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      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   06/04/2017

      Depression, Mental Health and Crisis Support   Depression and other mental health difficulties are common amongst people on the autistic spectrum and their carers.   People who are affected by general mental health difficulties are encouraged to receive and share information, support and advice with other forum members, though it is important to point out that this exchange of information is generally based on personal experience and opinions, and is not a substitute for professional medical help.   There is a list of sources of mental health support here: <a href="http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.php?showtopic=18801" target="_blank">Mental Health Resources link</a>   People may experience a more serious crisis with their mental health and need urgent medical assistance and advice. However well intentioned, this is not an area of support that the forum can or should be attempting to offer and we would urge members who are feeling at risk of self-harm or suicide to contact either their own GP/health centre, or if out of hours contact NHS Direct on 0845 4647 or to call emergency services 999.   We want to reassure members that they have our full support in offering and seeking advice and information on general mental health issues. Members asking for information in order to help a person in their care are seeking to empower both themselves and those they represent, and we would naturally welcome any such dialogue on the forum.   However, any posts which are deemed to contain inference of personal intent to self-harm and/or suicide will be removed from the forum and that person will be contacted via the pm system with advice on where to seek appropriate help.   In addition to the post being removed, if a forum member is deemed to indicate an immediate risk to themselves, and are unable to be contacted via the pm system, the moderating team will take steps to ensure that person's safety. This may involve breaking previous confidentiality agreements and/or contacting the emergency services on that person's behalf.   Sometimes posts referring to self-harm do not indicate an immediate risk, but they may contain material which others find inappropriate or distressing. This type of post will also be removed from the public forum at the moderator's/administrator's discretion, considering the forum user base as a whole.   If any member receives a PM indicating an immediate risk and is not in a position (or does not want) to intervene, they should forward the PM to the moderating team, who will deal with the disclosure in accordance with the above guidelines.   We trust all members will appreciate the reasoning behind these guidelines, and our intention to urge any member struggling with suicidal feelings to seek and receive approproiate support from trained and experienced professional resources.   The forum guidelines have been updated to reflect the above.   Regards,   The mod/admin team

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  1. lost my mojo

    I can't see anything wrong with this topic nor anything funny - sorry. I always thought that this was the place for help and advice for those living with ASD. Antia has a problem that she needs help and s e x is part of most peoples lives. Emily I think your response was very informative and I hope that it helps Anita. Oracle
  2. Advice needed!!!

    I tried melting down with my son - got the ides from the advert. It made him hysterical and twice as aggressive so I wont be doing that again Back to Telephone Directories for us. Oracle
  3. A very interesting theory indeed...

    Well we are ALL O Positive in this house and that is the most common blood type. Oracle
  4. homeschooling for the time being

    You will need to get a letter from the Pead or your doctor saying that your child is unable to attend school at the moment due to her ill health. I strongly recommend that you do this even if it is a short term arrangement - without this letter your child will be marked down as a none attender and you will get a visit from an EWO sooner rather than later. Hope this helps. Oracle
  5. Introduction

    Moira the Norfolk Broads is not showing where you live it's an idicator of how many posts you have made. The more posts you make the higher the hill/mountain you will be associated with. Hope this makes sense. Just check my rather HUGE mountain out underneath my name. It's certainly not where I live Oracle
  6. Front Page News

    I know this little girl quite well and she does not have behavioural problems - well not the aggressive kind that have been implied. She is a little giggler and never once hurt any of the children in any way. The behaviour which happened only 'once' was not even because of her disibility. Oracle
  7. Front Page News

    It can be done http://www.sunderland-echo.co.uk/ One of our parents just won her disability discrimination case. Oracle PS This was my sons old school - I feel vindicated for taking him out now
  8. Mysterious Creatures

    Apologies to anyone whom I have offended it's now time for me to go. Oracle
  9. Mysterious Creatures

    I am with you Curra. Lot's of it hit home to me and was just a little too close for comfort. Whatever the problem the services let them down and looking after an adult with AS is a world away from looking after a child with it - but then I suppose you have to reach that point before you can fully understand. Oracle
  10. thinking of homeschooling

    delted
  11. Desperate mum in new suicide bid.

