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Thanks trekster. Alas i have NO contact with her as she has cut me off. And no mutual friends as she didn't really have friends, a couple that she seemed fond of but I wouldn't say there was much of a bond with (between her and them), and I never met them. Her family she was close to, but I only ever saw them through her, so that avenue is gone too.

Hello and thanks for this trekster. I still find asperger a difficult concept to even sum up and get my head around. I would feel hesitant anonymously sending the information and she might think it a criticism if someone anonymous said 'you have this condition'. I'm not sure really what to do. Also how can I be sure that she definitely IS asperger? Based on a lot of online checklists, I would say very likely, but not sure I'm qualified to say

Hi all I recently split with my girlfriend of a few years. We are in our 30s, yet I was her first boyfriend ever which always puzzled me as she met me in her late 20s! She was warm, kind, loyal and patient. She never played games and was very straightforward. I also felt during the relationship that there was something 'amiss' with her behaviour that I couldn't relate to. She had slightly atypical pronunciation, atypical voice and walk/gait, would dress oddly at times (very practical but not feminine), and a history of failed careers/qualifications despite being very intelligent. She sometimes described thinking in patterns/shapes/images. She was big on family but less so on friends. She was also a very patient and compassionate listener for others (not self-obsessed), and liked to laugh, could laugh at herself too: which is NOT typical Asperger's? The relationship ended with her wanting a completely clean break so we are not talking: yet conversely I am not sure she had insight into the problems she struggled with, and I wish I had known during the relationship. Any ideas what to do? Thank you