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  1. I'm 26, suffer with adhd, aspergers, depression and have severe social anxiety. In 2019 I left my ex wife with whom I had a daughter, the relationship was very toxic, she was very manipulative and controlling and having had counceling I now realise she was "gaslighting". I have always suffered with social anxiety but since being with my ex wife it has become a lot worse and makes it incredibly hard to build and maintain relationships including friends/family etc. I have recently entered a new relationship now I feel comfortable enough to move on, we're taking it very slowly and have been dating since november 2020. Yesterday I met her mum for the first time, but due to social anxiety I could barely engage in any conversation. I'm trying hard to be confident, be myself and not let social anxiety control and define me but I'm scared that it will ruin our relationship in the long term. This is obviously not what I want, I'm trying to help myself but need some guidance. Can anyone suggest anything I can try?
  2. I wanted to know if a person can have both ADHD and ASD?
  3. Hello, I am a junior designer currently working on a project that aims in creating a more user-friendly and accessible method/guide to guide digital content and other designers on how to create products and services that adapt to adults who live with ADD and ADHD. I myself, have close relatives that live with these conditions and I would like to make the web a safe and more understanding environment in which everyone feels comfortable browsing and carrying out their daily task. This project will be based on public opinion and not medical as I believe that medical data does not apply to everyone. If you are interested in taking part in my research people feel free to private message me. Please find attach my project proposal. All information would confidential and will be kept anonymous. I hope this does not break any forum guidelines!!!:):):) proposal_document_ethics.pdf
  4. How ADHD and ASD relate to each other?
  5. I am an Enhanced Provision teacher in a mainstream primary school in Scotland. Most of my students have either Autism or ADHD. We have some money (a lot) to spend on the EP classroom. Can you suggest any kind of equipment, furniture, aids or software that would benefit my pupils. I have a list of my own, but I'm worried there is some fantastic "thing" out there that I know nothing about. Help me out, please. Antolak PS. The money can't be spend on employing extra staff. "
  6. Ok bit of a long winded post so I will start off by apologising! I know no one here is able to offer a diagnosis but I'm keen to know if any of these this sounds like ADHD/ASD Ok, so here's the story. Our son is now 5 (6 in April) from the age of 18months when he started a couple of mornings at nursery he was really hard to settle-had crying at the door for maybe 6months until we moved) then he started at another nursery and was pretty much the same when I left him until he moved into preschool where he had his good days and bad days. Towards the end of preschool he had a really bad day where he couldn't control his emotions and had a major tantrum lashed out at a staff member and bit her - he'd never bitten anyone before. Whilst I was concerned I did wonder if it was because he knew he was going to school soon and so so we decided to see how the holidays went and how he settled in. It was difficult doe times good days and bad days. Then he started reception. When we attended the settling in parents evening the teacher expressed some concerns to which we were pleased that it wasn't just us and someone else had noticed - hard to settle in, doesn't like change, difficulty handling emotions, tantrums, lots of fidgeting on the carpet, over affectionate to peers, easily distracted, sometimes distracting the group, doesn't appear to hear when called and difficulty pronouncing some sounds. Her advice was that we put in a referral for the school nurse to pop in to see him and to try and organise speech and language therapy and a hearing test. The school nurse visited and had a chat and attempted the hearing test but he didn't want to do it so I arranged this myself and the results were fine. We attended a speech and language appointment where they highlighted a couple of sounds he struggled with which he picked up at a later stage and was signed off at the follow up review. I had also expressed my concerns about his behaviours to the gp who organised a referral to the paediatrician. We attended the appointment with the paediatrician (me and my son) and was asked a number of questions and the paediatrician said that some of the answers sounded like Asd characteristics but didn't have any concerns socially so ruled that out but did wonder about ADHD but as some of the characteristics could be age related said that he couldn't diagnose until he was 6. He said that they would put us in touch with the local support team who would assist us further (this was in June 2015). Months passed and we heard nothing he started year one and had to be peeled off me at the school gates every morning from September until January when he finally settled down. He appears to be doing well at school a recent parents evening we were told he is at the right level for writing and maths and is above for reading, socially he is happy and plays with friends but despite being bright, as at home he can be very emotional, take things to heart, speak very loudly, speaks over people, is fidgety, leans over the table talking to people (I say talk-he talks very loud-in people's faces) etc. After not hearing