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Hope thinks are going to be ok.Keep us all informed.Try to rest, easier said than done i know. <'> <'> <'>

I had loads of night terrors night after nioght when i was young.my mum took me to the dr's in the end.He reckoned my brain was unable to switch off.I am sure I have read somewhere this is a feature of a.s. could be wrong though

I just wondered what others thoughts were on this.Are people with a.s. more likely to bear a grudge and find it more difficult to forgive and forget than others. Do they also often take offense where none is meant (where perhaps they haven't understood properly) and think everyone is out to do them some great misjustice. It is just that as a child my mum was always telling me to let things go and forgive and forget.As an adult I have learnt to do that(kind of) but my memeory makes it difficult for me to forget.i do try to forgive though as I dont want to end up some bitter twisted old lady Just wondered what others views were on this. Do people witha.s. find it difficult to forgive and forget, and think the world is out to get them(I appreciate it probably is sometimes )

Phasmid Would you say sleep disorders, hallucinations etc are apart of A.s.then?

Bless him <'> <'> <'> I'll have this to come with my son his sister is five years older than him. At the moment she is only nine so my three and a half year old's greatest ambition is to be in her secret club!!!I guess we will progress on from here though

I think tha before aspergers was known about people were perhaps described as 'odd', different or wierd. People who do not know aspergers might say for instance'x has poor social skills'.People with aspergers will not present as entirely normal but may do if you didn't know the condition. Because it gets put down to other things 'x is rude' 'x is shy' etc etc. This is where many people on the higher functioning end of the spectrum slip the net as it were. Especially adults that when they went to school aspergers was not widely heard of. Some people with aspergers are able to communicate far better wtriting things down than they are verbally. Many people with aspergers will talk at you instead of to you and will often change the subject in the middle of the conversation to talk about what they would like to talk about, often their obsessions. In conclusion I would very much doubt someone would come across as entirely normal but a.s. itself may not be picked up especially on the higher functioning end of the spectrum, especially as many people are sadly still very ignorant about the condition. Many people with aspergers are very repeatitive as well so this would be noticable.Some adults with a.s. could have been very passive at school, which some people with a.s. are.A further reason to slip throught the net. In most cases eye contact is also poor which is why some people in ignorance would describe the person having poor social skills or being rude. Hope this helps.

This sounds an unkind thing to do to an eight year old child.I would advise you to ask your dad about it if at all possible. The other thing i would say it is fairly common for people with a.s. to have very few friends.Some don't seem to want or need them in the same way as others.Some would like them but struggle to make them. What people with a.s. love to do like you said is they often prefer to have online friends.I think it is because they feel more comfortable and if they need time on their own pursuing their various interests, then they can do that.They can control how much time they give or don't give.Also they don't have to worry about when to speak what to say etc.they have time to think about what they want to say etc. Hope this makes sense.

I too have been in this situation kind of.I watched and watched my youngest after my daughters autistic encephalitus convinced he was going to be autistic.When i saw his excellent eye contact, his pretend play and his willingness to be hugged and cuddled, i could have cried with relief.It took me until he was nearly three and he began to develop more and more to realise he was not autistic.Trouble is i had missed out on all his babyhood and basically the first three years of his life through sheer anxiety and worry. Brilliant news

I thought this too but then I wondered did they mean Annie. I too would like to recommend Mossgrove as well for next time, if reccomendations are allowed that is

Bullet <'> <'> <'> <'> I can relate to some of what you are saying

Baddad No probs.i too could say much more but there are people on here whose difficulties are far more important than mine. I hope you find some kind of way forward with your son, From your posts on here i would guess you are an excellent parent that truely cares about his son.Hope things get better for you soon. To be honest you may will be right in that I have traits of a.s. because all though I find my possible a.s. annoying it does not seem to affect my life as much as some others on here e.g. your son <'> <'> <'> Best wishes.I hope things get better for you and your family in the near future.Keep fighting.

Carole You have my sympathy.I do understand where you are coming from and I also know how difficult it is to be a parent of achild/children on the spectrum.I know because i have been there allbeit for six months and it was hell. <'> <'> <'> Sending some of these. Moss grove I agree with much of your posting.I think there is a lot of grey area in between.I am well aware I am fortunate compared to lots of others.If anyone needs support then they can p.m me and I will do my best to help. Tania Glass Re diagnosis I feel in my particular case that the negatives of me having a diagnosis if I were able to get one outway the positives. I have read of cases one actually in my hometown where a woman because she had a.s. had her children taken away from her.Otheres have lost their jobs.I don't wish for either of those things to happen to me. I am fortunate in that i can try to get round things. Baddad I am wel aware of the difference between depression and feeling down.When my daughter was ill and throughout the pregancy of my son and for about a year after his birth i was diagnosed with suffering from depression. The symptoms were as follows. Unable to sleep, kept waking up in the night crying Unable to eat, to the point of losing two stone(this was the only good bit!!!) Unable to think straight. Not wanting to go out answer the phone etc Crying every single day and evening I could go on and on but I think enough said, This is a bit different to feeling down. I had to take anti depressants within hours of my son's birth on dr's advice.My depression i was told was 'depression with a known cause. i.e. my daughters autistic encephalitus. I realise I am very lucky compared to many people here and my heart goes out to all of you who are struggling day in and day out. <'> <'> <'> <'>

