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  1. I did the parenting course before diagnosis. A- its great to meet parents in the same situation as you and B- it helps in geting the diagnosis. I sat in the course mainly aimed at kids with adhd saying but my lad doesnt do that for the whole 6 weeks. She then threw me off the course (nicely lol) and a week letter i got letters for him to go and see the specialist 6 weeks later he was diagnosed!!! Its a matter of course for them the cheapest option first before going for the expense of seeing the specialist,asd team etc. But as teenage years have hit us now some of the things i learnt at the courses has really helped. Moral give it a try it cant hurt. <'>
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    omg help

    Thanks everyone <'> I have spoken to the school this morning and we have agreed a professional wont help as he doesnt seem to recognize what he has done. So we are keeping in constant contact with anything that is said by him at home and school. I guess i just panicked lol. thankyou all again xx
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    omg help

    thanks both <'> I have told him what would have happened to his uncle, me and dad, us as a family if this had been taken seriously ie prison and us being separated. I also told him that if anything he learnt at this performance should happen to him then certainly go to the school but not to make up stories. School are now ringing me with progress reports and im to tell them if he says anything about school like last week he had an injection, Id had no letter about this and i was fuming turns out the girls had had the cervical cancer jab sunday he told his nan and grandad he was going drayton manor and they had a 2 hr chat about it etc monday night nan rings me and wants to ask him how he got on guess what he never or was ever going it was another class. When he was in his last week of primary he told school i was in LOndon that day being photographed for the sun for page 3 im a size 16 with boobs down to my knees his Lsa found it really amusing lol. They are just a few but im worried about what could come next
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    omg help

    First off sorry i haven't been around since ds1 has been a secondary sn school life had been sum what bliss after all that fighting. Right, Im at the end of my tether with him and i dont know where to turn. A few months ago his pastrol support teacher rang me and informed me that they were close to going to social services because j had got upset in class and told them that my dh had got drunk and smashed all the windows!! Which resulted in me having to go to the school and explaining that dh hadnt drank in 6 weeks and although yes he is a recovering alcoholic but this had never happened. Ok managed to persuade the school after many of MY tears and frustrations came out. Yesterday i get a phone call from the same teacher who said J had said the police had came to my house the night before and arrested his uncle for sexual abuse!!! He has one uncle my brother and he has prehaps visited me here twice in 9 years and he has NEVER stayed the night!! anyway j said that he was worried because his uncle shared his bed!!! Now it works out the he had a play thing at school about bullying in the home and this was one of the subjects. So I sat down with him and asked him what he thought sexual abuse was and he didnt know!! So i told him the best (if any) and worst case of sexual abuse and asked him why he had lied. He said he got upset with a lad at school and when the lsa asked him about why he was upset it "just came out" wtf. Now hes been banned from going football and computer but i cant work out what he gets out of it. He has a dx of dyspraxia,dyslexia and asd but through all my research of these i have never seen compulsive lying as part of these. Hes 13 now and although he has lied before but never this bad. MY mum said psychologist but he wouldnt understand why he was there and i dont think he would gain anything out of it. Please help thanks in advance
  5. cahms helped us as far as diagnosis went (i referred myself) but after support forget it
  6. i had massive problems with lumpy mash my saviour ROOSTER potatoes ok dearer than normal spuds but they are definetly the best thing for mash
  7. hi suzi You know all about j. List work very well for us, not for him but for me so i can break things down in to easier parts with timetables for him. As for his aggression it needs to be a there and then punishment i have been know to be found sitting on a pavement cause we are not going anywhere until you have done your time out and then go straight home. J has a goal for morning with a reward and afternoon and evening. I use visual rewards not stars etc as he is working to much to reach the goal even if its a reward for the whole day of good behaviour with stars itms and i change the rewards regually so he doesnt get bored. Im not saying its fool proof cause no kid is an angel but it gives him 3 goals to work for. Btw js bedtime reward is hot chocolate with cream and sprinkles so it doesnt have to be expensive but he LOVES that one lol
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    Hi!

    hi suzi great to see you here
  9. Our school was shut this week too and transport was stopped not just for the travelling bus but the h and s of children getting on and off the buses. I live in a back street that is still under 3 inches of snow and considering 70%of the pupils have some sort of mobility problems ie dyspraxia wheelchairs. If they just picked up the ones that they could there would have been 10 pupils in school for the staff that struggled to get into school cause they dont know how many are going, teacher /pupil ratios have to be high in a sn school and surelly its far better to close than risk anyones safety they dont take the decision lightly.
  10. My ds has always known bits but it has all come together this year as hes doing it at school. I have 3 kids and we have had the talk with them all but j seemed to not ignore it but not get it itms. I know with j even though we have had "the talk" that a book that didnt have the word sex on the cover would be better as he would get embarrassed hes 12 and my others are 6 and 8 and they are not at all embarrassed. Apart from the day ds1 teacher called me in giggling and then proceeded to tell me that when his se teacher said vagina j put his hand up and said "i know another word for that miss Bush" lol wasnt funny for me at the time.
  11. my ds cant tell the time so we use a digital clock as he knows that 5 come before 6 etc he still gets up at 4.30 am grrr but he knows that nobody needs to be awake before 7.00 as we have it all on his chart.
  12. What about you nearest MIND group i volunteered a few years ago and we used to run a drop in centre/coffee shop type thing thats during the day but some offices do run an out of hours service.
  13. i agree with the others our home computer (we only have the one) is in the main living room it is only used by the kids for homework and they are supervised for that. I would go and see someone too while its not unusual for a boy that age (my ds2 is 8) to be curious he would never look it up on the computer. Kids now adays have enough internet/computer usage at school where the restiction setting are ALOT higher. I would ban him from using the one at home unless it is homework related and then fully supervised.
  14. When i was going through the process of getting a statement it was helpful but yes confusing. It needs just a couple of pinned topics that we can just click and get what we are after.
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    IEP help

