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Hi Lauren, Welcome to the forum. There are some very knowledgable people here, so I am sure you will be able to get many answers to any questions you may have. We home educated our son with AS (now aged 9) from 2002 to september 2004 and found it to be a generally postive experience. He is back in mainstream school at the moment and has just recieved his first statement, so it will full-time for him in September ( the first time since the 6 months he did in reception)! Like yourself, till date we have been unable to find an appropriate school, but live in hope that one day..... We will not hesitate to go back to home education, if when he reaches 11 he is still not placed in an appropriate environment, as we feel he would never be able to cope with the hussle and bussle of secondary. Looking forward to catching up with you around the forum. Regards, tizz

Well done lil-me It will give you 3 years to build your strength up ready for the next battle with them tizz

WOW what fantastic news God it makes me so that we have to fight for the most basic of rights for our children... WELL DONE tizz

Hi Flutter, Try not to worry too much, hope your alone time helps. Sending you a big hug <'> and will be looking forward to reading your posts when you feel up to it. tizz

Hi Sylv, Thank you for your kind words and understanding...I think your right...what goes around comes around! tizz

Hi, Well my son (aged 9) doesn't seem to find anything funny, he just takes the whole world oh so seriuosly. tizz

Hi Hectorshouse, Sorry no pearls of wisdom from me either, I just wanted to say hope it all goes well. I've also just signed my son's proposed statement, and his immediate chance of moving to a special school. Buy hey, I thought to myself, I'm going to ask the school to call an emergancy review after christmas and spend the next few months gathering as much evidence as poss! ( sure the school will help as they voice the same concern as me about where he should be). Best wishes for getting through this difficult time <'> tizz

Definately NO NO NO Its been a fight the whole way, and I can't see any change on the horizon! My son still does not have the edcuation provision that he rightly deserves. He has never, not once, been able to fully access the curriculum!

Hi Trinity, I'm baffled by your SENCO's behaviour, but not suprised ( if that makes sense). Before my son got his dx, he and us were treated as if he was a naughty boy. Things have changed since he has been dx with AS, but we've still had to push, push, push. I'm quite new to all this as my son was only given a dx this year ( it tooks years to get that!), so I'm not that able to give advice, however, there are some very knowledgeable people on this site, who I am sure will be able to give you some very helpful ideas. It could very well be a good idea, to inform the school in writting, that you feel your child could at anytime react violently at school, due to his increased stress levels. At least this will go some way in supporting you, if an incident occurs. Dito to what Zemanski said - it wouldn't hurt to look at other schools and definately contact the LEA Good Luck, tizz

Hi Paul, Just a thought, does this child have a statement of special needs? My sons statement states that every adult who comes into contact with him, should be fully aware of his condition (AS) and how he can respond to incidents in school. If this teacher is aware of your friends child's problems, then he must surely have know that his actions would have prvoked a negative response, and as such he is probably to blame for it occurring. Hope it all works out ok Regards tizz

Fantastic Its sooooo good to hear some great positive news

Hi Opal, I know just how your feeling, our son who's 9 has never once been invited to a party. We have invited children round to play, but they have always turned the invite down. The teacher tells me the other children are nervous of him, because of his odd behaviour flapping arms e.t.c. However, recently he has learn some magic card tricks and we have noticed that in the playground before school, some of the other children took notice of him and were interested in what he was doing! Unfortunately because the cards are no longer in perfect condition ( they got damp) they have been in and out of the bin so many times, he doesn't want to play with them anymore. Also he is very immature for his age, and the gap seems to be widening tizz

Well done witsend you mastered the clickable smilies tizz

Hi Hev, Dito to the 'Asperger's Syndrome' by Tony Attwood and 'Freaks, Geeks & Asperger Syndrome' by Luke Jackson, they are both good introductions into AS. I found them both very good starting points and it was like reading about my son. As for a book written from a mother's point of view, yes like Elanor said they are very personal and quite rightly one sided. One book I liked was 'Multicoloured Mayhem' by Jacqui Jackson ( Lukes mum). I read this before I found this site ( probably the best advice / support I've found so far) and found it really helpful, in not making me feel so alone. Although one point to mention, she writes about all her children, not just AS. Just a note...do you belong to a library? because if you do, they can order books in from other libraries for you to read...and all free of charge! Regards, tizz

