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  1. Hi - sorry not replied before now - just wanted to say thanks for the replies. Still don't know what's going to happen with the ex/sister problem but have kind of come to the conclusion it's up to them, I will invite them both and then leave them to decide. I have a feeling my sister will not be happy and may decide to spend Xmas on her own which will make me feel bad but as it's always me who hosts Christmas and I'm happy to invite anyone who wants to come then I can't see what else I can do. Have decided am not going to stress too much about the presents/money I will just buy what I can afford and hope it is appreciated! The car has just broken down yesterday too so it may be an apple an orange and a bag of nuts for all!! I've realised what would really spoil Xmas for the kids is me being stressed out and miserable so with that in mine I am now determined to sail gracefully towards a pared down, whoever comes comes type of Christmas and if it all goes pear shaped I shall just grab a bottle of sherry and sit here on the forum with whoever else is having a less than great time. Cheers - Luv Witsend.
  2. Hi - yes I know it's only October and we've got halloween and bonfire night to come yet but.......am I the only one starting to stress re Christmas already? Don't know how I'm gonna afford it (am pitifully skint) and can't see my fortunes improving between now and then. My Dad announced last year that (for the first time ever) he would be spending it with a friend and not with me or my sister as he has always done! And guess what has just 'mentioned' that he will be doing same this year. My Mum died four years ago just before Christmas so I understand it's hard for him (and us still ) but it still hurts he chooses not to spend the time with his family who would like him here (esp grandchildren!!) My partner and I split up some months ago so that's changed too. However we still see each other and he has just announced he wants to spend Christmas with me and the kids which is lovely but................. I think my sister (divorced 2 kids) may be expecting to come to us (as she did last year) and problem is she refuses to speak to my ex (long story! ) she hasn't actually mentioned it yet so nor have I but.............. Christmas is supposed to be such a happy family time and I used to love it so it's horrible to be sat here wondering how to work it all out so no one is offended and so the kids get what they want!! When it would be nice to just be worrying wether a red and white or purple and silver theme would be best for the tree this year . I know there are plenty of others with similar (and worse problems) so even feel bad about feeling bad about it just wanted to get it off my chest really. Wonder if anyone has ever been brave enough to cancel it all together?? Luv Witsend.
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    Missing playtime

