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Hi Paul, Welcome to the site - its a really supportive place, thats pack with useful info to boot. Hope to catch up with you around the forum. Regards, tizz.

Hi Guys, Thanks for the advice. The teacher is already using certificates to encourage him to hand in work, but as they are also used for other "good behaviour" such as working with another child, I'm begining to wonder if they are perhaps used for too wider goals? Hey Zamanski, I think it would be very interesting to observe his teachers facial expresion if I suggest he had higher standards than her! Hectorshouse, I can totally identify with the in-and-out of the bin routine. Last week a pack of cards, which had got slightly damp were tossed into the bin, only for him to realise 10 minutes later, that without them he couldn't practice his card tricks....this went on for the whole day! Just a thought...do any of you guys think that kids can get certificate/sticker/star fatigue??? surely they must get bored of this at some stage? tizz

Hi guys, I know its been a while since the postings about my son starting EyeQ were posted here, but I just wanted to say... We or should I say he's just completed his three months of 6 capsules a day and has moved on to 2. I feel they have been very benifical. He seems calmer and has certainly been less aggressive. I know I can't possible prove that this is as a direct reslut of using EyeQ, but I don't mind, we are going to stick with them for the forceable future. Today he had his first gluten-free day and he hasn't moaned once! In fact when I presented him with his own little lasanger in a seperate dish, he was thrilled...roll on the dissapearence of those horrible black rings under his eyes! Any tips on how you guys have implimented the diet...do I introduce it slowly, or just go for it?

Hi Carole, Thanks for the idea about getting him to hiss his remarks in the ear of the classroom assistant (he gets his own full time TA very soon - horray ) Im going to mention that idea to his teacher straight away, thanks. I had to laugh at your sons inapropriate remarks in public...my son has also come out with some corkers that although at the time were really embarrassing make me laugh now. We were once in a very long queue in a fish and chip shop on holiday, when my son began to ask...oh so loudly...why was that man so fat? we asked him to sushh, but the giggles began in the queue, which for him meant people interacting with him, so he just went on and on asking, why was he so fat? Also if he see's anyone smoking, he will go up to them and ask, why are you killing yourself...and when they look dumbstruck...he just repeats himself "no really, why are you killing yourself? its always the exact same words, in the exact same order in the exact same formal speech! Don't you just love em tizz

Hi carerquie and carole, You are both right of course, and come to think of it, I can't understand how I've let it go on so long. I guess I just excepted their decissions without questioning them. On the bright side , his statement proposal arrivied a couple of days ago, and he is to get funding for a full-time assistant, so there will be no reason for them to exclude him now (he has only been attending school part-time for the last 2 years). tizz

He loves green, always has had. Interestingly I asked him, what colour do you see when you are feeling upset, angry,frustrated e.t.c and he said dark red / brown. I asked him what colour do you see when you are happy and he replied pale green and he also added that pale or pastal colours make him feel relaxed ( but not any shade of red or brown - however light) On reflection, we painted the bathroom a very pale blue last summer and its only been since then that he has stayed in the bath for over 30 seconds without active encouragement. Right I'm off to B&Q to get a lorry load of pastel paint, going to cover the whole house in it tizz

You guys are lucky to have such good school staff who are willing to put in that extra effort to include the children in the rest of the classes activities. My son is 9 and has never been on a school trip, school swimming lesson or even been included in the activities that come into school ( the magician last year - teacher thought it might be too much of a change for him to cope with - I ask you!). I have offered to attend these trips, and take responsibility for him, but that still has not shifted their view that for health and safety reasons, they can't include a child that doesn't like a change in his routine. They came close this year, with a trip to Hampton Court Palace, we filled in the form, paid the money, then the day before the trip, the head phoned and said that they couldn't take him after all!!! Anyway vent over, what I was going to say was, surely the school have planned for the care of your son outside of the school building and are confident enough to include him. Why not talk it over with his teacher to put your mind at rest. Regards, tizz

Me too...what a cliff hanger...bump, bump, and double bump!

