sarahponari1

Hi i havent been on here for a while as i not long ago had a new baby, but i needed an answer to something i have been wondering for a while now and thought this would be a good place to get it. My middle daughter will be 4 in May, she was diagnosed last March with ASD, and in September she started nursery. Well since starting there she hasnt spoken a word to anyone there, ive read alot about selective mutism and apart from that her speech isnt as good as a normal child her age the rest of it sounds just like her, she also wont speek in other social situations other than at nursery, but can you have autism and selective mutism or would the not talking at nursery and in other social situations be a part of the autism? I really dont know what to do with her and how to help her to get talking at nursery especially as other children have started to notice that she never talks and have started asking their parents questions as i have heard them. We are going to start the process of getting her a statement, and are going to have a look around a couple of special schools as we think that she would do better in special school, now we have tried mainstream nursery, but i just wanted to know if it could be selective mutism or not, and if yes then who would need to diagnose it?

Hi im Sarah, im 25 and was diagnosed with Aspergers 2 years ago, i have 2 daughters and the youngest 1 was diagnosed in March this year with ASD

thanks for all your ideas, we already have a kitchen that is also a shop as that is what we got my older daughter when she was 3 (which she still loves) but younger 1 is not interested in it she just opens and closes the doors on it and pops the toaster up and down and that. I was thinking of some sort of console sort of thing but then i thought although she is almost 3 and a half she is at least 1 year behind developmentally so would probably find it too hard to work out how to play it(unless i can find one aimed at younger children). But there are plenty of ideas for me to think about now, my older daughter is so easy to buy for as she always knows what she wants (even though she is only 6 and a half) she goes through catalogues and all sorts saying i want this and this and this lol. But my younger daughter doesnt do that and i dont really no what to get for her which is why i thought i would ask on here as last year, and also for her birthday we brought her loads of thomas things and loads of cars which she loves but she doesnt need any more as they are all over the house as it is lol

Seeing someone else posting asking about xmas pressies has gave me the idea to ask you all about an idea for my dd. She is almost 3 and a half (she will be by the time its xmas), she loves Thomas the tank engine, last year we brought her the tracks and trains and loads of other thomas things, this year though i am wanting to get her something abit more educational, she knows all her colours(they were the 1st words she ever learned and everything even now is the colour and then whatever it is ie red car, blue buggy etcetc) and she can count up to 10 as she has learnt that from her sister, so anything to build up after the basics would be great for her (although she can count up to 10 she doesnt recognise any of the numbers and cant count things up to 10 just say the words). So i wondered if anyone knew of anything that either their child has had or they have heard off others that it was good and also helps on the educational side of things too, as i want to help her to learn too and dont want to leave all of that for the nursery and school to do. Although she loves thomas i would get her something that is not thomas i just thought she would be more likely to want to play with it if it is thomas. Hope someone can give me some ideas

We have just started the early bird course, we had our first home visit and we have had our first group session aswell, next 1 is on thursday. Although im not sure there is much i will learn in the first couple of weeks about how autisitc people communicate and see the world and that sort of thing(because i have aspergers myself) it has been good to talk to others with children the same age and see the similarities and also the differences between all the children, and im looking foward to the weeks about behaviour and toilet training lol.

Hi my daughter wont watch it anymore either, she used to be obsessed with it, she still is with all the toys and dvds she has but she wont watch the new version at all coz she says he is different and she obviously doesnt like it like that or she would watch it.

