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    My AS son has dark brown eyes and my NT daughter has blue
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    HI Helen It sound like my non dx AS son, He hates it when things are changed at school or not enough time to finish something..He is 9. How I have delt with the hitting, is time out facing the wall, naughty step on stairs when they get home. Also ignoring them which they hate. I will interact with him again when they have said sorry and had there time to calm down and think about this. I know I have let things slip in the past with the discipline as it is much easy to just let them get away with it but it does them no good and just gets worse. even though my AS son has a problem he is not allowed to act by hitting or kicking no matter how hard they find things. Regarding the keeping quiet yes my son while at school play time got pushed to the floor and kicked on his bone at the botom of his back double over at times, but managed to keep it from the teachers because of embarassment. He eneded up in casualty as it got worse. The teachers could not believe how he had managed to hide it. He is like this with everything that happens to him at school. Hope this helps. Its up to you how you dealt with things with your own children, You will know whats the best way. Hope things stay better at Nursery with your daughter.
  3. Do any of your children see a regular councillor to sort out there problems as the weeks go by. I have often thought this would help with all the stressed everyday life brings to an AS child. I do feel helpless at times
  4. Thanks all for your advice. I have talked about moving schools in general conversation and my son is very against the idea. Sometimes in life we have to get on and do whats best even when the kids cant see it. I still have my son go on about moving him from a nursery to another one when he was 4 and he has never forgiven me. This is how routine and everyhting has to be the same sort oif child he is. He has his social skills problems and has had the same friends since he was 5 and this is what he will be so upset. With the AS problems his friends now have got used to him being the way he is. I also said to him if we were ever to move him schools he could keep at the same cubs with his school friends and have them round for tea and in hols. I just hope there is one kind boy who befriends him and takes him for who he is. It is a big worry but in time we will get there I am sure. I know how bad his meltdowns can get,
  5. Hi Everyone Its a while since I have been on but need your support and advice. I am considering moving my DS and DD to my local school for lots of reasons which I can go into another time. Please dont judge me. As i do know how hard it is with minor changes for an AS child never mind a huge one like this. All for the better I will say. My son shows signs of AS he is 9 we have had a psy Dr say he has not got it but just anxiety and he does the things he does to comfort him, but I know deep down he has but have not go the energy to fight at the moment. Anyway I need advice on how and when to tell my DS that he will be moving schools. any special way that will help him get throught this. I am dreading it and will probally be on here most of the time to get me and him through this. I know he will be devastated to leave his school. There will be smaller classes which I am sure he will benefit from and get any extra help if he needs it in the future. I think September to move them and probally June to tell him. I have been told to let him visit a couple of times to get used tot things. I know I have to try and get him used to changes as life changes so much and i this will help for later life. It is so hard to see your child go through so much distress over such little things in life as changes of types of shoes clothes etc and then how will they cope with the bigger things like this change of school. Has anyone else been through this any advice I would be grateful for. One worried Mum
  6. Thanks for all the replies. Now I feel better that I am not alone in my own problems of coping. I know what you mean about coping for so long then a panic attack will suddenly come on. We have to try to cope in our own way and not feel guilty when things get too much.
  7. I have a non diag AS son and just wondered how many of you suffer from Anxiety and panic attacks. I think my has got gradually worse over the years with the stress AS brings on a family also other things have triggered it.
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    keep getting

    I keep being emailed every new topic , How can I stop this, in an easy language please. I have ticked a box somewhere but cant remember where. Thanks
  9. Just wondered if your ASD kids look generally happy or sad everyday. Apart from the times when they start getting near a meltdown. My son always seems cross with the world and not much seems to make him look happy. IS this an AS symptoms? Even when life is calm for him he looks like he is unhappy. I know AS children can have a lack of expression. Also do they sit in very strange positions to watch TV. Jsut another thing I have noticed.
  10. Hello I am back again. Feeling a bit down about it all but thanks for all the suport . Kirstie I have been told the same thing, because my son who is 9, had to cope with us going through a divorce this has caused to be like this. He had problems when he was a baby/ toddler long before his Dad left. he was 6 when his Dad left. My support group thinks he has aspergers so trying to find out what to do next. I would like someone to read his symptoms and see what you think. Either I can put them on here or if someone wants to PM me with their email address i can send the symptoms. I am sure I am right about aspergers even if it might be on the milder scale as the severe ASD is a lot worse. We still have melt down and starting of self harm mild things which could develop worse but still worrying. I have managed to ease this but the angry and aggression when things dont go just so.Routines,literal thingking. obsessions. Social skills. The Dr thinks because he did not show sign at school he cant have AS. My Son bottle things up all day and would not dare have a meltdown as he would be so embarassed in from of friends or people at school. Opal
  11. We had a psy Dr say that my DS has NOT got ASD. It is all down to anxiety I have been told.. I really dont agree. How can the literal thinking, getting confused with more than 1 thing being told to him.lots more aswell. I have also noticed that he is becoming obsessed with everything in his room having a certain place. feeling tired from the stress of things. will come back later to chat.
  12. I am confused at what the difference is between Psychologist and a phsychatrist. It is a phsychatrist that I am going to see regarding my DS. Does it make any difference on there approach to autism.
  13. opal

    IEP ?

    thanks annies
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    IEP ?

    I am really pleased with my DS teacher. She is really in tune with things regarding the suspected AS. She seems to be working with me which is great and wants to help him while in school and to be able to cope with everything. She is getting his IEP ready for me to take to the Physchiatrist. Can anyone explain what the IEP is.
  15. My appointment was cancelled but have spoke to the dr on phone and he seems great. Very understanding and has given me hope that we get it sorted what ever help my son needs. Go an appointent in 2 weeks. Fingers crossed and i think we are getting there at last. THe dr is a pychiatrist.
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