call me jaded

Sorry, I'm being obscure I am saying that your response to people who question your answers is to say (with a smile): 'Thank you, I already have a mother' which is quite a gentle way of telling them that they are being too intrusive.

Mumble: Thank you but I already have a mother.

First of all they weren't traffic cops The amount of paperwork they would need to complete is horrendous The incident would not help them meet any of their targets They were going off shift and no longer get overtime They've just received their notices that they are at risk of redundancy They should have been off shift hours ago and/or were generally fed up

And what did you get?

The dreaded 'I' word came into my head before I got to that part of your post. It would seem wheels are turning very very slowly. Keep making some noise.

The above has been transferred from peaches thread as the discussion split into two distinct topics.

I tried to split it into two but don't seem to have the right permissions. Apologies for that peaches. Will try again. ETA: All done, off topic posts have been moved here - think this thread reads ok. Let me know if I've missed anything.

What's he like in school and are they experiencing the same difficulties? If so then it sounds like time to call an early review of the statement as some kind of residential care (wwekly boarding/college placement) might be needed. It's really down to social care and I am cynical enough to think that if you don't present a risk to the safety and well-being of the child then there will be nothing in the budget. Have you involved a local councillor? Usually opposition councillors are good for holding the local authority to account on yur behalf.

They might try to sell you a signal booster. You can politely decline. Because you asked before you bought, the sale was conditional on the product working as assured. This is technically a verbal contract and it does not need to be written down in any way. They should refund you without any quibbles. If it's any consolation I never took anything back until I was about 25 - charity shops did really well out of me!

Your GP should have something on file and should be able to confirm the diagnosis for you.

Dimentia is horrible to see close up. What I am genuinely surprised at is that aggression is part of any diagnostic criteria, but won't sidetrack the thread to discuss that.

You need to get some good independent advice - IPSEA or NAS or something locally.

For clarity I totally accept that I was not aware the diagnostic criteria for Conduct Disorder included aggression. The diagnostic criteria for ADHD does not - that I knew.

Anyone else for whom a shower three times a day is perfectly normal? lol Hope they never make water metres compulsory. And anyone's neighbours ever ask you why he wasn't on the swing seat - is he not well?

Karen I nearly looked up Conduct Disorder before I posted that. Now that I have I find that aggression is one of the four criteria plus destruction of property, deceitfulness or theft, and serious violation of rules. Three out of the four criteria need to be met. The kind of aggression goes beyond the kind of lashing out associated with ADHD and autism, it's more or less criminal behaviour: (1) often bullies, threatens, or intimidates others (2) often initiates physical fights (3) has used a weapon that can cause serious physical harm to others (e.g., abat, brick, broken bottle, knife, gun) (4) has been physically cruel to people (5) has been physically cruel to animals (6) has stolen while confronting a victim (e.g., mugging, purse snatching, extortion, armed robbery) (7) has forced someone into sexual activity More here. BTW for copyright purposes you can normally post links to websites, it's wholesale copy and pastes that are problematic, especially if the original source is not credited.

Peaches I'm not aware of aggression being part of any diagnostic criteria. An SLT put it to me many years ago that physical outbursts were an expression of frustration at not being understood, so an effect of communication impairment rather than the cause of it. Or in the case of ADHD an effect of impulsivity rather than the cause.

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Sounds great!

Just for fun! Sparked by a distinctly 'active but odd' incident... Yesterday my 16 year old non-verbal DS came in off his transport from school and took great exception to the shirt I was wearing (a pink cotton formal shirt - I'd ironed it and everything!). He immediately chased me down the hall grabbing the buttons to get me to take it off. I had to stand in the kitchen with him pulling at the shirt whilst I undid the buttons. At first I thought he was just having a grump as he came in from school but he was absolutely determined that the shirt had to come off. He let me put on a t-shirt no problem. Later in the evening my DD1's friend came over and we were telling him about the event - 'just as well you didn't get here earlier' kind of thing. DS then went to pick up the shirt which I'd left on a stool and took it over to the laundry basket and put it in. So funny - DS was laughing as he did. As we all burst out laughing he went back, took it out of the basket and put it in the bin. Talk about functional communication! I think it was the buttons he was objecting to. We then spent a good half hour talking about all the funny things he'd done with clothing - he takes his shoes off at the drop of a hat in the most inappropriate places - walked through the airport in his bare feet, throws shoes in the bin, over fences, out of the car, was permanently naked at home when he was young, will only wear track suit bottoms and only then with a certain feel about them. All these things that are so bizarre that you would never think were part of autism if you weren't living with it every day but are really so much a part of our lives. Anyone else?

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What about TVCatchup. My 11 year old just told me about it, lol.

You seemed rather desperate! And were going out to buy. Any friends or family got one lurking in the back of a cupboard?

I would go for a freeview recorder if you can stretch to it. There's some on amazon for under £100. Or if you buy a flatscreen TV you can get DVD player and freeview built in for under £200. Tesco have £500 of extra clubcard points on Tesco Direct right now - bought a new tumble dryer today. We have a TD counter in store.

You obviously need the Connexions worker who CB told us about on the support group thread! lol Have you tried to speak to them?

talking of the 80s, did anyone see Alan Davies Teenage Rebel last night? What angst. Loved the girl friend who said she entered college a lower middle class girl and came out a radical militant feminist lesbian, can't remember the exact label, but something she was clearly not. Now that's peer pressure for you. I was a yuppie, but often mistaken for a Sloane, lol