea of noise anywhere makes me paranoid and distracted. Alas if it happens when I need to sleep then I just have to try and turn off the anger, but it isn't easy. These days I tend to imagine I am living somewhere poor where rules are different and noise is just natural. It came from watch TV on BBC2 and hearing constant noise in the background as they were doing interviews. I tend to imagine I am those people and this is the stage I am at before I move up in the world and get my own house. If that doesn't work then it is the earplugs because not sleeping makes me dangerous irate the next day It is probably a dumb idea, but is it possible your room could be switched for one without that connecting wall? The one thing I have always done when I have discovered I have a noisy neighbour is moved myself to a part of the house furthest away. It isn't always easy (and I was foiled here because the landlord put a huge hole in the wall so avoid mould - I don't open the windows because of the noise from across the road and cars etc -) but it is an option. Failing that I wholeheartedly recommend headphones :-) I wish you tonnes of luck, and remember it won't always be that way. Kind regards, Dranz