    It is usually the schools senco that draws up an iep with the help of ot (and any other agencys that are involved) and the teacher. When you are issued with your iep you have a copy as well and it is discussed and signed. Hope this helps.
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    How to complain

    My situation is different in that my lad has now gone up to secondary. But his new school(sn) have now complained about the reports they got from his (mainstream) primary. They were so far off it was unbelievable, I knew what was in these reports but i needed my strength to move him and settle him. As it is things have worked out for the best and all them years of moaning and fighting for my son his new teacher has done the final bit. My advice is hold your horses settle him down, then get views from your new school and then complain. good luck
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    one to one

    My ds1 has a ta in year 4 that was useless fully trained with papers etc but didnt know what she was talking about but in year 6 he had the best ta no qualifications and learnt on the job he got used to her as she was getting used to him. When he left he cryed not for the school but for her. 1 -1 means exactly that and doesnt have to be a trained lsa. Bikemad im on the other forum under the same name if you ever need advice with diagnosis and assesments im on there more than im on here.xx
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    transport

    J was statemented in june this year with no transport on it as we life a 2 min walk from school. This year however he is in a sn school and when i rang cyps they said he couldnt have transport as it wasnt in his statement and he lives less than 3 miles from the school. We live a 20 min 40 mins a day (1 Mile each way) walk from his school now but my problem is i have 2 other children that go to primary in the other direction as i am soon to be a single parent i am really going to struggle. He doesnt need an escort and taxi company's have quoted me a stupid amount for what is 10 minutes a day in a taxi. Do i have a leg to stand on with cyps if i push for transport. btw my others are 6 and 8 and the 6 year old has to be picked up. btw he has no road sense so going on his own is not an option
  19. Sorry been awol. he did have 1.1 in primary but only the last 4 months or so. It got worse yesterday with him shouting at a teacher and now hes on report!!! Today has been better his report says he was only a little distracted in science i suppose im just gonna have to ride it out thanks all
  20. all kinds of disabilities asd adhd etc. this lad called him gay he has adhd, after speaking to his teacher properly today i have asked her to make him go out at lunch as hes spending all his lunch in ict and not burning off. I think the subject was english but she says they wernt doing anything he found difficult. She also said when they had the transition meeting j was played down by his senco as being borderline asd but she said she sees asd in everything he does!!! She thinks because they have the knowledge and support there for him and are ruling everything as "typical" behaviors as all the other kids are doing it he is yes coping. I have stopped his pocket money for the month. i think for me its shock as i have spent 6 years telling primary that they must see the behaviors at school as i do at home but they have denied it and blamed it on me and now everything is coming out itms.
  21. J has always been a little at home and up till September he was in a mainstream primary now after years of fighting i have got him in to special school but his behavior has gone pear shaped. Primary said they never had a problem with him you know he doesnt do it here it must be you talk but since september weve had better behavior at home but school he has been a little sod!!! He was reprimanded (sp) for hitting another lad this lad had called him a name but instead if going to the teacher he smacked him one both were put on detention. Little things have happened inbetween but today he has had to spend the whole day in support for being disruptive in class as far as im aware he never did this in primary. What the hell do i do with him its getting embarrassing? Hes coping well with work and the transistion has gone smoothly its just this arghhhhhhh
  22. Im tight and never buy presents for the end of the year. But this year as ds1 is leaving i proudly presented his lsa with a bunch of flowers and a card to say thanks for what shes done in front of ds1s teacher/senco i really over did the sentiments . As we about to walk out the door ds1s senco/teacher said good luck at your new school j and i muttered loudly yer better luck than with this school
  23. j only did his science one and got higher than anyone including the school thought he would makes me think if it was marked correctly
  24. j had a visit to his secondary school (sen) yesterday he was a right pita for about 8 days before hand. They were only there to have break with yr 7 and to have a walk around about 40 mins they have the full day in 2 weeks. Hes been moody violent and aggresive and all with the constant questions mummmmmmmm what will i have for dinner, mummmmmmmmmm what if i need the loo, mummmmmmm what if i get lost, mummmmmm arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh anyway he came home last night alot calmer and his lsa (at his present school) took loads of photos for him and he really enjoyed it and cant wait for the full day. His lsa did comment on how long it took them to walk there its 10 mins for me but took them 30 i did warn her first, but school wouldnt pay for a taxi for them ohh well WELL DONE J MUMS SOOOOOO PROUD XXX
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