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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

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  1. Aspie meet ups

    A few members have expressed interest in an aspie meet up for members in their respective regions. I've always thought this is a brilliant idea to unite aspies around the country and would like to spark some interest. Now this is all just ideas and obviously nothing is concrete yet, but with enough support and planning I see no reason why this couldn't go ahead. I think meet ups should be organised in a way that requires as little travelling as possible as quite a few aspies find travel stressful. Therefore the meet ups would ideally be organised into county or, in the case of larger, more densely populated counties, organised by county borough. The actual town or city in which a meet up is held would be decided by vote to be as fair as possible. Members within a region would volunteer to organise their meet up - this could be done by just one member or more, depending on how many people volunteer. Of course, a big priority would be on safety of the members. I was thinking that the 'safety in numbers' approach would be best for something like this - I think there would have to be a minimum of four members per meet up to ensure the safety of other members. I'm not saying anyone on this forum is dangerous or anything like that, I just want to ensure that no one gets hurt. Activities-wise, this would be up to the organisers of each local meet up and maybe decided by vote? Ideally the activities would not be somewhere too busy or crowded as this may upset some members. So what does everything think of this idea? Feedback is very welcome, provided it's constructive. I would be up for organising a Kent or southeast meet up if any other members were interested.
  2. Okay this thread is probably going to create a lot of controversy and debate but I have to say this. Does anyone else think that Western/white culture (I say 'white' because Western culture is almost entirely controlled by white people) is the major cause of humanity's problems? Rampant capitalism that causes people to step on anyone they see as less than them, constant stress and no rest, gossiping about each other and turning us against each other - all very white ideologies. Other cultures still actually have a concept of community, but what do we have? Nothing. We live in huge, anonymous cities where hardly anyone knows each other. Friendships now revolve around work. This is not healthy! And yet we are expected just to deal with it, act as if it's a natural progression of humanity when in reality, it's the fault of various global corporations being too greedy. And who is in charge of these corporations? White people, or at the very least people of different races who have become indoctrinated with the white way of life. What are your thoughts on this?
  3. Recently the Jobcentre put me on some work experience working for them helping out customers on the computer. Yesterday I found out I also have to promote this new online 'work programme' devised by a company whose directors I strongly suspect are friends with top government officials. It is designed for 16-24 year olds and I have had to experience the online programme myself. Unfortunately, it is so patronising and cringeworthy and I fear all I am doing is being made to promote something to help a huge international business for free. I am honestly not sure I can go through with this - every moral fibre in my body is screaming 'no!'. The trouble is, if I refuse then my JSA will be stopped and I will have no money. I am actively looking for work but really need my JSA until I get a job. I am so torn - do I sell my soul to the government just to get JSA? Or do I listen to my conscience and back out?
  4. I am quite interesting in the idea of setting up a support group for people with ASDs in my area, as there is currently nothing like this within a 30 mile radius. I was just wondering if anyone has done this themselves, and if so, if they can give me any pointers. I want to give something back to the community after years and years of taking. I also want to do this for myself, as my life is so very empty and currently has no meaning. I know it makes the whole thing slightly self-centred in concept, but if it helps other people, why not?
  5. So apparently thousands of students protested in London against rising tuition fees today. It's very fishy how the media rarely reports on these things until they're actually happening... And surprise surprise, the media focus is on the minority of protesters who turned violent rather than the cause behind the protest. Did anyone know about the protest prior to today? Anyone take part in it?
  6. I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but what are everyone's thoughts on a stickied thread dedicated to friendships and dating? Other forums I have been a member had similar threads and they did get members together. It might be an easier way for members to find aspies in their local area to meet up with and develop real-life friendships with as opposed to everything being online. So, what do people think of this?
  7. Aspie meet ups

    No, it's realistic to say the idea has died. Huge difference. Read through the topic and you'll find that no one is agreeing on anything and there's little practicality involved
  8. Aspie meet ups

    I think the whole idea has died. There simply aren't enough people interested and no one agrees on anything. Every idea that has been put forward has been shot down by somebody else and no solutions have been decided on. I think it's best to just let the idea die while it still has some dignity
  9. a delux apartment in the city or a poor cabin in the woods?

    I like my peace and quiet too but I couldn't live without other people around me so I'm gonna go for the luxury apartment. I may not be always that good with social interaction but I do enjoy it a lot when it's with people I have things in common with. There's the career aspect of it, too - many more jobs in the cities than in the country. I don't think I'd cope well with not working, despite having social anxiety
  10. Post something positive that happened to you today

    I'm on day four of my workouts. It sounds like a tiny amount but I am immensely proud of myself and am already beginning to feel the difference
  11. Aspie meet ups

    Yes, you can just communicate with text. It can all be quite private
  12. VBO Issues

    I know this is not at all helpful, but how can Minecraft have so many issues with rendering? The Source and Unity engines seem to have far less issues with rendering and yet they're far more complicated than a load of cubical blocks with (presumably) 8 bit textures
  13. Aspie meet ups

    An absolutely sterling idea, Matzoball! I've added my Skype name to my profile too. Anyone can add me if they like, although I'm not great with voice or video calls at the moment
  14. Feeling free!