Don't feel nervous about making a stand...just hang on to the thought of what may have happened if the person who pulled her out of way, had'nt have acted so quickly! GO GIRL!!!!! Regards, tizz. p.s glad to hear your little girl is feeling better after her awful ordeal

Thanks for all the advice guys, Now you mention it Viper, I probably do over-do-it a bit on the praise, as my son is far from stupid and does tell me off for praising him, when he feels the work is not good enough. He does have an awfully low self-esteem that I worry about constantly, which is why I probably over do the praise. Not sure how I'm going to stop myself from praising everything, but I'm going to give it a try - who knows it might just make him feel the praise is more honest if it comes a little less often. Like your sons carole, my son also doesn't tolerate imperfection, but unfortunately its often in others. I was reading all the school evidence that came with my sons statement proposal yesterday and i noticed a comment from his teacher, which went something like " A** gets very annoyed with other children when they make mistakes reading aloud in class. He will huff and make other gestures that make the children nervous, causing them to often make even more mistakes". Anyone got any ideas on how to teach him to except that each and everyone of us has got very different abilities, including him. tizz

Hi Hev, Glad to hear you've had a couple of very good days...I sure you can keep up all that good / hard work...it seems the proof is in the pudding and what you have been doing is all paying off. Regards, tizz

Hi seeking - sanity, Dito to what the guys have been saying. Our SENCO put off applying for our sons statement until he got his dx ( not that I agreed with her) but she said, through experience, that children with AS without a dx have a very slim chance of even being assessed, but those with a medical dx stand a far better chance. Anyway our sons proposal was delivered a couple of days ago, and we are now well on the way to finally getting what he needs. So now you've got more evidence, start beating on the schools SENCO and the LEA's door to get him assessed. Good Luck, tizz

Hi, I phoned most of the special schools in the local area today, which I thought might suit my son's needs. I was suprised to hear that several of them, thought that he would not have a low enough ability to met their criteria, but quiet rightly could not be certain without knowing all his details. But not one of them had a single place! - so I guess the SENCO and the LEA officer were right - there's not a hope in hell of me getting him into a special school yet. The case officer suggested, that once my son is reviewed in Y5, it would be noted that mainstream is not the correct place for him and that would give her 18months to find the right place....argggggggg they make me so mad....why should he have to wait that long. vent over...tizz

Hi Witsend, Just wanted to say Good Luck for tomorrow. The list thing really does work. I use to forget so much in meetings till someone in the forum kindly advised me to use them. Now the professionals groan when I enter the room with my oh so long list, dangerling around my ankles - but hey it works. Regards, Tizz

Hi all, Has anyone got any idea's or advice on why my son ( 9 with AS) is eating or destroying any school / home work he doesn't like! It is also happening with anything he produces on paper at home which has nothing to do with school work. His teacher has suggested that she feels my son sets so high standards for himself in his head, that when what comes out onto paper doesn't match up to the image he has created in his mind, he gets angry and eats or rips up his work. Has anyone else got experience of this kind of behaviour, is their anything I can do to stop it? We praise all the things he produces and tell him how wonderful they are, but it doesn't make any difference and although my son could eat for england, I sure its not because he's hungry Regards, tizz

Hi Flutter, I agree with suze, keep a diary and tell the school about all of your concerns. Tell them how you anticipate her to react to such incidents, then they can't throw it all back at you. I have just started to do so myself and write letters to the teacher after an incident, explaining what I have done at home, and in addition, I add suggestions on how they could maybe avoid future incidents happening in school. The last one, occured in a queue ( were he seems to have many problems with other children) so I suggested that they didn't in future leave him without full supervision in a queue. Hope the head manages to nip the bullying in the bud, before it gets out of hand and your daughter is feeling better soon. Take care, tizz

Our son flaps his arms and flicks his fingers alot of the time, especially when we are out. He has never flapped his legs...but his walk does change when we go out. He seems to almost bounce with sort of bowed legs and stops walking in a straight line, and nearly always begins to talk to himself. Like you, this behaviour does not bother us, but it does draw stares from others in the street Tizz

Hi Fiorelli, My son (aged 9 with AS) also eats vast quanties of food. He will eat a full size adult meal and still ask for more . We just point him in the direction of the fruit bowl. The only time we feel we have to stop him is in the evenings, before he goes to bed...as he already has problems sleeping, without trying to sleep on a full tummy. I'm sure its nothing to worry about, but mabye you could mention it next time you visit the doctors to put your mind at rest. Regards, tizz

Hi Kirstie, congrats on getting his hair cut My son hates getting his hair cut, but at least he will tolerate it just! He sits in the chair, with his body so stiff, that he makes the hairdresser nervous! Tizz

