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Yes thanks for the replies, i guess your both right. I just find it so frustrating. He is a mini dragons den in the making...not that this helps me now! Sometimes after, i wish i hadnt even questioned what was happening at the time (but isnt that part of parenting? and teaching choices) I have to teach myself a way of not responding to the repetitive arguments he seems to want to always have. In another sense, this is the only social conversations we tend to have because everything is steered towards a discussion of Cons liking....and so on. I dont even play World Of Warcraft eeeeeeeeeek. really really trying to smile... Lisaxx

Hi Sorry to burden everyone with my woes but am in desperate need of letting off steam. My son is currently driving me insane with the whole literal thing. Diagnosed when he was 7, i quit my job to try and gain enough information to support and help my son in every way possible. At the moment he is beginning exams in secondary mainstream and so intelligent in lots of ways that make me proud. However at home im seeing a child that thinks he is an adult, that corrects my every saying and argues every point to the extreme. I know that i should be used to this by now and especially as i work with special needs...maybe even more so. Maybe i am overdosing on Aspergers (hope that doesnt sound awful as not meant to) I was kind of hoping as he got older that our relationship would become better and that things would get easier as i really want the best for him and his DX sis ...at the moment im feeling some resentment which i know isnt good.Im sure it'll pass. Thanks for listening.

Hi Jan, My son is almost 16 and has aspergers...and i can really relate to the arggghhhh bit lol. Especiallyat the moment. Lisa

Hi My daugher has ADHD and ODD and we have a whippet.She dotes on him bigtime.The only thing i find is , that amongst all the cuddles and the love she gives him , she also tries to control him in a sibling type of way.If hes a good boy and does as she says then hes fine , if he doesnt do what she would like then he gets called all the names under the sun in a rather loud voice.Luckily he is really tolerant of this and puts up with this.Lots of breeds wouldn't! Whippets are very placid. Lisa x

Hi Over the years my son has also been intrigued by fire.When he was 8 he put a cushion on the fireplace till it burnt then put the smouldering cushion in his wardrobe to hide the evidence ,i guess.Luckily he was ok and no damage was done.Last christmas he decided to put some paper on the lights in his bedroom and again tried to hide it .Hes 12 now and the fascination hasn't seemed to have dissapeared. Lisa x

Hi I was wondering if anyone else has had a child start at grammar this year. have to say my son is already finding it extremely difficult in terms of homework , organisation etc.try to tell myself that he would still get homework at a comp and have to be organised so whats the difference. All i know is he is very unhappy at the moment and having had quite a few bad comments written in his homework diary i dont think his esteem is too high either. What angers me is that when he started i spoke to the senco and exchanged lots of notes on what is the best way to work with him (for their sakes as much as my sons) so far his AS doesn't seem to have been taken into account at all.I have unanswered questions in his contact book (Sorry, thought that is what they are supposed to be for!!). He is already asking to leave and go to a different school after not much more than 2 months.I was so proud of his eleven plus results and he is a very clever kid , but now i am doubting my decision to send him there and feeling guilty at the same time.I am going in to school to speak with his form tutor to see if anything can be done unfortunately he isnt statemented.As i work in a special school i see too many poor kids that cant face secondary and come to us at that year 7 age.So i dont want to leave it to late.Any ideas or anyone else having similar problems.Id be grateful for some advice.Thanks lisa

Sorry just wanted to add to that .Have you tried contacting the school and enquiring about finding a buddy that can be educated re-asperger behaviours.this would give an older child a lot of responsibility and reward and would be someone your daughter could turn to , if need be .They have a buddy system in my daughters primary school and she helped a lot with my daughter. Lisa

Hi Karen , My son is also starting school in sept and im dreading it to be honest,though im sure he will be fine.He gave me his first positive comment last week since we started the whole looking for a school process and said he thought it would be good because you was treated more like an adult.This was quite a breakthrough for him as he wasn't happy with our choice of grammar school and was keener on the science tech that he was offered a place at .Unfortunately i thought the day of 7am till 530 would be too much for him and decided on the other option. My son also isnt very good at sport and hates the taking part , but somewhere along the way they will find something they are good at and build on that and probably gain a load of respect along the way for that special thing.High schools seem to be a lot more aware of aspies now and are willing to make a few more allowances .Good luck to your daughter im sure she'll be fine! Lisa x

Hi my son has asperger 11 and my daughter 8 odd/adhd/social impairment so her diagnosis goes , but in her own way i think she is more asperger.This gets me thinking is it different in girls than boys ?? lisa x

Absolutely fags,id give anything to take mine away now and start a new life in a better place. Kids adapt though,sometimes better than we think.I work in an autistic school and believe it or not the students i have ,understand their teacher better than they do any of us , and shes spanish.Just go's to show. Lisa x

My daughter seems to be a bit of both.Loves anything girly , first to get the glitter and the pink,fluffy,sparkly anything,but then first to climb trees,fences,crawl round the floor and get dirty.Infact insists on such pretty girly outfits to wear then ..crawls round the floor, takes out any hair clips,shoes are off before they are barely on in the first place . Lisa x

Hi Apparently this a really nice place to live .I have a colleague that was also interested in buying there and from the feedback he has given me, i too was thinking of looking at properties in that area.Goodluck and try contacting serbias autism support group. Lisa x

Hi My son hates too many clothes.he wears t-shirts all year round and will refuse to wear a coat even if raining .His view is he is now immune to cold weather.Wont wear jeans/trousers and has to feel every fabric i buy before wearing.dreading buying uniform for secondary in sept. Lisa

All this sounds so familiar to me.I have 2 very literal children .My daugher came out with a new one tonight.She was looking at a book and said 'can you read this to me , i want to know the story, not read it'.I think i kind of understood what she meant. Lisa x

Also near gravesend kent Lisa