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curlywurly

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  1. Thanks for the kind words and advice xXx
  2. Hi Emma, and welcome to the forum
  3. Welcome to the forum I'm far to scared to get caught up in all the debate, but I have an aspies son, and a DH with strong aspies traits. I myself also show alot of aspies traits (poor boy never had a chance lOL) - although they are also linked with other conditions, or could just be down to my complete social ineptitude..... Anyway - that's it - just trying to be a bit more vocal on the forum
  4. Firstly, a quick apology - as I only ever seem to log on to this forum when I'm at my wits end. Maybe if I looked through the posts more regularly, I wouldn't end up at my wits end in the first place..... My son in 8, and has Aspergers (although it is still not 'official' it has been acknowledged by his school/teachers - though he is still waiting to see the ed psych to have extra support put in place)... I could go on and on atm tbh, but am really upset about his latest hobby - which appears to be stealing. We have just come back from a holiday, and when unpacking his bag, I found 5 things which he had pilfered from shops while we were there. They were only little - but that's irrelevant. On the first day of hols, he took a postcard from the on site shop, and claimed he thought they were free - although when my DH and I speculated that this was not the case and wondered aloud how much they would cost, he said '15p' - so he knew they were on sale, but took it anyway. When told to take it back, he made as if to do so, and then (I later found out) just came back to the caravan and hid it! He knows the difference between right and wrong. He knows what stealing is, and that it is wrong. When presented with the things he had taken, he just said 'I'm sorry' - so he already knew he had done wrong, but did it anyway. After a lecture from myself and my husband about what would happen if he got caught stealing, he just stared right through me and said 'so what are you going to do with these'? That was all he cared about!?! When we said 'you could have been caught' he just said 'well, I wasn't'! I'm at my wits end, but this just takes the biscuit! I wonder if anyone has experianced similar situations - I am so embarrased! Vicky xXx
  5. Cam went up the the juniors in sept. Since then we've had nothing but probs. Cam has aspergers, and really has no interest in school work what-so-ever, despite being very bright. All through infant school (when we knew there was a problem, and were fighing to get a diagnosis and some actual help) I was very active in the school....after exhausting so many different ways to try and get Cam interested, I found that he absolutly loved having me in school, as it made him feel special. So I went in, and helped out - I knew his teachers and his classmates, and Cam was performing pehaps not to the best of his ability, but things seemed to be taking an upturn.... Now, it seems we're back to battling again - me against the teacher..... I've tried to set up meetings with her, and have been fobbed off. I've tried to talk to her about the bullying and things, and explained that Cameron is special - but she just expects him to fall in line with the class. I know at Cam's age he should be taking alot more responsibilty for himself - I encourage that wholeheartedly at home - but it's like he's just been thrown in with the sharks.....and his self-esteem is suffering as he see's such things as a personal attack. We got a sarcy comment in his reading book a couple of weeks ago, saying 'you're supposed to read 5 times a week' - the 5 being underlined 3-4 times. I thought about replying and saying 'yes, we have been reading 5 times a week, but I didn't see the need to fill in the name of the book 5 times. Similarly in the last 2 weeks, we've had more comments along the same lines. They're aimed at Cameron, but directed at us - I know she's trying to insinuate that he doesn't get support at home, but in fact the complete opposite is true....I don't know how I can let her know that without getting worked up. The infant school teachers knew how hard I worked with cameron - doing flashcards and things to try and keep him up to speed - constantly getting books that were of interest to him so he would want to read them - he must have about 100 dinosaur books by now..... Sorry for the long post - this has got me really upset.
  6. I've been in similar situations with my little boy - all he wants is to be friendly, and at a park or some other situation he will just walk up to people (he's chatted up teenage girls before - bless him) and introduce himself with his full name and age. Some children will be friendly, some quietly mocking, and others just plain nasty - whatever the reaction, he carries on in his own merry way - and it tears me to bits! Vicky XXX
  7. Have you tried putting it on some of her favourite drink?
  8. I'm new to this site....I believe my son has aspergers but is yet to recieve an official diagnosis. When I was surfing the net to see if I could put a name to my son's particular myriad of eccentricities, I took a quiz myself - the results of which were that I had all the hallmarks of an adult with this condition. Should I look further into this, or just do my best to help my son? PS. I also suffer from severe clinical depression - I don't know whether this should make a difference to me OR my son...
  9. Hiya - new to the forum, so hope you don't mind me posting - was directed here by some GREAT friends who and also WONDERFUL parents! My little boy is 7, and he is textbook Aspergers - I won't go into the details as I'm sure you all know the condition inside and out. As Far as we've gone with getting 'help' - my GP refered us to local Childrens Mental Health Team - who visited and bounced us to the school....the thing is that he goes up to Junior school in September, so getting 'assistance' would be over before it even started. We have already been told that he will be in the 'special' class in Junior school - which comes as something of a blow for us, as he is SO bright....he just doesn't work to nearly a fraction of his potential if it's not something he's interested in - it just goes in one ear and out the other, and I have tried EVERYTHING to make learning interesting for him. Also adding to the problem is that Cameron has no desire to emulate his peers, so he doesn't have that 'drive'. So far he is doing ok socially, in his own little way, he has some special friends, but he has no idea of what is appropriate, or how to react to the feelings of others. Ok, now I feel awful - whenever I talk about Cam's feubles, I feel like I'm running him down, and I'm not - he's the most caring little boy in the world - I just don't want to see him struggle in life! Thanks - any suggestions, or even just pointing me in the right direction would be much appreciated! Vicky XXX
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