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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team


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  1. Hello from Mum trying to help her son

    I want to say how you are a great mum to your son and it's great that you're want the best for your son.
  2. Hello Discovering myself and ASD

    Happy new year everyone here
  3. I am worried about my appointment with Physcatrisit as I have depression and anxiety. I was diagnosed with Aspergers and Ocd in October 2014. I want a proper answer to why I am still depressed and if I any other mental illness. My mum just can't cope with my mental health. I feel so alone
  4. That is unkind. We are not evil we are beautiful. The people who say that are sick in their heads. I want to kill myself then because it makes me feel worthless.
  5. Why do so many Aspies 'look Autistic'?

    I am annoyed about the comment that Autistic people look like they have Autism. That has is offensive and very unkind. Whoever said that has said that. I have Aspergers Syndrome. I look after my self and I am wash always have clean clothes.
  6. Hi it sounds really frustrating for you. You could go to a and e with your son and demand to see a mental health team as an emergency. Have he got a social worker. My social worker hasnt got a clue about mental health.Your sons gp should be referring your son to mental health. It must be very stressful for you. When I am having a melt down I have to sleep and turn off all technology off. It helps me to have a bath and do some sewing or colouring.I can't think or talk.My Aspergers Syndrome is very hard to cope with and explain to others what is happening to me.
  7. Hi it sounds really frustrating for you. You could go to a and e with your son and demand to see a mental health team as an emergency. Have he got a social worker. My social worker hasnt got a clue about mental health.Your sons gp should be referring your son to mental health. It must be very stressful for you. When I am having a melt down I have to sleep and turn off all technology off. It helps me to have a bath and do some sewing or colouring.I can't think or talk.My Aspergers Syndrome is very hard to cope with and explain to others what is happening to me.
  8. Any other mums with Aspergers themselves?

    i am a mum to a son who is 19 years old he is at university. I am 43 years old and i have Aspergers . I got my diagnosis last October 2014. When my son was born i found it very difficult especially as he was two months premature and he was very ill and in a incubator. I got diagnosed with post natal depression within four days of him being born. I was put in ward with other mums and their babies whilst my son was in special care. That was cruel babies crying all night and i was crying too . I had a bossy midwife who tried to teach me breastfeeding, while she did not get it how she was treating me . My son was too small . I gave up breastfeeding i felt such a failure. My husband stopped loving me my depression got worse. I could not cope with the change of routine my son crying and no affection from my husband. I have never felt so alone in my life. When it was time to wean him onto solid food i took it literarely . Even though i had a traumatic birth i bonded with my son. A few years later my marriage ended and i moved from my home to Birmingham. There again was painful no home of my own living with my mum and my son for two years. Back again adjusting to more change. After two years me and my son moved into a council massionete which i still live in. I did not know i had Aspergers and ocd also Dylsexia i did this as a single parent to my son. I could not give up i asked a Pschylolist in October 2009 if i had Autism and she said no because i communicated well. Five years in October 2014 i had a assessment with a Physcatrisit who said i did have Aspergers syndrome a ASD and OCD and that i needed my antipressants changed and treatment for my sleep and anxiety. In the September of 2914 my son started University it was very hard for me my life had been for him. Then i got the diagnosis and i fell apart. He is in his second year of university and he is doing brillantly .I am so proud of him but my mental health has worsened again so having having another assesement and hopefully a proper mental health diagnosis. I still carry on with all the sewing and craft work that gives me a purpose and i am there for my son if he needs me. Its my time now to get the healing i deserve and build my life.
  9. Hi I know how you feel. Life is especially when you have Autism. It's hard enough to get your flat clean, do food shopping. You're in the right place. The friends you will make will accept you for the wonderful person you are. You have a purpose and skills. Believe in yourself don't let people walk all over you. It's been over a year since I got diagnosed with Aspergers and Ocd I am still dealing with it its taking time to understand myself. Everything will fall in place. I am not giving up. My mental health will get sorted. Take care Anna
  10. What did you give for Christmas?

    I gave my son for Christmas a hamper of useful tins, packet pasta, noodles, sweets,biscuits tea bags. I made my friends on sewing machine shopping bags and cushion covers. I love creating.
  11. Aspergers & Relationships

    Thanks for that you are right. I am talking to my mum not about my mental health. My mum hasnt really accepted my diagnosis of Aspergers. I am very open and I discuss my mental health. I have a appointment on 7th January to see a Physcatrisit to see what else is happening. It doesn't help I keep having infections on the fourth lot if antibiotics. I am less depressed today and got my cleaning done.
  12. Aspergers & Relationships

    Does anyone know what to do. Since my diagnosis of Aspergers. My brother, mum,sister and my father's partner are struggling to know how to talk to me. Before the diagnosis they were distant more now have diagnosis. Since my mental health is worse my relationship with my mother has broken down. I have tried to discuss with her. She thinks a meal and chat will sort out my mental health. It won't she's in denial. I have tried to talk to her why I am cross with her.She is not getting it.I have left a message on her phone to say sorry for what I said to her and to say I will see her when my mental health is sorted. My friends are my family my son is great he's really understanding.
  13. Need Friends

    Thanks Michala sorry if spelt your name wrong. The best place to meet friends is doing something you enjoy doing. Mine is doing sewing. I would love to meet you. I live in Birmingham. Thanks for your helpful comments. I am hoping to go to project Aspie in Birmingham. Take care Anna
  14. Emotional black out

    Hello when everything is too much I have a sleep. I aso do colouring or something that doesn't involve thinking.listening to music doesn't work with me. Also I pray and crying really helps me. I hope that helps you.
  15. I have Aspergers and Ocd which i got diagnosed at the age of 42. I am now 43 and I have had depression and anxiety since 1996. Now having another appointment with a Physcatrisit to do a assessment to see what else us going on. The mental health can't work out what is wrong with me. They forget to include that I have Aspergers and that affects me. I am exhausted all the time processing information and trying with conversations not too interrupt. Taking turns in conversations and trying to do eye contact. I am trying to cope with my sensory overload. It's also very difficult because I do a lot of sewing to block my depression and negative thoughts, I then do too much and now my left elbow tendon is damaged. I am seeing a surgeon soon to see if can do an operation. I am in constant pain which makes me more depressed. My family don't try and understand my diagnosis. My mother and son are really trying to understand me. I live in a world where people treat me like a alien. People with Cancer are accepted more. I am trying to educate others about my Autism. I do have friends. Before my diagnosis people took advantage of my money because I was too kind. I have to be careful now who I trust. It makes my anxiety worse. I still don't know why I am so depressed. Mental health having a meeting with me in January to discuss what help I need. My gp has referred me for a appointment soon with physcatrisit to see what else is happening. It is very difficult coping with mental health and having Aspergers. I do a lot of art, sewing, photography and card making which i enjoy. My social worker said I can change my thoughts. I am not sure that is right.I would love to work will have to get my mental health well first and my elbow better. I wish society would see what damage and discrimination they do. I am proud to be a Aspie and I do care for others. I love my son and mother.