anything from the LST and my continuing concerns that there is something (although can't quite put my finger on it) I returned to the gp who couldn't understand what had happened and had written directly the the LST for support. They have since been in touch and after I provided a list of characteristics/traits he displays she then forwArded said list to CAHMS who said there was nothing that they could do but advised that we needed to go back to paediatrics however seeing as we have been previously they advised we go direct to midlands psychology. I visited the GP this week who had also took a copy of these notes and put them together with a referral which we are now waiting on. ...I know no diagnosis is quick and these things take time but I just feel like some days we have real bad days and think yes there's definitely something and then other days he is the most kind sweetest helpful kid I think maybe it's just me, maybe I've done something wrong. The paediatric was sure he wasn't in the spectrum because he is OK socially...(apart from in some social situations - see list below) so please can anyone read the list below of a few things we have noticed and tell me in not going crazy. Sorry again for the long post * generally wakes any time from 5-6:30 - very loud and energetic from the get go until bedtime * tantrums-now starting to get angry when having a tantrum may throw and object if in hand or slam objects down on the time or might fetch something I.e a play sword like he wants to hit us with it. Angry voice, grits teeth, red faced and clenched fists * difficulty taking him to places that are busy e.g parks zoo farm etc as he runs off refuses to look at things tantrums about not being able to get a drink (not because he isn't allowed but doesn't understand it's because we aren't near a kiosk/shop despite trying to explain) tantrums because he wants a particular swing (and rather than find something else has been known to stand in front of the person on it grunting and waiting for them to leave it - as I was feeding baby at the time) shouts and screams at me * obsessed with his tablet and would happily spend ALL day watching minecraft videos if i let him (I don't he is now limited to an hour a day on either PlayStation/hudl or half an hour combined - losing time for bad behaviour). *sensory issues - socks don't feel right pulls at seems on the toes sometimes takes shoes off repeatedly because socks feel wrong, clothes feel 'funny' and prefers "softness" (fleece lined clothing-has fleece PJ bottoms and gets upset if they're in the wash). Gags when eating (occasionally- goes through phases) can be a fussy eater. Hates the Hoover as its "too loud" and "hurts his ears" (has hated it since a baby) now takes himself off to the bedroom when I do it if he's at home. Scared of loud sounds/bangs (downstairs outside) drills etc goes through phases of disliking brushing teeth *anxious-anxiety over meeting people, new places, changes in routine, school trips, thinking people are going to break in "are the doors locked" going in the car "do you know the way home? ..are you sure" convinced we are getting lost, riding his bike (scared with stabilisers wants us to hold him/the bike) *blinks quite a lot *difficulty having two way conversation doesn't always seem to listen, wants conversation his way and can be bossy *interrupts conversation all the time *Gags (and wretches) some mealtimes says his tummy hurts and complains he's full after eating very little *had developed a fear of going for a poor (sorry tmi) crowds and screams at needing to wipe which Makes him gag says it's too smelly but has now overcome this by supplying him with a can of air freshener - he does two sprays everytime he goes before he wipes *enjoys writing notes - likes taking a notebook to school makes plans sometimes comes home and takes a register/writes lists. *anger outbursts - example we went to a children's party before Xmas there were 4 nunchucks (ninjago party) Bobby placed his down to make something so someone else took it so he proceeded to grow into hulk filling with anger raced across the hall,swiftly followed by me, he rugby tackles the other child I moved him a way and he screamed at me shouting me To let him go (as I had to restrain him stopping him running after him again) and began punching me. *constantly wants to be in front of people when walking especially walking to school/from school - if someone overtakes he will overtake them again wanting to be ahead squeezing past people/objects to get there. *oblivious to where he was walking (I.e to school or when shopping) I have to physically move him because despite telling him watch the lady and mind out of the way for the man/pushchair/wheelchair whatever he still continues to bump into people *can be very kind/affectionate sometimes too much wanting to cuddle/hold hands with friends or kids them and they don't want to/look uncomfortable *has an obsession with a hulk figure and gets frustrated and upset if the arms aren't in the same position on both sides *usually avoids eye contact (unless he's shouting at me for something) *avoids cuddles unless he initiates it (he might feel tired or unwell and ask for one but fights to get away if we try and give him one) *has a chair which he constantly rocks on *occasionally runs off and thinks it's fun laughing and smiling about it. *has favourite things-biggest minecraft and superheroes) forever talking about something related - had his first swim lesson and told the adult in the pool that he watches minecraft videos on YouTube and spoke about them? * latest discovery - has found the audio description button and likes watching to with it on Thank you for reading