    1. Mihaela


      That sounds... liberating! :)


  15. holding on to bad memories....

    I do this all the time. I don't know if it's Asperger's or low self esteem that causes it though I'm afraid
  16. One word association

    Physics A term that will only be understood by gaming nerds such as myself, 'ragdoll physics' refers to the simulation of limp bodies for corpses etc. Can result in hilarious glitches when improperly implemented
  17. I have often heard that pain is a common feature of ASC but I was wondering what degree of pain is usual. I get a lot of fairly bad pain throughout my body and many of my muscles are often tight, despite my stretching several times a day. I also put the tight muscles down to anxiety but now I'm not so sure. I can get flareups of tightness and pain regardless of my current mood. Does anyone else get this, and if so, is it related to ASC or something else? It may be worth noting that the pain and tightness is most often throughout my shoulders, neck, upper and lower back, legs and most recently my chest.
  18. Chronic muscle tightness and pain

    It probably is all just the scoliosis and I'm just being a hypochondriac, now that I think about it. I am going to start a bodyweight exercise routine and see how that fares me. I've pretty much given up on the idea of using weights so this is the next best thing and hopefully a lot safer. I would go swimming more but I'm not the best swimmer and feel like I'd make a fool of myself at the pool. Perhaps I'm being too self conscious though. I'm not currently on any painkillers but perhaps it may be a good idea? I do have quite an addictive personality though so it's quite likely I'd end up hooked on them. It's a pain in the bum because ibuprofen and paracetamol do little if anything to ease the pain and morphine likely would become habitual for me. I've had physio on the NHS before but have never lasted more than one session - I'm always forgetting appointments I didn't feel like they were really assessing the problem properly though. I wish I could afford to go private
  19. Desperate

    Yay! Let's hope you can finally get the support you so deserve
  20. Do you know if your son is depressed at all Paula? As an adult with AS and suffering from depression who is in the same age group as your son, I can kind of relate to how he is behaving. Since reaching adulthood I have lost nearly all the motivation I had as a teenager. I've got to the point where I rarely feel like leaving my room too, although not quite to the extent of your son. A lot of people with Asperger's really do genuinely struggle with what seems totally normal for an NT. It's just the nature of the condition, I'm afraid. Chances are he's not being lazy, he's just very depressed and chronically unmotivated. After all, society has little to offer us when it so constantly rejects us. I'm currently looking for work but every time I find a job I think I could maybe do I get knocked by the person specifications - jobs these days are not aimed at introverts. 'Bubbly', 'confident', 'outgoing' etc., all words used to describe the kind of people employers want for employees. It's like rubbing salt into the wounds of those who do not fit into these categories and may make aspies feel weak, worthless, unwanted, not useful etc. Early 20s is a horrible period for a lot of aspies I think. It's the time when the world expects us to get up and 'do our part', despite there being so many obstacles in our way
  21. Aspie meet ups

    ^The lifts were my idea. But as I said, it would only be for those who have mobility problems and people who can't use public transport. I'm beginning to see some potential huge problems with this
  22. Chronic muscle tightness and pain

    I had a full blood test recently but apparently the results were all normal. I don't have any diagnoses for any physical health issues apart from scoliosis. At the moment I'm just taking painkillers (which rarely work - I need something stronger) and trying to stretch the muscles as often as possible. I will probably go to a doctor at some point but I have really lost faith in them over the years. I've been to a few doctors about some of the symptoms but they always put it down to my scoliosis. It would explain the leg issues but not most of the other stuff. I thought the symptoms were quite worrying too. It sounds a lot like MS but I'm concerned I'll go to the doctor, tell them I'm worried I may have MS and they'll just act patronisingly and say I shouldn't look up symptoms on the internet. These are most of the symptoms I get: Often feel tired and can get quite worn out from little exertion at times while I can keep going for hours at other times Bouts of nausea and very occasionally vomiting. This seems to come and go for a few days at a time Visual disturbances - blurred vision, mild 'swirling' patterns in vision sometimes, floaters Tightness in most muscles and discomfort/pain in upper and lower back, neck, shoulders, upper arms, chest and upper legs Frequent tingling sensations in legs Arms and legs get pins and needles easily after being under pressure for only a few seconds Brain fog - makes working difficult Memory problems Mood swings Bouts of unexplained anxiety feeling. By this I mean what seem to be many physical signs of anxiety even when my mind is totally calm and rational Bouts of unexplained depression. Usually I try to rationalise these feelings but somethings they really do seem to spring from nothing Chest pains Any tips on how to get the doctor to take me a little more seriously? I don't feel able to talk to any family members about this as I don't want to worry them
  23. One word association

    Hops Porter is lovely. I wouldn't mind a glass or 20 right now either
  24. One word association

    Porter. As in kitchen porter. One of the worst jobs in the world...