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  1. " By George, I think she's got it! " You can now add GSOH to your CV.
  2. It sort of reminds me of the time as a young and volatile member of the Students' union, bouncing on the door of a concert. Having a disagreement with another student who wanted to break the rules. " You're just a ******* racist, you're picking on me because I'm black" " No, I'm picking on you because in spite of being black, you're a pain in the *rse." I posted a random bit of woffle the other night, wondering about special needs and targets and whether children should be happy at their own level, or aware of how far their efforts are from peer levels. I tend to come down on the side of; if you can't sing well enough to be in a singing competition, then it shouldn't really be a factor what colour or disability you are. On the other hand, if you need a ramp, or headphones, or to spin whilst you sing, then that should be accommodated. One of the tricky things about teaching at the moment, and that's all children, are the number that I'm coming across that have been empowered beyond their abilities and feel that they are entitled to achieve anything, regardless of talent, aptitude or effort. And the blinded-by-love-and-ambition parents who back them to the hilt. " You didn't pick my daughter for the lead, she's only in the chorus. You are racist" "Your daughter sings like a magpie and talks over the other performers. She's got a shaker, she's a musician." I agree with you about debates Baddad, discussion and sharing views are essential elements of a lively forum. If we A to D, then we are at least listening to the other poster's view rather than merely waiting for our turn.
  3. B is having to cope with several of his favourite teachers leaving, people who have helped and supported him. Some of them won't even remember the kind word in the corridor, the breathing space that one gave him by saying 'Would you help me with this equipment?' or just the willingness they showed when he wanted to share something with them. Tiny little kindnesses that have meant so much to him, and now these adults are moving on. It's hard for him.
  4. Frangipani, I'm sorry if you feel that you are being targeted by me, there is no tag to your post or in your profile to say how old your children are, so I asked. I'm also sorry that you are finding life very challenging at the moment, and have no support. Many of us feel the need to take a break at sometime in our lives when things are getting very stressful, and would not welcome a virtual argument with someone they have never met. I tend to go through periods of reading but not posting, as in the ASD dx should equal Statement thread running at the moment. Sometimes I really don't want to go looking for a new challenge as I've got enough on my plate already. Perhaps it would be more helpful to you to take a look art all the different stresses and worries in your life and see which ones need to be faced and which ones could be put on hold for a while. I tend to worry in sequences, so sometimes I'm not just concentrating about getting through the day, sometimes it's just the next couple of hours. I know that you have a strong faith, is there no one at your church that could support you?
  5. Hard for everyone, but especially hard for ours. Everyone is shattered, teachers are exhausted and some are impatient and petty, children are getting more vague, less willing to work at ordinary things so the teachers are planning new and exciting and different stuff...which doesn't help ASDs. I've been told by the head that if B needs a pre-emptive day, or just a breathing space to phone in and say so and it will be given without argument and with her support. She wants him happy and calm and not to break his winning streak. I've not had to use it yet, but knowing that we can is a comfort. A duvet day with official sanction!
  6. This is just a straight question, how old are your children Frangipani? I've always thought that they were both over 16, are you still home-educating someone?
  7. Well, you get my vote!
  8. I type very slowly. I type when my family are asleep, fortunately, having teenagers, that's almost as much time snoozing as the cat. I also always re-read my post carefully before I post it. And I am a 4 hours a night sleep girl. And I have three sisters in law who don't work, but do lots of lovely creative housewife stuff, and go to the gym and play ladylike sports, and volunteer, and do flowers at church and have fantastic social lives... And that last bit is a hard thing to be civil about sometimes
  9. I still handwrite my reports. Then I bribe my daughter to do the majority of the typing. Because I'm not allowed to send out handwritten reports, too old-fashioned.
  10. It wasn't meant to be an opportunity for people to say nice things about me. although thank you for that. With the help of you all, I might be able to get it as right as possible for these two very different children, and then the whole school can learn more about ASDs and the need for an individual and intelligent approach to a need, rather than 'Well, you've got B so you will know what to do...' I've got Y3/4 next year, and one of the ASD children is new to the school, so the whole environment will be different for him, he's down from Leeds.