  7. Evening all, I'm new to the forum so apolgies if I get anything wrong in the way I'm supposed to post. I am a 35 year old woman. I'm married to a ADHD man, and we have a gorgeous NT son, who is 4. I was diagnosed with ADHD 18 months ago and then ASD (specifically Asperger's Syndrome) 12 months ago. I live in the UK. I was initially prescribed methylphenidate (Concerta) for my ADHD but the stimulant made me suicidal, and caused serious issues with fatigue and a foul temper. I stopped taking it pretty quickly and the effect disappeared. It was recommended that I try Strattera instead and have been taking 40mg for just under two months. The dose is low, because I have a history of being very sensitve to anything that effects brain chemistry (so alcholol, caffiene, anti-depressants, sedatives and general aneasthetics). For the most part it has helped; the constant anxiety I used to feel has just gone, and I haven't slept this well in . . .well ...ever. However I've also noticed a down turn in my mood again and given how bad I got on the methylphenidate I'm worried that it's going to get worse. From what I've read though, it's not uncommon to have this in the first few months of taking Strattera and I've been told that it will go away as I get used to the drug. Does anyone else have experience of this? (I also have a underactive thyroid and take 100mg of Levothyroxine daily).
  8. Hello I am newly diagnosed with mild ASD at 43. I'm especially sad at being childless - and this is a difficult time for me trying to understand what went wrong and how I can try and build a meaningful life for myself. Sometimes I wonder if it still can be fixed and I might still meet the ideal partner and still be a parent. But on the other hand, I've never had a relationship, so it is kind of unlikely. I'm not sure it would work anyway. I am curious if there are other people here who are childless by circumstance and suffer and feel sad about it. I'm still coming to grips with the diagnosis because on the one hand it does explain a lot about how difficult school, social stuff and jobs were. On the other hand I don't completely recognize myself in the ASD "stereotype" as I believe myself to be overly empathetic, absorbing other people's emotions wherever I go. I am also more an extrovert and come across warm and outgoing (so people say). I tend to be the person all people come to with their problems. I am also not good at meticulous work (definitely not a computer geek, have adhd (original diagnosis) and find planning and organizing challenging). I had a burn-out at work, now I understand more that it was too taxing for me. I don't fully believe it is only the ASD though, which causes my energy problems and chronic issues with tendon, muscle and joint pains (they say it is all due to the stress of overcompensating with ASD) but I sometimes wonder if it is also due to something physical (I tested positive for lyme disease). Interested to meet others with similar experiences.
  9. Every single night, I have trouble falling asleep and getting up. I was reading online and came across a description of ADHD and it fits me perfectly so independent of getting a diagnosis of that or not, I want to try and help myself anyway. I'm going to try a different sort of alarm in the mornings but that won't help if I still can't get to sleep. Anyway, fidget toys help me concentrate during the day and help me calm down but at night I am just lying there and my mind doesn't stop. I already sleep with soft toys but because of OCD, I don't like the fur messed up on them so I only stroke them and if I turn over (which is a definite), then I can't reach them. Would using a fidget toy in my hand help me fall asleep? If so, what sort would work best? I'm guessing not the sort I would use during the day. It also needs to be suitable that it won't break anything should I launch it during a restless night.
  10. Yesterday I had one of those moments when just everything about my life just suddenly made more sense. And it actually felt like a relief. With diagnosises of Asperger's and dyslexia but with difficulties that never really fitted properly under those headings and the general feeling I'm more towards the autism end rather than Asperger's end of the spectrum. There are lots of little bits that (until yesterday) were previously disconnected problems - I had trouble sleeping, I was continually late for morning acivities (no matter how hard I tried not to), I've always been hyperactive, needing to burn off huge amounts of energy, I can't sit still for long, I'm a definite fidget and all the way through school I was classed as a troubled child. Whilst searching on the internet for things to help with my sleep before I loose my job, I came across a website about adult ADHD that listed the exact sleep problems that I have been struggling to put into words, even right down to the 'can't shut my mind up'. From there I read through the rest of the descriptions. Aside from quite obviously I haven't been to the GP, it seemed to really make sense. Even the little things - my support worker has noticed that I fidget and has suggested deliberatly using something when I am stressed. I ordered a tangle hairy (and I love it) and was playing with it whilst playing a computer puzzle game at home. And straight away I noticed that I was consistantly getting better scores that I ever do normally. I know Asperger's/Autism and ADHD are linked but I now think maybe I have ASD, ADHD and dyslexia. Even though in a way its a bad thing, it feels like a relief that there may be an answer.
