tobyjoemum

Thank you to ALL that have taken the time to reply to my plea for help and advice. I value all opinions and as someone said - each child is different and will respond to different approaches. I'm sorry the topic started a little 'discussion' but I think I have got a lot out of it! The stresses my sons has at school are mainly ones he has brought into his head himself, although one is a boy that particularly upsets him. They are kept apart as much as possible, but it is not always easy. He was seen by a paediatrician and I was told he has constipation (I found it hard to believe) and he has lactolose every night. Sometimes it helps with the accidents in his pants, sometimes it doesn't. I tend to think that he does not want to miss out on what is going on, and so 'puts off going' until it is too late and does it in his pants . I have tried telling him that the toilet is more important but not much luck there. Even having an incentive, like playing his favourite computer game, if he is clean all day doesn't seem to work. As the playing with poo is fairly recent, i can't say I have tried all the possible answers yet. I have let him know that I find it horrible to find poo on the wall and that germs could make him poorly. I have been both calm and very angry with him - neither make any difference to him! I will try the sensory play that was suggested. Perhaps he does like the feel of it and play dough might give him a fix. Most of all I'm glad to hear I'm not the only having to put up with poo on wrong places!! Many thanks Vikki

Hi Hope someone out there can help or advise. My son - age 7 - was diagnosed with aspergers when he was 5. He has always had a problem with soiling his pants. I think this is stress related for him as it can get better and worse depending on how is dealing with things at school. I have noticed in the last few months, however, that he has started to 'play' with poo. This takes the form of either being smeared on the wall next to the toilet or wiped on his bed sheet under his pillow. When questioned he just says "Oh....poo. I wonder how that got there?" I'm trying not to make a big deal of it, but it is starting to upset me and I worry about the health implications for him and all of us. I would be grateful for any help. Regards Vikki

Quark is 99% fat free soft cheese. Normally found in the same area of the supermarket as philidelphia. I buy a 250g tub which is more than enough so sometimes I make carrot cake and use the quark for the yummy topping for that too.

Hi I have an easy version for you and because it uses Quark it is quite low in fat too!!Creamy Spaghetti Carbonara Serves 4 (Extra easy) Ready in about 20 mins 2 eggs 2 egg yolks 2oz / 57g quark salt and freshly ground black pepper 14oz / 397g dried spaghetti 2 garlic cloves 12oz / 340g bacon Fry Light 4oz / 113g Parmesan cheese 1. Place the eggs and egg yolks in a bowl and beat. Add the quark and stir until smooth. Season well and set aside. 2. Boil the spaghetti according to packet instructions, drain and set aside. 3. Meanwhile, crush the garlic remove all visible fat from the bacon and cut into small strips, place in a pan sprayed with Fry Light and cook for 4-5 mins. Add the spaghetti and egg mixture, remove from the heat and toss until the spaghetti is well coated with the egg. Divide between four bowls, grate the Parmesan cheese over the serve. DO NOT keep on heat once egg mixture added as quark separates, still edible just doesn?t look good. The heat from the pan is enough to cook it. It tastes sooooo nice! As for garlic bread, buy a small french stick. Cut slits in it but not all the way through. mix butter with finely chopped garlic or garlic paste and some parsley and put a spoon full in each slit. I then wrap in foil and pop in oven for 10 mins. This too tastes lovely. Happy cooking!

Hi I am new to the site and have spent the last few weeks reading lots of posts. Today I have been to the peads clinic about my sons bowel habits and feel that maybe I am not being listened to. In brief my son was diagnosed with AS in Jan and at the time we mentioned that he had always had toddler diarrhoea and went to the toilet a lot opening his bowels up to 5 times a day. He kind of said that often there is a stress connection especially if they soiled there underwear too, which he does. I told a different consultant today his whole history and he said that because his height and weight were good that there is nothing wrong with his bowels, no possible food intolerance but he had constipation and the frequency of bowel movement was due to the constipation?!?!?! Well, constipation is the last word I would use. He said that the soiling was a symptom of it. He asked me to make sure his fibre intake goes up (he already eats very well) and have wheatabix everyday even though I said this made him worse, and eat more fruit (I have to limit him to 5/6 a day otherwise he would eat all in sight). He also said he needed meds to make the stools loose - they couldn't get any more loose. We go back in 4 weeks to see how things have changed. I have seen on other posts people using different diets to help. Has anyone started with the same symptoms as my son or is there always a loss of weight to show food intolerence first? Sorry for long post - it feels good to vent!!! Many thanks for reading Vikki