  11. Fantastic news! I'm delighted for you all.
  12. I'm staying out of this thread as I am currently too tired to attempt to enter this sort of discussion. Only to say that my views reflect mossgrove's, one size fits all is inappropriate. However, I am concerned that a Statement is being viewed as a magic wand that will fix everything that is wrong with one sparkling sweep. It's just one of the markers on an extremely long and arduous journey. Oh, and punishing teachers and schools for misusing SEN bugets...there is a certain amount of money and many different varieties of special needs. I'd hate to see it come down to a fight between dyslexia and ASD's, or any of the other conditions that need extra support. If every dx SEN had a Statement, then some schools would be seeing 1/3 of their children statemented, and the funding would be split into minute fragments Or are ASDs are more special than other SENs?
  13. I've got 2 ASD children with a dx in my class next year... going to be interesting. So I will need a pinned thread labelled 'Bard wants to ask/know/find out....' please!
  14. Are you talking about a girlfriend? The first time I hugged my OH, he froze and felt like a block of wood. He also shuddered whenever I kissed him. When he began to hug me, it felt awkward for a long time, all the pressure in odd places, I used to rearrange him round me so that it felt comfortable. It was hard, confusing and lonely sometimes for him before I fell in love with him, but it's worked out for us. We met at Oxford, don't give up. <'>
  15. That's the point I wanted to make to another poster. B lacks empathy for others. He has good manners, so he does say the appropriate phrase, but he doesn't 'feel' anything, no link. He sometimes runs a situation past me, to ask what he ought to say or to do. Not because he's worried, he just wants to get the correct response so that other people don't get irritated with him. If I hurt myself, B's response is practical..bandage, get someone, yelling 'don't get blood on my pizza'
  16. I have often thought that falling for my OH helped prepare me for accepting B and loving him just the way he is. Doesn't mean that I don't occasionally want to throw things, or that being married is easy.
  17. I'm not so worried about the 'mechanics' of puberty, more the relationships side of things and the possibility that meltdowns and the like may be a part of that. Help to explain things that will confuse him, and the support of my peers for those pear-shaped times. So I may still be needing the group for a decade or so!
  18. And I've just thought, if teachers sent home the normal expectations for the year group as optional tasks, it would give the parents an idea of how difficult their children would find the work, and then you'd know what was going on wouldn't you? And if your child was managing what the standard child their age could. Or not. Or am I babbling? Stream of consciousness typing going on here. If everything is differentiated, how will a parent know their child is in the lower ability set and not average? Because if you set work within the child's capacity, then the parent might not realise that other children are doing much more challenging work. And how much does that matter? Or is it more important that the child is happy and feels that they are doing well? Brain overheating...going for a cuppa.
  19. I hate giving homework, and I really hate marking it. I'd make it optional in Primary...here's the work if you want it. I'd rather give a list of stuff they should be practising this term for parents who want to help their children at home: tables, spelling list of common words, basic science, tying laces and making things. Not compulsory. edit: too knackered to spell
  20. Bard

    Greenwich Meetup

    They had one in York at Easter, near the Railway museum
  21. You know what they say about that in certain ancient rural communities? It's one of the signs that indicate a possible werewolf.
  22. Bard

    Greenwich Meetup

    Ditto. Remember what I do for a living? The more the merrier...or louder at least!
  23. That's just spooky Simon, you are spot on for my relationship!
  24. My son adores his cat, it's the centre of his world and the first thing he thinks about when he wakes up. Several months ago, a dog chased the cat into our front garden just as we were coming home. B picked up the dog by the collar and belly and threw it over the garden wall, and he was growling louder than it was. The dog ran.
  25. Bard

    I am so upset...

    Oh bid, I'm sorry. I never had a childhood home, only army quarters that you weren't even allowed to paint or change in any way. And army furniture and crockery and soft furnishings. And occasionally a garden that you weren't allowed to alter either. I'm sorry about your childhood home, but in a way, I envy you.
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