  11. I am 36 years old, I have had problems socially for as long I can remember and depression and motivation problems. My parents took me to the GP who prescribed antidepressants when I was about 16 and I was sent to a psychiatrist who said I had social phobia. I was terrified about going to university and used alcohol to help social situations. I started using cannabis to relax and help me get to sleep. I had some friends and met my girlfriend there. I dropped out of my course as I was not interested in some of the modules and probably due to the alcohol and cannabis. I stopped the cannabis after about 5 years. I have had a few jobs but rapidly became bored with them and was sacked from my previous job for poor performance. I have stuck in jobs for a few years as I am worried whether the new job would be worse and find it very difficult getting to know new people. It took me a long time to adjust and it has been said to me that I hardly said anything for the first 6 months in a job. When I get to know people I try to be funny, but think I say inappropriate things sometimes and swear too much. A few years ago I was out of work and feeling very low and isolated after moving to a new area so saw a psychiatrist who said I had dysthymia (long term mild depression). I don't have any friends outside of work but get on OK with a couple of people at work. Some people at work say I am intelligent, but others think I am lazy and seem to be irritated by me. I am still on antidepressant tablets but am trying to reduce them. Recently I have become angry and feel bullied by my boss at work so I went to see a counsellor. I said I wanted to get to the bottom of why I have been on antidepressant tablets for so many years, and feel they have contributed to my weight gain and developing diabetes. I mentioned that I read about aspergers in an article and did the AQ test online and scored quite high (45/50). I was referred to a psychologist who said they couldn't give me an official diagnosis but would be better than an online test. They asked me about my background and history and then at the next appointment did the AQ test and the eyes emotion test. I scored in the normal range for the eyes test, but high for the AQ test. They said the results of the two tests were contradictory, but I have some aspects of aspergers that are causing problems. I am confused as it does not give me a clear answer and I don't know how reliable the AQ test is and was hoping for more in depth testing. I did some more reading online and found that there is some overlap with aspergers and ADHD and the difficulty concentrating and switching between things are things that I have problems with. I have lots of unfinished electronics projects at home and it is becoming full of bits and pieces. Trying to sort things out is becoming overwhelming. I spend hours on the internet each night, browsing the web and buying things on ebay. They offered to meet my boss to discuss. I really did not want this as I don't want them to know, as I feel they won't understand and I don't want special treatment or to be made fun of by work colleagues. Also I want to be certain before telling people. I wanted to understand for myself why I have problems and try to improve ways of dealing with things. I avoid doing things that make me uncomfortable, such as confrontational situations. I find myself getting more angry and frustrated as the blunting effect of the antidepressants is reducing, but have more energy to do things and feel closer to an explanation to some of the problems I have. I would appreciate some advice on whether the AQ test is adequate for diagnosis or whether it can give a false positive with other conditions such as ADHD, anxiety, depression, social phobia or personality disorder. Where should I go for a full diagnosis? Should I tell my boss? Thanks for reading.