Well i think she has actually got the hang of using the toilet in a way, i said to her just before i left her at nursery school to tell the teacher if she needed the toilet, they told me today that she has been on the toilet once, first thing this morning (so she obviously told someone) but after that had accidents, so now i need to try and make her understand she needs to tell them every time she needs the toilet as i think the way i said it to her made it sound to her that she only needed to tell them the 1 time, instead of everytime. Im not really sure how im going to do that as she hasnt got that good understanding to know if i just tell her "tell them every time u need the toilet" but at least i know she will tell someone at nursery and that also there is no other problem why she wont use the toilet there as she has done it once now. She did say this morning that it was too noisy so she didnt like the toilets, so i was worried that she wouldnt go in there because of that but she did it once so fingers crossed even for now if she will only do it once a day it is 1 less lot of clothes that she will be wetting!

we were one of the few lucky 1s that got it straight away without any problems

im reading cry silent tears at the mo, by Joe Peters, i only brought it yesterday and am well over halfway through it already, my next 1 that i also brought yesterday coz i couldnt pick and thought why not treat myself for once is called please dont make me go by john fenton. i really love these sort of books, ive read so many, my fave 1s are the torey hayden books but i have read them all!!!

lol the baskets only 1 is 1 i have actually messed up on once, i was so stressed from the kids arguing and just wanted to get out of the shop, thought "this queue is short i will go here so i can get out quicker" only to be told it was baskets only when i was trying to empty my trolley. I didnt abuse anyone though just went over to a normal till and felt like a complete idiot lol

i just started the early bird course (NAS) 2day and 1 of the things they said on there is autistic people can be oversensitive or undersensitive to touch which would mean that some people hate to be touched and hugged while others need to be hugged and touched to make them feel more comfortable. I have aspergers and i dont like being hugged or touched (except by hubby) but i hate it when anyone else touches me or hugs me, even my mom, and my daughter who is 3 and a half is the same (well she will every now and then come up to us to hug us but if we try to hug her she will push us away or go all tense). I know another child who is autistic, she goes to my daughters dance classes and she goes around touching everyone and hugging everyone, so she loves to touch people

She came home 2day with 3 lots of wet and dirty clothes in her bag and hasnt been to the toilet at all. She is also not getting upset at nursery anymore if she wets herself which she was before which could turn out to be a bad thing coz she wont mind if she wets herself. She hasnt done anything anywhere yet since coming home, so i still dont know if it was luck yesterday or if she will only do it at home but i should know more later on, as she is bound to need the toilet soon. If she goes to the toilet ok at home again today i will have to speak to someone at the nursery about it and let them know she is doing it at home, so they know as they might think im not trying at home and am just leaving it to them. And then i can talk to them about doing some sort of symbol or picture for her to show them if she needs the toilet, which if i also use at home then she will realise that is what the picture is for. I was so happy yesterday when she went to the toilet 3 times ( i had to tell everyone lol) and today has just made me feel down again

My youngest daughter who is 3 and a half was dx with ASD in March this year, she has shown no signs at all of being ready to be toilet trained and i thought it was never going to happen, but she started nursery a few weeks ago and the past 2 days the nursery have taken off her nappies and said if she wets herself every time it doesnt matter but they would rather she is not in nappies, so all day yesterday and 2day at nursery she wet herself, then on accident earlier(well i think it was accident as she was abit suprised herself as well) she did a wee on the toilet at home!! She then sat on the toilet 3 more times since then and 2 out of 3 times she did a wee, and hasnt wet herself once since she did it!!! With most other things she has learnt she has been really quick at learning as long as she understands what she needs to do, so im keeping my fingers crossed that this is also another 1 of them things, now that she realises what the toilet is for that she might use it all the time. So fingers crossed for her she will keep it up 2moro, im just worried as she doesnt talk at all at nursery so im not sure if she will tell anyone if she needs the toilet.

Alot of girls are very good at hiding these sorts of things at school, i was the same and i wasnt dx until i was 22!! I was always classed as shy and didnt participate in group conversations but they never thought anything of it as i always used to hide the other problems, which then showed really bad at home as i had to spend all day at school being someone that i wasnt.

my daughter started nursery school a couple of wks ago and she is exactly the same, she used to be so passive and still is at the nursery, but as soon as she comes home she is really hyper and always seems to be in a foul mood aswell