citrine

Hi, I joined a while back, and havnt really posted because mostly lurking, and also not really felt the need to post until now. My son has never been diagnosed with anything, my doc thinks he could be on the spectrum, as does CAHMs but the paed thinks he is just fine.. He has moments where he can be quite challenging, but we manage him and we have calm times that can last quite a while then he will go of on one for a while then calm again.. we can handle that.. He copes well with school and like the regiment of it, and if we keep things simple and regimented at home then he rolls along nicely The problem is recently we have been having real problems with him mainly on a Friday night, when he goes into total meltdown.. to the point that last night i ended up upset and in tears.. (i,ve never got to this poinst before) He,s gets more and more wound up and bounces of his bedroom walls chucking things about, to the point i,m ready to move his hamster out..I dont get angry (i dont do angry) i stay calm and try to reason, but reasons gone out of the window.. he gets more and more aggressive that i worry that he is going to hurt someone.. To the point that dh had to try and restrain him last night when my son went for him and hit him.. now i,m worried for many reasons.. what do i do? i have not idea.. we,ve got close to this before but never crossed this line.. He has his SATS in about 6 weeks and i think this is one reason for this behavior.. he i being constantly tested.. i dont agree with SATS and have told him it dosnt matter what he does in them.. He is also going to High School in September, and he has decided that he wants to go to a school that none of his freinds are going to.. He is calm and happy again this morning sat watching his beleoved spongebob.. and now i,m on countdown to next Friday..

my son had his appointment today with lancashire camhs.. we saw a pyschologist and a pyschaitrist, the appointment i felt went well, they asked lots of questions spoke to my son, asked what we wanted etc.. they said that they needed to discuss the meeting but they felt that mentally my son was ok, (i was originally worried about ocd) but they felt that he was mildly on the spectrum, but they could do nothing further and they wanted to send a questionaire to school, and set up an appointment with a peadatrician for his development checks and to get a diagnosis.. we asked if they thought we were being neurotic, they calmed our fears, and said that they felt that son did display some odd behavior and we had done the right thing..one of them mentioned aspergers.. so will have to wait and see what comes from this

aww bless, reminds me of my son, i told him what he was buying for his sister so he went and told her so i bought her a different gift from him, i asked him if he wanted to know what i,ve got... he said better not mum i might tell her

thanks peeps have already made a list of his behaviours, and do a little diary type thing when i remember to write it in lolol i,m just not very good at deciding what to write in or not... am now deciding whether its the right thing to do, i keep thinking although he fits like a glove for aspies, maybe its just his age.. but then i think back on his behaviours and his sis who is 12mnths younger has never been like him, she is more chilled in her behaviour and not as rigid.. i know i,m being stupid lolol, and probably thinking what most other parents do, as i said i,m not good with conversing with peeps in some form of authority and get intimidated and defensive so easily, its because i have m.e and the fog messes with me head so get confused and sound stupid.. thanks again citrine xxx

my doctor decided to refer my son as he feels he is on the spectrum, anyways his referal came through today.. its in the beginning of january and he is seeing a pyschiatrist and pyschologist.. i,m feeling optimistic that we will find out what is going on with sunshine, but also very wary (not a lover of the medical profession) i was just wondering if there was any tips for our visit in january, or anything that we should be aware of.. and is it normal to see these peeps on a first visit?? thanks for any advice or hints.. citrine xxx

with my son.. we have real problems with my son whos 8 when it comes to food, its not too bad in the week when we have set days for set food, but on a sunday we have always made a point of having a sunday lunch with all the family, its a real trial, he dosnt like any meat except for chicken and wouldnt eat veg if he didnt have too and deffinatly wont eat greens.. everyweek is the same, he is too slow, starts messing, hubbys tells him of,we all tense up, son argues back, hubby sends him upstairs, son argues back some more crying as he does so, stomps up the stairs crying and shouting, he comes down later apologising, we ask him why he is apologising, he has no idea what he has done wrong, everyone get wound up again... people we know said they would of given up long ago, and let him eat what he wants... but this week was different.. he started the messing, hubby told him to stop he didnt so hubby told him to go to his room, we all stiffened up at this point... to my and everyone elses astonisment he got up, and calmly walked up the stairs without a tear or a tantrum... we were stunned, paticulaly when he shouted down the stairs a few minutes later sorry dad, can i come down.. we let him down not to long and he apolgised for messing, sat down and ate his dinner and even finished quicker than his sister (which is somthing cos she loves her sundays) needless to say we made a fuss of him and gave him a little treat for being so good.. will let you know if this continues

i havnt had experience with cranial oesteopathy with asd, but i am a big fan of it, my daughter had cranial oesteopathy when she was 3 mnths old for constant crying, she went from a grumpy child that honestly cried for 20 hrs a day to a beutifully happy child in 3 sessions, the practitioner was very good at what he did, and explained what caused her discomfort and how many sessions it would take, its strange when you watch one work, they manipulate whatever they manipulate, but it really dosnt look like they are touching the head, and my daughter was really comfortable in having this done... i hope this helps citrine xx

hiya *waves* i wasnt sure where to put this, so apologys if incorrect.. i went to my sons parents evening tonight and i brought up a concern i have about his school books that he is bringing home.. he is flat refusing to bring story books as he says he dosnt like reading them and prefers information books.. she said that she didnt see this as a problem as information books are good.. i thought this would be a good oppatunity to bring up that he is waiting for assesments as the gp feels he may have asd/asp... the teacher imediatly jumped on that saying that they have/had autistic/apsegers children in school and my son isnt hard to settle and is too well behaved, the only thing he has problems with is that he interupts in class and chatters a bit too much... i tried to tell her that she couldnt come to this assumption as children are different, and that my son thrives on the school enviroment as it is very structured and works on rigid times which he likes and feels safe with.. i felt incredibly stupid, and now i,m thinking maybe the doctor is wrong, but then again she dosnt have him at home.. althought he is a good boy, he is hard work with his ways... is his teacher right?? or am i being an over emotional over sensitive mother...

denise robertson from this morning is heralding this sort of thing, its somthing that she continuosly works on lobbying the councils and mps.... my thoughts are with you...

hiya, i have just joined and thought i better say hello my eldest hasnt been diagnosed with anything yet, but the doc has referred him as he think he has some form of asd. this kind of shocked me because although my son is different to other children i always thought it was a type of ocd.. and i thought that he didnt have anything like autism until i read about asperger and the whole thing totally fits like a glove... we live in lancs, i have 2 children a daughter aged 7 and my son who is 8.. my son has always been a little different to other children, he has this thing for time and clock watching.. things have to be done on time else he gets very very angry or upset.. the waterworks are very easy where he is concerned.. he also panicks if things seem to clash even if its not a problem for us, he needs total reasurrance that its fine... he also obsesses which has turned into a little joke in our house at the moment it is dr who and also anything to do with space, he drives us mad with it,telling us everything and anything on the subjects.. and i hate to admit it but i tnd to switch of alot and look like i am interested as my own concentration isnt to good as i have m.e :S there is many other little things which at the moment am listing for the assesments,but it seems to go on for ever lol.. i,ve had a good look around the site and its lovely and very informative, and i look forward to meeting everyone. citrine xxx