I am not offended by peoples comments at all.i would only be too pleased not to have it.It does effect my life to a certain extent.I would like to think it doesn't at all but that is probably not the case. I struggle with communication and emotions.I regularly talk over the top of people because i am unsure of where the break in the conversation is.I will either be extremely over emotional or extremely under emotional when you would expect the opposite. I struggle to take in large amounts of info and am unable to realise how someone might be feeling.I cannot always interrpret what someone is saying.i also do not have the same need to socialise as others and will often try my hardest to get out of social events.(two kids provide the perfect excuse) I talk constantly really fast and often fire off twenty questions in a row at my poor daughter trying to get every detail. I also would stongly suspect i have ocd.The two conditions often run alongside one and other. I have taken about four online tests I know they are only a guidline but on every one I have come up well within the scores for someone on the spectrum. I strongly suspect other family members of having the condition.My own daughter suffered from autistic encephalitus and the genetist we saw at Gt ormond street said it was more than probable there was a genetic element involved, I think what i perhaps should have said is that compared to some people I do not think my level of a.s. affects my life as much as it does other people that have it and I do not consider I need a written diagnosis.I am not entirely convinced in my case the positives would out way the negatives. I also have the excellent memory that others are talking about in a recent post about a.s. and memory. It could well be that I have asperger tendancies and not full blown aspergers(I have always said my a.s. is mild)as my eye contact is perfect and I have no probs with short term memory.If that was the case then great, brilliant.I would be only too pleased.

From my experience people with a.s. have an absolutely fantastic long term memory.I actually can remember sitting in my pram!!How scary is that.I can remember where the furniture was in a house i lived in when I was just three.i still walk down this road now and i can remember whatside of the road it was on and i think i have narrowed it down to a couple of houses. My father was a signalman and I can remember going to work with him and pulling all the levers to make the trains operate.I was probably about two!! I can remeber everything about living at my nan's when I was only three. Your right many people with a.s. have an appalling short term memory and are unable to remember hurtful things they have said or done and you can often be accused of making it up.it is very distressing.My husband has a friend like this. I though am different because my short term memory is as good as my long term memory.My husband often calls me the walking memory bank. At work when people want to remember details of their own lives that happened years ago(have worked with the same people for years!) they come up to me and ask me, you'll know they say you remember everything from the year dot.It all gets filed away on a giant disc or something!! From articles i have read many people with a.s. can remember the colour of furnishings curtains carpets etc and even what they felt like going right back to when they were a tiny child. Even at school other mums ask me who is it what class, what's this persons name etc.My daughter had only been at the school a month I knew the names of all the girls in her class before she herself did and all the names of the girls in the other class that's thirty odd girls, much to hubbies amusement. At my daughter's dancing I know everybodys name, my daughter does not and what classes they do e.g. tap, ballet, modern, jazz, gym etc.There must be about 80 girls.I am a mind of useless information

I feel pretty sure I have it too but it does not interfer with my life to the extent that I feel I need a diagnosis.but everyone is different.

I personally do not think i need a diagnosis because i am lucky in that i am able to lead a normal life.If i had a diagnosis I would or could lose my job and also there are stories of people having a diagnosis and having their children taken away from them.It actually happened in my home town.So thanks but no thanks. As most people know i am hidden gem's sister and if i had done this test for him like his friends did he would have scored far higher than he is claiming he did.I suppose it all depends on A.How you see yourself B.How aware you are. Certainly he must present very differently to his friends than he does to me. Or maybe like siomeone else was saying when they did the test with their daughter I think it was they knew she was answering the questions untruthfully and didn't want to upset her.

Well it worked but i can't seem to get mine as big as yours

Right Let me try

Excellent news.many people with ASD are very good in the arts field, often becoming great artists or writers. Well done to him

I am guilty of this too.I'm sorry I will set up a new thread too like mother Eve says.I appreciate it can be very frustrating and annoying.Please accept my apology

Well I got the colour but not the size will ask hubbie later

sorry I want to try now

Welcome will I believe i have a.s. although i think fairly mild.i too have self diagnosed. You will find lots of others in your situatuion here and loads of help and support

That's good news.You must be proud.Well done <'> <'> <'>

The maps and london underground is a very aspie thing. Although i personally have no interest in trains or maps of the Londom underground or otherwise. I think you can get a book or maps on disused stations as well.