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  1. He is twelve , has been out of school through anxiety for the last year. He see a pyschiatrist for medication, pyschologist would do cbt but he is selective mute and can't talk to them. He sees a pead every few months. He has no SALT or OT. Thank you,
  2. Hi, Could anyone tell me what I have to do to request a SA. I am going to apply in my own right but don't know what I should say or how to write ? I have seen some templates for letters but still not sure what I should add to it. Should I also include reports from professionals, iep's etc. Thanks in advance.
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    sorry about typing errors ,it is this tablet, well i will blame the tablet anyway as i don't blame myself anymore.
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    Thank you all, really appreciate and have taken your advice, will get sa snt off and ge camhs to write a letter and i will not say i am anxious anymore or show it if i a. wish i had spoken to you all before the meeting, will let you know how i get on.
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    Thank you all for your help, much appreciated, feel a bit better now and hope i haven't messed it up too much. Will see about a SA , will ring parent partnership up on Monday for some more info.
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    sorry last bit was meant to be if my son went to school happy then i wouldn't feel this way
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    They are setting up a caf which involv the high school and not the primary. I don't show my anxiety very much just some days it is horrendous getting him there. School have been awful and i haven't felt supported at all, if my son's needs were better met then he wouldn't be anxious and if he wasn't anxious then I wouldn't be also. I have asked for meetings with the senco and she was so rude to me ,that she was too busy,didn't feel there was a need for one that i backed down.Parent partership were going to come with me and couldn't believe what was said. There have been loads more things i could write but won't but i now feel under pressure from the school no t to be anxious but if my went to school happy then i would feel this way
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    He is ok once in for a bit and settles down,he does cry in some lessons ,says that he doesn't understand and he comes out angry a lot and hits me.They always say he is fine. on the way home yesterday he stopped in the middle of the road and sobbed his heart out saying he didn't want to go to high school. He says he is scared of everything to do with high school. If I am anxious I don't mind going to the doctors but I only feel anxious when at the school. His behaviour is good at school as he hates looking different so he tries to blend into the back ground as much as possible,he won't ask for help so he sits there not getting what he is meant to do. He hates certain lessons and certain teachers and says they scare him. He is also like this at dentist and hospitals, he is terrified of going in them. Do you think Camhs will insist I see a doctor because I will go next week if i have to ,would rather go on my own than be told.
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    He goes to a mainstream school and starts high school in September. He has no statement but is on school action plus..I said I do sometimes feel anxious when going getting at school as I have had to drag my son to school with him hitting and kicking me.Oh dear is that bad ! I said that I have been dragging him to school since sept and not sure if the school understand how hard it is for me. She asked me what he was scared of and I said there was a certain teacher who he is scared of but I think a lot has to do with going to high school. I think I spoke to quickly and said too much. It worries me what they think and now it looks like they will blame me , they will when they hear about what primary has to say as I know they are fed up with me. Senco just says be more firm, boundaries, he is playing games, she says I am anxious when i get to school,sometimes i am i admit but not all the time. Yesterday he had a visit to the high school and he really hit me in the playground. school will tell them i am anxious anyway . He says he is scared because he doesn't understand things that are said to him in lessons and he panicks that if he hasn't done enough work that he might go into detention. I am sitting here now worrying that camhs will think i am anxious,what do they do if they think you are,it makes me scared.
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    Forgot to add my son is very anxious about school and think i am anxious too.
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    I am a Mum with a 10 year old high functioning son. I have had a terrible time since september getting my son to school ,i usually have to drag him there. I have broken down and cried at school a few times when it has been particulay bad and the Head did say once that maybe I should a doctor who may be able to help me. I have had a camhs visit about my son and i cried in this meeting when talking about how bad it has been. I think i talked really fast as well, now i am really worried about how i came across. When i cried the camhs person also said have i been to the doctor. She is going to do a caf with me soon.
  12. I had the swine flu jab and so has my 8 year old who has autism and asthma.We had no reactions at all apart from a bit of a sore arm. I wasn't sure either to let him have it but he gets so poorly when he is ill and I am glad now that I did have it done for him.
  13. Hi VenusDoom, I wouldn't be too worried about nappies, my asd son was 7 when he was out of pull ups and he has only wet the bed twice in a year and my nearly 6 year old nt is still in pull ups,we tried a couple of nights ago again with him but he still wets the bed , so don't be too worried it will happen when he is ready.
  14. The school my son goes to has a ban on chocalate bars, they can have choc biscuits but not solid choc bars. I have a terrible time trying to put thinngs in my sons lunch box.Today it was 2 breakaway bars( 2 because they have now got a new wrapper and a different pattern on the actual choc bar so didn't know which he would eat), 4 custard creams(have to make sure no bits are missing and that the cream filling has not gone onto the outside of the biscuit) and a yogurt.He used to have a pkt of crisps but now refuses to eat them.He will not eat sandwiches or fruit, in fact the only other things he will eat are ready brek and his baby jars that i mix with mashed potato. These schools should recognise that these kids are not just fussy but do have a geniune problem with food. If my son ate anything different or with lumps in it he would also gag and throw up.I would love him to eat healthier food at school but it just won't happen.