  12. by John Whitehead. According to a recent report by the Centers for Disease Control, a staggering 6.4 million American children between the ages of 4 and 17 have been diagnosed with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), whose key symptoms are inattention, hyperactivity, and impulsivity—characteristics that most would consider typically childish behavior. High school boys, an age group particularly prone to childish antics and drifting attention spans, are particularly prone to being labeled as ADHD, with one out of every five high school boys diagnosed with the disorder. “There’s a tremendous push where if the kid’s behavior is thought to be quote-unquote abnormal — if they’re not sitting quietly at their desk — that’s pathological, instead of just childhood.” — Dr. Jerome Groopman, professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School Presently, we’re at an all-time high of eleven percent of all school-aged children in America who have been classified as mentally ill. Why? Because they “suffer” from several of the following symptoms: they are distracted, fidget, lose things, daydream, talk nonstop, touch everything in sight, have trouble sitting still during dinner, are constantly in motion, are impatient, interrupt conversations, show their emotions without restraint, act without regard for consequences, and have difficulty waiting their turn. The list reads like a description of me as a child. In fact, it sounds like just about every child I’ve ever known, none of whom are mentally ill. Unfortunately, society today is far less tolerant of childish behavior—hence, the growing popularity of the ADHD label, which has become the “go-to diagnosis” for children that don’t fit the psycho-therapeutic public school mold of quiet, docile and conformist. Mind you, there is no clinical test for ADHD. Rather, this so-called mental illness falls into the “I’ll know it if I see it” category, where doctors are left to make highly subjective determinations based on their own observation, as well as interviews and questionnaires with a child’s teachers and parents. Particular emphasis is reportedly given to what school officials have to say about the child’s behavior. Yet while being branded mentally ill at a young age can lead to all manner of complications later in life, the larger problem is the routine drugging that goes hand in hand with these diagnoses. Of those currently diagnosed with ADHD, a 16 percent increase since 2007, and a 41 percent increase over the past decade, two-thirds are being treated with mind-altering, psychotropic drugs such as Ritalin and Adderall. Diagnoses of ADHD have been increasing at an alarming rate of 5.5 percent each year. Yet those numbers are bound to skyrocket once the American Psychiatric Association releases its more expansive definition of ADHD. Combined with the public schools’ growing intolerance (aka, zero tolerance) for childish behavior, the psychiatric community’s pathologizing of childhood, and the Obama administration’s new mental health initiative aimed at identifying and treating mental illness in young people, the outlook is decidedly grim for any young person in this country who dares to act like a child. As part of his administration’s sweeping response to the Newtown school shootings, President Obama is calling on Congress to fund a number of programs aimed at detecting and responding to mental illness among young people. A multipronged effort, Obama’s proposal includes $50 million to train 5,000 mental health professionals to work with young people in communities and schools; $55 million for Project AWARE (Advancing Wellness and Resilience in Education), which would empower school districts, teachers and other adults to detect and respond to mental illness in 750,000 young people; and $25 million for state efforts to identify and treat adolescents and young adults. One of the key components of Obama’s plan, mental health first-aid training for adults and students, is starting to gain traction across the country. Incredibly, after taking a mere 12-hour course comprised of PowerPoint presentations, videos, discussions, role playing and other interactive activities, for instance, a participant can be certified “to identify, understand and respond to the signs of mental illness, substance use and eating disorders.” While commendable in its stated goals, there’s a whiff of something not quite right about a program whose supporting data claims that “26.2 percent of people in the U.S. — roughly one in four — have a mental health disorder in any given year.” This is especially so at a time when government agencies seem to be increasingly inclined to view outspoken critics of government policies as mentally ill and in need of psychiatric help and possible civil commitment. But I digress. That’s a whole other topic. Getting back to young people, Dr. Thomas Friedan, director of the CDC, has characterized the nation’s current fixation on ADHD as an over diagnosis and a “misuse [of ADHD medications that] appears to be growing at an alarming rate.” Indeed, not that long ago, the very qualities we now identify as a mental illness and target for drugging were hallmarks of the creative soul. Many of the artists, musicians, poets, politicians and revolutionaries whom we have come to revere in our society were unable to sit still, pay attention, concentrate on their work, and stay within the confines which had been set out for them in the classroom. Visionaries as varied as Mahatma Gandhi, Richard Feynman, John Lennon, Pablo Picasso, Jackson Pollock, Thomas Edison, Susan B. Anthony, Albert Einstein, and Winston Churchill would have all been labeled ADHD had they been students in the public schools today. Legendary filmmaker Woody Allen claims to have “paid attention to everything but the teachers” while in school. Despite being put in an accelerated learning program due to his high IQ, he felt constrained, so he often played hooky and failed to complete his assignments. Of his school days, Gandhi said, “They were the most miserable of his life” and “that he had no aptitude for lessons and rarely appreciated his teachers.” In fact, Gandhi opined that it “might have been better if he had never been to school.” One can only imagine what the world