    Hi - well no it's not fair, but think I'd be inclined to let this one go now. If you've already spoken to teacher and she is unlikely to make the same mistake again then it may be counter productive to try and quash the 'punishment'. It is ###### that the relevant info wasn't passed on to her though, think I'd be having a word with HT and/or SENCO re that. Hope next week isn't as bad as you expect!! luv Witsend.
  4. That,s great news. I am getting my peace and quiet quota thanks to halo 3 too! Hence why I can sit and post here and enjoy a nice glass of wine. Luv Witsend.
  5. Oh Hev, I'm so sorry to hear this after all you've been through you must feel so defeated. 7 days does seem awfully quick to for the school to decide it's not working, especially as they musy have has loads of info and discussions presumably before Steve started!! I'm sure there's loads of stuff you now have to do to start sorting it all out again, but just for now take a day or two to get your strength back. Keep posting so we can offer support love. Luv Witsend.
  6. Oh Lisa . <'> to you, hang in there. Could Ipsea help with this one? luv witsend.
  7. Glad he's feeling better . Luv Witsend.
  8. Hi Mel - I remember your original post about this, it stuck in my mind because I remember thinking I bet you'll be proved right and the injury will be more serious than they all thought! Hollow victory though when it's Jay that's suffered, I'd be cross all over again with the school too . Hopefully they will be quicker to take him seriously in future eh? Take care - luv Witsend.
  9. Hi lisa - if he is weeing little and often and his urine is smelly and or it hurts 'burns' when he wees he may have a urine infection which would also make him feel lousy and give him a high temp. If this is the case he will need antibiotics asap to sort it out. Your GP should be able to diaagnose it quickly by testing a urine sample - so if you go take one with you if poss. Drinking lots of water and cranberry juice are good for urine infections but if you think thats what it is it should also really be treated medically to prevent long term damage. Take care - Luv Witsend.
  10. Hi Bid - having not been on the forum for a couple of days I was oblivious as usual! Have kind of caught up to speed now. Not gonna voice an opinion on the troublesome topic I know it's closed and don't want to start it off again. Did just want to say that when I first joined this forum (many moons ago now) you were one of the first and most constant of people offering me support and good advice - thank you. <'> I know you have gone through your own journey (sorry sounding a bit psycho babble now - must be the wine ) and you have still always supported others on the way - so whatever you decide to do - take care and good luck to you (and to Auriel). Luv Witsend.
  11. Hi - not been on for a while - new school term organisation etc etc. But as I always seem to post when things are pretty ###### thought I'd post now just to say things are really ok at the mo (probs tempting fate here!! ). Ds 1 seems to be settling well at new school and actually seems to have some freinds, decent teachers and making progress in school work. He is v proud his handwriting has improved a bit and said the other night "do you know I think I am getting less dumb at this school" !! . It's a massive relief. Ds 2 still having a few probs walked out of school unnoticed the other day, he's only 5!! I wasn't impressed! So looks like alot of meetings ahead for me re him next, but at least the school are on board and supportive this time! Nothing exciting happening but in this house thats a good thing - just nice to savour the quiet times eh? Luv Witsend.
  12. Just wanted to agree with Kathryn - sounds like your doing a great job and it's because your such a good mum you end up blaming your self for stuff which is not your fault! Kids get so much pressure nowadays at school it's ridiculous. Keep doing what your doing and yeah maybe have a word with school so they are aware of how your daughters feeling...hope the marks for the essay will show her how good she really is and she may gain confidence from that. I think being 14 is probably pretty tough (having to strain the old memory here to remember myself!! ). I'm sure she'll get through it with your support. Take Care - Luv Witsend.
  13. This sort of thing has happened to us many times, I'm sure people don't (can't!) realise how awful the fallout is but that doesn't stop you feeling murderous . Just know how you feel - <'> Luv Witsend.
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    X box live

    Hi - DS1 going mad to have x box live, am quite happy for him to have it but am stuck on how to set it up. The PC and modem are downstairs and the x box upstairs, so I need to connect it wirelessly. Do I need to buy an extra gadget to do this? If so what is it and will it be expensive? (simple answers please am a bit clueless). Also if you have x box live already what do you think of it? Luv Witsend.
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    Slug Infestation

    Pearl that really made me laugh - thank you!! Tally I sympathise my previous (old terraced) house had the same problem I am pretty phobic about slugs so it was miserable. Think the salt solution is a bit cruel and you may have to deal with slug ectoplasm aftermath ! Don't have a solution though cos I never did get rid of them I know they can get through the tiniest of cracks in walls and my old house was damp with silverfish too, so maybe that was it? Really do feel for you <'> Luv Witsend.
  16. That's brilliant!! Well done Nick and you! luv Witsend.
  17. I think you have done the right thing though I understand your apprehension. I will keep all my bits crossed on tuesday - will be really fab if he does do well Let us know how he gets on, Luv Witsend.
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    Enough

    Just wanted to echo what the others have said, your mentor sounds like an unprofessional bully. Don't let her attitude ruin things for you and definately don't see her on your own anymore you could do with a witness next time you have to see her. <'> <'> to you mumble Luv Witsend.
  19. Oh God Hev, how awful for you (and Nick and steve) <'> thinking of you all. hang in there! Luv Witsend.
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    Hello

    Hi and welcome - look forward to hearing more from you. This place is really fab! Luv Witsend.
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    b******* kids