  15. Thanks JsMum, I will look into SS, I would not feel at all embarressed to ask for help if I thought I needed it.I thought I would also phone the NAS to see about help on behavour techniques which is where some of the problems are. Thank you for helping.
  16. Thank you all for the replies,what you all wrote was just what I wanted to hear,I now know I am not mad and that they are the ones with the problems.I also didn't see the need to involve ss in anything but at least now I can tell them what ss actually does.What my son does is what every other autistic child does, he has found xmas hard this year and I have felt very protective of him.He is stimming away in the living room right now with his plastic shark but is very happy.
  17. Hi, my son was prepared for the visit and he visits them a lot ,mostly with his brother while me and my partner go shopping. He tends to act silly when we are all together. My sister and her husband have no children so that does not help.All my son wanted to do was stay at home and play wih his toys especially his new playstation game so that did not help his behaviour also.As far as I am concerned my son has only got some behavoural problems so that is why I did not understand why the said about getting social services involved. Who would I get involved about behavioural problems.My son was given a diagnoses of high functioning autism at 5 and we have been left on our own since this, wouldn't really know where to go if I did have a problem with him. He has been at home today ,is feeling less stressed and has been behaving perfectly. Thanks for the reply JsMum
  18. M 7 year son has found it hard to cope this xmas.He hates going out specially to visit people andwe all went to my Mum and Dads on boxing day . My sister and her husband were also there.I knew before we went that it was going to be a stressful day as Owen always plays up. All he did was get aggressive and try to hit his 5 year old brother.This went on for 3 hours and I said perhaps we should go but my sister had to pipe up that that was what he wanted and he would win, I just kept my mouth shut.Then she kept repeating that I should get in touch with social services and see what they could do.I am sure my family think that he would get a drug to make him' normal'. But really what I wanted to know is what do social services do, would they actually be able to help with anything? I do not want my son to be on medication as he is not awful all the time and I don't need respite care for him so in my case what would SS do for me? Just want some ammunition to give to the family when they attack, thanks. Elaine
  19. Hi, My son is 7 and started year 3 in september and he has definately got worse since then. He taps his plastic figures everywhere,constantly picks on his little brother, he gets really hyperactive and jumps on the sofa , climbs on the tables and jumps off agin. We also cannot take him shopping at the moment, he goes all silly and hyper in the shops or he gets really tired and I have to carry him, we went out at the weekend and it was awful.Also cannot get him to bed before 9.30-10.00pm, if we do try to get him to bed he goes all hyper again and then it takes ages to get him to settle down. Thinking of you as I know how draining it is <'>
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    Hi, my son is 7 and went into year 3 in september in the local primary school.He has two teachers as they job share during the week.he says He says hates school as it is boring but he is always happy there and I never have a problem getting him to school and he is always happy when I pick him up. In year 2 he would come out of school hyped up and would somtimes attack me and his little brother but he has stopped doing that now but he just stims all night.He has plastic figures like crash bandicoot and Bart that he taps all over the house, tapping them on the floor ,on the walls ,just everywhere there is a spare space he taps these figures and his brother copies him so I have double tapping everywhere. If he is not doing his tapping he is on the playstation.I find it hard to get him to do anything else at all.Do you think it could be school that is making him like this?. He is a happy boy at the moment and he loves his stimming and he gets a bit aggressive if I try to stop him from doing it. How do I get him to do something else or should I let him be? He starts stimming as soon as het gets in from school and stops at 9.00pm and as soon as he gets up in the morning he starts again.He has high functioning autism.
  21. I don't think your little girl is too young to have dolls at 8.I remember (this is going back 20 years) with playing with sindy dolls etc at 11 years old.My son who is 7 wants an electronic newborn kitten for xmas and I have already bought ,it looks a bit freaky but it what he really wants and I know that he will play with it.If I bought him something more boyish he just wouldn't be interested and it wouldn't get played with.
  22. Sorry you are going through all of this, hope things soon get better for you. <'>
  23. Well done to you and your son with the jacket potato.It really is fantastic when they do something new.This had given me hope for my 7 year old who still has to have baby food mixed with mashed potato and then blended up to make it totally pureed.
  24. Thanks everyone, The new baby furby came today, he has got blue eyes instead of browns ones but he is okay with that as his big mummy furby has blues eyes .It is really calm in our house tonight as he has his new furby to focas on,lets hope it continues.His new furby came with an adoption certificate with Owen's name on it ,he is really pleased.just wished it had come with a blue baby bottle instead of a pink one,he wants to take it to school on Friday as it is take a teddy bear to school day - hope he won't get teased.
  25. Thank you Esther, I'll look on. that website tonight.
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