    Actually most of the adults that I know with ASD are aged 30 to late 50's and every rotten thing that ever happened to them was brought about by their parents. There is only one exception in my circle and my friends, same age as me late 40's, has a huge love and respect for his Mum but not his Dad, I have encountered fabrication and I know that it does happen but it is very very rare and sadly along with jb I have sat in a Consulting Room where my husband and I were utterly convinced that we were being observed for Munchausen's, and even though I now believe that there are some parents who do fabricate I am still a staunch Campaigner to get rid of this stigma that is following parents who have ASD children around. An occassional parent does not make us all candidates for MSBP/Fabricating Illness call it what you will. Oracle
  12. Desperate mum in new suicide bid.

    I think the 'new' term for MSBP is Fabricating Illness. Some parents do this to draw attention to themselves and are usually experts on their chosen subject. If it sounds as if I know what I am talking about then maybe that is because I have encountered this and it is very scary and very convincing. So I don't ever believe that parents are beyond fabricating things to meet their own needs. But I would hope that this would not go un-noticed for years and years as it has done in this case. Now for a public stoning. I know lots of adults with ASD now and I have to say that very few of them indeed have anything nice to say about their parents. No matter what their parents did or did not do, they did not do it right on in their child's best interest according to their children. I came to this conclusion a couple of years ago now and I also have an adult son myself I can see how this can become an issue. This is purely a personal observation and can only be based on my own experiences and posts I have read here and on other forums made by adults with ASD. Now before the stones are put down and replaced with heavy duty rifles I do know some adults who have nothing but praise for their parents, but those who tell a different story are greatly out numbered by those who feel that their parents have a lot to answer for. I have thought for a long while that we are damned if we do and damned if we don't. This proves nothing at all but it does give me something to ponder. Oracle
  13. Desperate mum in new suicide bid.

    If all of this has now been proven that it is the Mother and not the Daughter who has the problems, and reading through this thread it strongly suggests that this is the case, even though the Mothers Lawyer was still making statments about the system failing these parents in April of this year, so when was it proven? I am holding my hands up and admit that I am wrong - how are they going to be allowed to show the programme made about the family which, if the report that I have just read is correct, will portray this as being the system which has failed the parents? How will they get round that because it is being billed as a "powerful story will go a long way towards raising awareness of Asperger's syndrome." Well not if it is actually based around lies that have be proven what it will do is to once again raise the curtain on fabricating illness aka as MSBP and parents who have autistic children . Oracle
  14. Desperate mum in new suicide bid.

    From my knowledge the dx is not a home grown one. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/merseyside/4046053.stm Absoutley not - BUT - from my understanding of this and of course it has been gained via the press and other sites http://www.learningdisabilities.org.uk/pro...830&print=1 also on some of the other group where I am also a member, that this was a full blown auti obsession and there are many of us here who must understand what it is like to live with full blown obsessions no matter what they are or how they manifest. I have to say that my concern was that they did not just draw a line under this obsession as many of us have to but we also know what living with the fall out can be like. This woman no matter what her dx had been sectioned because of mental health problems but was then released within a few months. From what I gather her parents had been screaming for help for years - their daughter was a formidable young woman. Desperate I would say and having helped many hundreds of parents I see it on a daily basis. I don't think that one person is being blamed. You know we are damned if we do and damned if we don't. I suppose they could have just walked away but then if you read some of the posts that are up on Awares posted by adults with autism and what happens after people do walk away it is simply horrifying. Suicide is walking away but it's also the most desperate way of pointing out that the needs of this family and the person with autism were not being met and I suppose one last hope that someone will listen. We all have our limits and none of us know what we may or may not do if we are pushed too far. Oracle
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