would have been like had these visionaries of Western civilization instead been diagnosed with ADHD and drugged accordingly. Writing for the New York Times, Bronwen Hruska documents what it was like as a parent being pressured by school officials to medicate her child who, at age 8, seemed to have “normal 8-year-old boy energy.” As Hruska relates in painful detail, each time the overall effects of the drugs seemed to stop working, their doctor increased the dosage. Finally, towards the middle of fifth grade, Hruska’s son refused to take anymore pills. From then on, things began to change for the better. Will is now a sophomore in high school, 6 feet 3 inches tall, and is on the honor roll. Will was in third grade, and his school wanted him to settle down in order to focus on math worksheets and geography lessons and social studies. The children were expected to line up quietly and “transition” between classes without goofing around… And so it began. Like the teachers, we didn’t want Will to “fall through the cracks.” But what I’ve found is that once you start looking for a problem, someone’s going to find one, and attention deficit has become the go-to diagnosis… A few weeks later we heard back. Will had been given a diagnosis of inattentive-type A.D.H.D….The doctor prescribed methylphenidate, a generic form of Ritalin. It was not to be taken at home, or on weekends, or vacations. He didn’t need to be medicated for regular life. It struck us as strange, wrong, to dose our son for school. All the literature insisted that Ritalin and drugs like it had been proved “safe.” Later, I learned that the formidable list of possible side effects included difficulty sleeping, dizziness, vomiting, loss of appetite, diarrhea, headache, numbness, irregular heartbeat, difficulty breathing, fever, hives, seizures, agitation, motor or verbal tics and depression. It can slow a child’s growth or weight gain. Most disturbing, it can cause sudden death, especially in children with heart defects or serious heart problems. The drugs prescribed for Ritalin and Adderall and their generic counterparts are keystones in a multibillion dollar pharmaceutical industry that profits richly from America’s growing ADHD fixation. For example, between 2007 and 2012 alone, sales for ADHD drugs went from $4 billion to $9 billion. If America could free itself of the stranglehold the pharmaceutical industry has on our medical community, our government and our schools, we may find that our so-called “problems” aren’t quite as bad as we’ve been led to believe. As Hruska concludes: ___________________________________________________________________________________ We’re also ensuring that down the road, when faced with other challenges that high school, college and adult life are sure to bring, our children will use the coping skills we’ve taught them. They’ll reach for a pill. If “accelerated” has become the new normal, there’s no choice but to diagnose the kids developing at a normal rate with a disorder. Instead of leveling the playing field for kids who really do suffer from a deficit, we’re ratcheting up the level of competition with performance-enhancing drugs. We’re juicing our kids for school. Which brings me to the idea of “normal.” The Merriam-Webster definition, which reads in part “of, relating to, or characterized by average intelligence or development,” includes a newly dirty word in educational circles. If normal means “average,” then schools want no part of it. Exceptional and extraordinary, which are actually antonyms of normal, are what many schools expect from a typical student. For [Will], it was a matter of growing up, settling down and learning how to get organized. Kids learn to speak, lose baby teeth and hit puberty at a variety of ages. We might remind ourselves that the ability to settle into being a focused student is simply a developmental milestone; there’s no magical age at which this happens. Article published here: The Rutherford Institute. URL: http://www.a-w-i-p.com/index.php/2013/04/12/the-psycho-therapeutic-school-system
  13. Hey all, a big 'hello' from Aspie/ADHD diagnosed last week, this is all very new to me but looking forward to sharing support and getting to know any and all x 'S,' Edinburgh
  14. I have high functioning autism and presently work in a well-paid engineering/construction job where I am really struggling with office politics. My whole team disrespects me because of my poor social skills and I’m feeling incredibly depressed because of this and feel I have no choice but to resign. I am also seriously considering giving up my career because I know I could take up a similar job but will sure enough experience the same abuse and again be forced to resign. I wonder if there are others on the spectrum here who decided to give up their career and how they feel about things now? I know whatever I do it’s not going to pay as much as my current job, where I earn about £60k/yr. I’m thinking about jobs that don’t rely so much on social skills, such as a cab/train/lorry driver or even home based online work, which would be ideal. I'm even considering online trading. I realise it might seem like a big step backwards but the money doesn’t compensate for the depression. I have been suffering depression for a long time and it has progressively gotten worse the last 4 years I’ve been with the company. My depression was bad even before at my previous jobs and when at University and school where I was bullied. I was also treated horribly by my family who I now live apart from. I have no friends. I am feeling depressed about what the future holds, but it must be better than how I feel right now. If things don’t work out job wise, plan B is to move to another country where living costs aren’t so high and spend my savings of which I have close to £80k. I could probably survive on that for 7 years and live OK. I don’t spend much and I have no plans to get married and have children. The other thing I’m factoring into my decision making process is that I’m not sure I’m going to live long. My family has a history of heart problems and I’m experiencing problems now and I’m not even 30. On top of that I also have ADHD-PI and severe psoriasis (on my face and all my body).
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