Hi Pim, Glad to hear that you got some of the stress off your shoulders by talking to other mums. Lets hope that it goes some way to help improve how other parents treat you and your son. I agree with flutter, it is probably wise to approach the school staff about the incident, so that they are made aware...just in case in the future you need their support...and you will already have some evidence in hand. Tizz Thanks all you guys for your words of sympathy and encouragement

Hi Fiorelli & Carer Quie, My son aged 9 is also absolutely terrified of dogs! He won't even go near puppies. He panics just at the sound of a dog barking. It seems to me, his fear is based on the idea that dogs are capable of being dangerous, so therefore he must fear all dogs, because the possibility of danger cannot be ruled out in his mind. tizz

Hi Pim, Just wanted to send you a big hug and warmest wishes...for dealing with this monster mother. My son is now 9, but my first and by far the worst encounter with mothers like this was when he started school. Before he had even reached 5, the mothers had stopped talking to me, had begun to turn their backs and when they did look at me, they used the most horrible facial expressions possible. But the hurt that was to follow, I would not have imagined possible. Once the verbal abuse begun, things became much worse, until I was taken aside by a mother from a different class and informed that the mothers, by this time, well over 20 of them had started a pertition to demand my son's removal from the school. And all led by a parent, who was at the time employed by the school to assist with my son! I cried, I got angry, and tried to deal with the leader. I sought the help of the school ( and to be fair at least the teacher seemed concerned) but the hurt damaged me and my son so much that not long afterwards I removed my son from school and taught him at home. During one conversation with the leader of this pertition, I asked her what my son had done to her daughter? She replied "nothing, but there's something wrong with your kid and we don't want him at our school, near our children". He is now in a different school and I have still not 4 years on, fully got over what happened to us, and I still find it extremely difficult to do the school runs and deal with issues with other parents, what ever they may be, for fear that they are about to become abusive. For quite a while after this incident, I becam so nervous around my son, when we were out the house, that I'm sure it probably damaged our relationship. Anyway, what I wanted to say ( albeit, so long winded - sorry) was that, don't under any circumstance let this mother or any other mother get you down. Don't allow her to make you feel bad about yourself or your son's behaviour. Find what ever way suits you to deal with people like this: talk to her, provide her with information of Autism, ask the head to talk to her, talk it out with others, let her know she's abusing a child with a disability, whatever, you need to do, to unload the burden she's dumped on your shoulders. Sending you warmest wishes and a great big hug <'> Regards, tizz

Hi Clair, My son's proposed statement also came yesterday. This is my first experience of recieving one, so I can't give you much help, but I just wanted to mention that my son's did say how many points he gets ( points equal cash to the school) and he is to recieve 20, which is excellent I am told, as they only go up to a maximum of 24. The school inform me that this is more than enough for him to attend full-time ( he is only part-time at present) and they seemed really pleased, although the SENCO still supports us in the fact that main-stream is not the place for our son. The proposal does lay out exactly what the provision is to be and that it must be measurable. My concern is that although I am asked to suggest a school for my son, both the school and the LEA case officer have both told me that I must agree with his present school being the named choice, as I've got no hope of getting him into the correct school, until they have tried this level of assistance in mainstream...is this true or should I stick to what I belive in and ask for a place in an appropriate school now? Regards, tizz.

Hi Guys, I watched this programme the first time it was aired, roughly six months ago, and I thought it funny to note this evening's screening did not show how the couple got on in America, which was shown on its first screening. I've no idea why they edited it out in this viewing? or why the couple appeared on GMTV this week, which along with the presenters suggested this was the first viewing of this programme? Tizz

Hi Baddad, Thanks for the advice - I've started the eyeQ today - I see what you mean about cost, it was �18 for a 180 capsules! I'm going to introduce things slowly like you mentioned - its funny but my husband said today, that he thought we should try the dairy before the gluten, as he's sure thats what affecting Asa more. I think I will give the eyeQ at least six weeks, maybe even three months to see what real if any difference it makes. After all, Asa is nine now and a few more weeks of wheat and dairy can't do any more harm after so long, and I feel the summer holl's would be a great time to make dietry changes, give Asa a chance to settle before tackling a new class in september (always a difficult time). Goodluck Steve with the sample hunting! Thanks again for the advice Baddad, ttfn, tizz.