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Bevvy

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  1. Hi I was too reading a reply to another thread regarding 'pushing' your child to do things. My son (4 with suspected Aspergers) is scarred of everything - water pistols, hairdryers, bouncy castles, bikes, rides, new climbing frames, trains. So much so that it affects where we can go out. If I gently 'force' him, with usually much embarassing commotion - it looks as if I am torturing him and everybody stares disapprovingly!! - he does end up liking certain things. Prime example is this. Last week he was given a water pistol in a party bag. He was petrified of it, wouldn't have it in his sight. Silly I know but gradually by me spraying the flowers with it and then spraying myself and then slowly his toes he is no longer petrified infact he keeps asking for me to get it out and squirt him. He would still freak if it went in his face but at least now we won't have the screaming ab-dabs everytime it comes out! Sometimes what separates our children from others and makes them stand out is such fears and obsessions and while this strategy won't work on all levels for some things it has helped. Same with train rides. My son is obessed with trains but wouldn't go on one. My husband picked him up kicking and screaming on put him on one and within 5 minutes it was the best thing ever! It is almost like desensitizing him. Now I refuse to wait until he is out to vaccum. I turn the telly up for him and carry on. He complains that it's too noisy but it has stopped the hysterics! I know there are somethings that this wouldn't work for like forcing him to stand next to the food blender when it's on but for others it can help. Anyone else had any experience of this? Or am I cruel? Thanks
  2. Hi I have read a lot of threads on here mentioning Social Stories. Can you please tell me what they are and what they are used for? Oh and if you make them up yourself or you buy them? Sorry I have no idea. Thanks
  3. Hi Seem to be on a roll today with my posts... Do your Aspergers/ASD children love or loathe fairgrounds and rides? The long long (!) summer holidays are coming up and I already have friends suggesting we meet at theme parks etc for a day out. Problem is that for me it will be a waste of money. My son (4, suspected Aspergers) will appear all enthusiastic at first saying 'I love this theme park, I do' and 'I am very excited, aren't I'! But as soon as I suggest a ride even the tamest one meant for tiny toddlers he will flap and wave and jump up and down and say nooooo! And we will end on in a small playground area with a swing and slide that we could have done for free at home! I did once after hours of persuasion manager to get him on a bouncy castle (with me in tow) and he loved it and didn't want to come of. We went to a party the following week with one and he wouldn't go near it (with or without me!). Explain that! Any tips or should I just abandon the idea all together.. Will he always have fear of them? Thanks
  4. I am reading lots on the posts about meltdowns and I understand from some that they can be absolutely horrendous. What is the difference between a meltdown and a tantrum? I know some people have to call the police! My boy (nearly 4, suspected Aspergers) has a tendency to throw toys, (not lots just the one he may be holding at the time) , stamp his feet and make 'angry noises' if he doesn't get his own way or if I tell him to play nicely or threaten a punishment. I have always just seen this as a tantrum as most 4 year old get. He also can get very emotional over little things and it takes a lot to snap out of it. Is this classed as a meltdown? I understand some are related to much more complex things like a build up of stress over the day. Could you give me your experiences or meltdowns and do they get worse with age? Am I being stupidly optimistic to think my experiences are just tantrums that he may grow out of? thanks
  5. I know this subject has come up before but after another haircut from hell I just had to get some support and advice from you.. My son who will be 4 next month (and who I suspect has Aspergers) went to the hairdressers today. He had been going to the barbers which although is traumatic for everyone involved was at least quick as they use the clippers. But last time was so traumatic (he said he didn't like the machine), we took him to a quiet back-street hairdressers and warned the lady what he would be like and she said she would give it a go. Anyway he just kicked off big time as soon as the scissors came out and we had to abandon it as he was so distraught and kicked and screamed and went absolutely off the scale!! I have tried bribery, giving him sweets explaining that it won't hurt. But it seems he has just got himself in a right lather about haircuts. Any suggestions as he is getting worse and worse each time we go. And he has the type of hair that he needs it cut every 6 weeks otherwise he will look like a scarecrow! Have any of your children gone through this and do they grow out of it and at what age. Each visit gets worse than the last and is destroying me slowly but surely!! Thanks
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