    My God Hev you're psychic!! My sentiments exactly today!! Just had the sleepover from hell, haven't got the energy to post about it yet and not enough time passed to see the funny side (was only last nite) but give me time and I'm sure I'll be letting you all know about the latest happenings in our 'dysfunctional family' . <'> To you - been a while since ds locked me out, but was quite a regular thing at one time . Luv Witsend.
  22. Hi - wasn't sure wether to post this in education but am sure it will be shifted if needs be. Just wondered what any of you think of this it's a bit of a weird one, will try to be succinct although it is a bit of a long story. Basicall when ds 1 started high school he attended a private specialist dyslexia school, we looked round the school and they assured us they also specialised in teaching children with ASD's/dyspraxia etc. They sounded very impressive when we visited but almost form week one ds 1 hated the school (I posted a lot about him changing schools on here a few weeks ago). He complained about the behaviour of the other pupils, basically they were very verbally abusive to the teachers and to him they were very disruptive and never seemingly 'disciplined' and ds 1 continually complained of being bullied physically. At first I took it with a pinch of salt thinking it was him getting things out of perspective and just not liking the change . However it went on and on and got worse. When we approached the school they totally denied any problems and said ds 1 was probably making it up for attention , this seemed really unlikely to me but I accepted it for a while. Anyway things went from bad to worse - we had a meeting with the school where the head was hostile and defensive and denied any problems again, however when she left the meeting for half an hour one of the other staff present admitted the behaviour ds 1 had described did indeed go on!! He explained a lot of the children were on medication and often they had difficulties getting the dose right etc, I said I understood that but we had been assured initially that this was not an EBD school and that challenging behaviours were not a problem or else we wouldn't have sent ds 1 there as he is compliant at school. When we went to look round the school and asked about challenging type behviours the head tole us "we don't have table turners here"!!! ) I know warning bells should have rung then eh?) Anyway to cut a long story short we had emergency review meeting and agreed with LEA to move ds 1, as this was going on he stopped going to school and was really down. It was a terrible time, all through it the school did not try and contact us or talk about things they became very hostile. His class teacher confiscated a game from ds 1 and did not return it for 6 weeks (saying she couldn't find it) when I sent notes in she would just send snidey ones back. And when I rang her about it she used it as an opportunity to launch a tirade about how I was going to damage my son taking him away from the school etc etc!!! During one meeting the head told us only one other child had ever been unhappy at the school and he "ended up in a resedential school - not something you'd really want for your child" (Her words!) Sorry am rambling on a bit, the point really now is that ds 1 is happy in his new school (a small private mainstream school which is just round the corner from the old one) and this weekend he went for a slepover with a new freinf from the school. When I dropped him off I had a long chat with this childs mum and ended up telling her a bit about our experiance at the last school and guess what? She told me there is another boy in sons class who also previously attended that school and they had exactly the same problems as us (if not worse) this childs father was a teacher and had benn enraged by the treatment of his child and again the school would not admit to the problems, when the father went to the school to complain they ordered him off the premises!! Needless to say they took there son out of the school! So here I am reflecting on all this, I was scared to make to much fuss when son was at this school for fear of making things worse, by the time he refused to go I was so worn down and upset I couldn't face speaking to the school and then when he left and like his new school I was so releived I just wanted to put the past behind us and forget about it. But now having heard all this I am feeling really angry that the school are getting away with treating kids like this, and dread to think how many others it may have happened to. The parents at the school never see each other becasue the kids all come from a wide catchment area and all arrive and leave by taxi. I actually find it quite sinister. Ds 1 has also told me some other stuff since he left the school which is worrying. What should I do, it's really preying on my mind, I know it won't help to ring the school and I don't know wether or how to make a complaint about it all, do you think too much time has passed (he left the school not long after easter). I just cant stand the thought of more parents desperate to find the right place for their kids being taken in by the lies the school tell. I also feel especially angry with ds s class teacher who was so horrible to me when I rnag up that time, telling me it would be a disaster to move my son and he would be damaged forever in a mainstream school, like I didn't have enough angst at the time!! Sorry I really am rambling now, as you can tell it's really got to me, do you think I'm over reacting? And would you make a complaint if so how? Thanks if you've read this far Luv Witsend.
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