Hi Melow / Loulou, A few weeks ago, I was contacted by Careers Support, who recomended that I contact SS for both an assessment for my son and one for myself as his carer. To date, I've not asked, but after reading your posts, it seems like it might be a waste of time anyway. Does anyone have any postive experience with SS, does anyone think that they can support and help our children? tizz

Hi Viper, Good News, glad to hear you've got your appointment. Thinking about how daunted you feel about going to London on public transport, it might be an idea to have a friend you trust in back up, ready to go, just in case your first friend can't make it on the day. Hope it all goes well, tizz

Hi Guys, Thanks for all your replies. I'm surprised by all the positive comments, as I had only thought of it as a negative thing - so you've given me plenty to think about. His schooling at present, is in mainstream, however I did notice that the edcuational psychologist did suggest that other resources be looked at, especially at secondary age. My biggest concern, is that over the last couple of years my son has become very aware of how 'different' he is too other children. He has no friends in school and there is really no interaction, even in class, if he is made to work with another child, it usally results in a meltdown. So I am concerned that by screening him off, he will only suffer from feeling even worse about being different and that the other children will continue to avoid him. Regards, tizz

Hi Viper, I posted on your post about Leaving Ben at school and this one, and sure enough the've flown right down the postings???????? sorry I can't help as to why thats happened! tizz

Hi Viper, Maybe you should ring if it will put your mind at rest. But you never know, you could be plesantly surpised at how he copes. Hope the day goes well for Ben. tizz

Hi call-me-jaded, Have decided to just go for it! day two went ok, I took him to sainsburys and he had his pick of the "free-from" shelf, as I want to find out what little treats he likes the most. The stuff is very expensive I thought, but my GP has offered to fund ( i imagine that will be part fund) the diet, with the results and recomendation from the ARU at Sunderland uni. Thanks for the warning about withdrawl symptons, I'll be ready for them now! Tizz

Hi guys, I was just wondering about what all your thoughts were on screening within the classroom. I have noticed while reading through all the evidence that accompained my son's statement proposal that the ed psych has suggested that he be partially screened from the rest of the class to help him stay on track and concentrate for longer periods of time. So is this a benifical tool that will enable him, or just a form of segregation that will only highten his sense of being "different". tizz

Congrats on your deserved victory Like phasmid, I was also late in the day following your story. I'm am still gob smacked that you had to fight in the first place! Well Done! Tizz

Hi kazzdt, Have a good one in S-o-S, hope the sun shines and theres plenty of ice-cream! I love S-o-S, my husbands from Essex and we use to spend many a happy hour dancing the night away! Hi Carole, nothing to forgive, the answer to that is no...its states how many points he gets, which is twenty, and that is in turn a set amount of cash for the school. He will also continue getting funding from the "behavioural management team" i thinks thats what their called, as well as the normal school funding. It does mention full-time though. The SENCO has explained that it is more than enough to retain a full-time assistant just for him, and she told me they were going to start advertising now! Your making me nervous, do you think they are pulling a fast one, and he's not going to get what the've told me he will. I will be soooooo bl***y angry if they mess me about after all this fighing! The five minutes ago happy chick, who's now growing slighty nervous, tizz.

p.s Witsend, To use the clickable smiles, just place the curser where you want one and click on the similie you want to use...like this ( in the text you were typing- where your curser was placed you will see text added in such as "" which is what appears for the smilie above) Hope that helps tizz

Hi Witsend, I'm so glad to hear that the meeting was successful I hope it goes a long way to helping you get what you need for the future. Enjoy your drink tonight Tizz