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Mr Salvador

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  1. hi! welcome the forum

     

    'different' is the new 'normal' here

     

    its good to be different so never let anyone tell you need to be something you're not

     

    I too had to self diagnose, knowing I was different from the first day of shool, ever

     

    I got an official diagnosis about a year ago now and its made me feel so much better now that I know myself better, I hope you meet people here that you can relate to, it helps knowing you're not the only one, believe me

     

    you can add me if you're ne and need some guidance


  2. I have similar things ...

     

    I want to have friend and be social

     

    It just causes me anxiety

     

    Some kind of paradox I think.

     

    I'm so lonely but I can't handle the 99 and just usually float about the edges of society

     

    Even when there's people who agree and want to discuss the same topic it can be too stressful to contemplate...

     

    Mostly the people I know don't know me...

     

    'Normal' people are so irregular and unpredictable!!!!

     

    Plus I get sensory overloads just hearing all the traffic and city noise so I'm triggered off even before I've got somewhere...

     

    That's just apparently what we need to learn how to cope with, but if autism means we don't do that we'll will we ever learn it??

     

    The paradox of life being an aspie in an upside down world

     

    Bless x


  3. I know it's okay when my brain wants to shutdown or just rock n fidget but sometimes I can't and have to fight it.

     

    It's so annoying

     

    Still fighting the homeless situation and got my daughter to care for fortnightly!

     

    Can't get social services support till I have a home and can't get any help

     

    My brain wants to shut down but I can't let it...

     

    So annoying!! Aaarrghhh


  4. Hi hope you are in a coping phase

     

    You're in the right place

     

    Just remember it's okay to be different

     

    However, here, you are or will be more 'normal' than in the outside world.

     

    Get involved in a discussion or two and as I did, you'll find you say 'I'm like that' quite a lot... and when you are brave enough to share your own feelings and experiences you'll find, as I did, that others say 'that's just like them' too

     

    When you've found out more about your 'self' you can start to learn about the better sides of autism!

     

    Thinking outside the box, a level of care and compassion neurotypicals think is a waste of time, artistic flare... one of mine is in mechanical assembly and repair...when I can manipulate the 3d schematics in my mind I never need to read the schematics again... everything is in there like a computer program and that's when the other people in the workshop grow to hate me because apparently I make then look bad... but hey nobody's perfect eh

     

    Just make sure you don't let them grind you down or tell you you're broken


  5. Hi hope you are in a coping phase

     

    You're in the right place

     

    Just remember it's okay to be different

     

    However, here, you are or will be more 'normal' than in the outside world.

     

    Get involved in a discussion or two and as I did, you'll find you say 'I'm like that' quite a lot... and when you are brave enough to share your own feelings and experiences you'll find, as I did, that others say 'that's just like them' too

     

    When you've found out more about your 'self' you can start to learn about the better sides of autism!

     

    Thinking outside the box, a level of care and compassion neurotypicals think is a waste of time, artistic flare... one of mine is in mechanical assembly and repair...when I can manipulate the 3d schematics in my mind I never need to read the schematics again... everything is in there like a computer program and that's when the other people in the workshop grow to hate me because apparently I make then look bad... but hey nobody's perfect eh

     

    Just make sure you don't let them grind you down or tell you you're broken


  6. Hey all

     

    Back online

     

    Still homeless but nearly getting sorted. I'm in Leicester now near to bambina

     

    It's shocking how little help one gets sometimes!

     

    How many more words other than 'homeless and autistic' does one need to say to get help??

     

    Anyway somehow I'm still alive and thought I'd say hi before getting back into discussing the deepness we sometimes do when topics get hot

     

    Hope everyone is okay...one day when I get a home I'm going to make it like a sensory room it'll be great

     

    Can't wait. Anxiety is a killer eh


  7. Hi...im listening. ..we're all colourful people here...

     

    However I do not see a question of topic of comversation for us to pick up on??

     

    You arenot alone. ..im late diagnosed, 36

     

    I have meltdowns all the time

     

    Its just bcos of not understanding the world around me, sensory overloads and the generalised anxiety thing which never goes just gets somewhat better

     

    If you'd like any more reassurance feel free to PM me


  8. Mainstream stereotypes are cruel anyway

     

    There is much colour between the black and white boxes they expect everyone to adhere to

     

    I guess my insides are me

     

    Just the outside connectors are alternate polarity in a similar way to aspie/NT. ..

     

    Très confusement


  9. Im not sure I feel it necessary

     

    Im happy being me

     

    Just saying regards to gender identity perhaps an amount of duplicity...or blurring

     

    However this perception may also be blurred due to commonplace gender stereotypes

     

    Im happy now, just sharing for the purpose of helping others more confused...

     

    I do remember feeling I had something in the way as a child. ..but perhaps in the next life...


  10. Hi!

     

    I also had late diagnosis, 36!

     

    Better late than never

     

    Much damaged was caused in the meantime but we must carry on, and not with anger in our hearts, for anger is the only enemy we need worry about.

     

    I too come from mixed background and have moved home many times...it also was a cause of my misdiagnosis for all the years...

     

    But we must not let anger dictate our lives.

     

    I am also interested in technology. ..especially repairing new things ive not fixed before


  11. Well welcome and hello awakened soul!

     

    You are in the right place!

     

    I am 36 and recently diagnosed and akso have 4yr old NT child. I worry for her too as she noticed daddy cant do the pretend games ages ago!

     

    She teaches me though, and learnt a lot from her about social interaction. .. from 4yr old haha

     

    Bless them eh

     

    I feel my diagnosis lifted a massive weight off my mind about what the hell is going on uo there!

     

    Now I am awakened I know myself so much better and the anxiety is less

     

    This can be a great place for reassurance if needed.


  12. Sounds to me like he needs a challenge in life. School isnt everything!

     

    Yiu are in the right place!

     

    If you are patient and open here people will help and share their views.

     

    I am a late diagnosed aspie, 36.

     

    I always had problems with anxiety and am 6ft myself and 14 stone 8 pounds!

     

    The only method of control I will accept is my own self control and I need to beleive something is right before I do it not just because im told.

     

    Im not being defiant or rude I am simply requiring more information and justification for that which you ask of us.

     

    It is my opinion that his intellect has not been 'tickled' and if you help him find, and encourage, his special interest...he will want to do things ofhis own accord...

     

    As it happens my 'A-dar' has led me to a similar boy who doesnt like school but has learnt that learning to code is a 'game' ans encouraging his mother to help him follow this path...

     

    This is called our 'special interest' and something aspies often excell at!

     

    Help him find his 'thing' and encourage it and you will a different side to him im sure!!


  13. Hi everyone

     

    Back from a while out

     

    In case anyone wondered my ex kickedcme oit because she couldnt cope with autism

     

    She said if I ever get myself sorted to come back!

     

    Then I read about cardinal sins parents do to aspies and the ones my parents didnt do to me...she did

     

    Like making us feel that we are broken and need to ne fixed!

     

    Grr

     

    So now im homeless and autistic but feel free again so all is not too bad

     

    Hope everyone is well

     

    Peace and blessings all round x


  14. Hi alex

     

    You are in the riggt place to meet like minded souls

     

    I too was certain and a gf helped me too. They often see it more than we do

     

    Keep pushing for your diagnosis

     

    I didn't get mine till age 36!

     

    Your story sounds bit like me so add me if you like

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