hev Report post Posted January 5, 2007 half ten on monday im going to the school about steve going to residential,made my mind up that we are going to give it a try,hes not coping at school or at home so thats the plan,school said the process will take about 5 weeks,im all brave now,hope im allright in 5 weeks Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
reuby2 Report post Posted January 5, 2007 Hiya Hev, <'> <'> I hope everything goes smoothly for you <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bagpuss Report post Posted January 5, 2007 Will be thinking of you Hev, and hope the meeting is a positive one <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
curra Report post Posted January 5, 2007 I'll be keeping fingers crossed for you, Hev. Hope it's a very good meeting. Good luck! <'> Curra Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
annie Report post Posted January 5, 2007 Hi Hev, Good luck for the meeting. I'll be thinking of you hun. Annie xx <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bid Report post Posted January 5, 2007 Thinking of you, Hev <'> <'> You are putting Steve's future first, which is a very brave thing to do, hun <'> Bidx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
baddad Report post Posted January 5, 2007 Hope it all works out - I'll have everything crossed (Humph!) for you on Monday... L&P BD Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oxgirl Report post Posted January 5, 2007 All the best hev. Hope this is the start of a much easier road for all of you. <'> ~ Mel ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Report post Posted January 5, 2007 Hi Hev, <'> <'> <'> I'll be thinking of you on Monday - hope it goes well K x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
smiley Report post Posted January 5, 2007 Hey Hunni <'> Everything crossed for Monday Hev - (i'm always on the end of the phone if you need me <'> <'> ) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
stressedmumto2 Report post Posted January 5, 2007 Everything crossed for you Hev, hope it all works out I am sure it will. Best of luck <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
loulou Report post Posted January 6, 2007 Hi Hev, All the best for Monday, i'll be thinking about you <'> Loulou xx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hev Report post Posted January 6, 2007 got mum coming with me for moral support,she will ask the questions i wouldnt think of Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
reuby2 Report post Posted January 7, 2007 Good luck for tomorrow, thinking of you <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JsMum Report post Posted January 7, 2007 Just sending you the best of luck for tomorrow, we are all crossing our fingers for you. Hope that this is the beginning of some real support for you and for your son. Soon the both of you can then have some quality time together and your son can be provided with a decent education with understanding and meeting his Special Needs. good luck and let us know how it goes tomorrow. JsMum Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hev Report post Posted January 7, 2007 feel sick now its getting closer,i hate meetings at the best of times,i rang up lea and they sending taxi for me as it would take about 2 hours on bus,i have no transport so thats good Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
forbsay Report post Posted January 7, 2007 Will be thinking about you tomorrow. Hope it goes ok. Take care Forbsay Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
smiley Report post Posted January 8, 2007 <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> <'> Someone (think it was Kathryn ?? ) said to me imagine that we are all there with you. I did. And it helped . Thinking of you xxxxxxxxxxxxxx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JsMum Report post Posted January 8, 2007 Just incase your still up with worry just try and get some rest tonight with a nice cuppa and try and relax a little so your nice and strong for today (just turned into monday) I know I should be in bed, I am off now but just wanted to try and help if your still awake, my sons puppy had me running around after her so off to bed a bit late. J has gone to bed ok and so just having a couple of hours to myself. anyway as you can see we are all going to be thinking of you, night night and see you tomorrow with some hopefully good news. Prayers and good wishes JsMum Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bagpuss Report post Posted January 8, 2007 Good luck tomorrow Hev, will be thinking of you hun, huge ,huge, hugs <'> <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bid Report post Posted January 8, 2007 Good luck, Hev <'> And remember, you don't have to agree to anything unless you feel happy it. And it's fine to ask for time to think things over...you don't have to make any decisions quickly. Bid <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
reuby2 Report post Posted January 8, 2007 Good luck for today Hev <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mossgrove Report post Posted January 8, 2007 Good luck! Simon Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Platefull of Love Report post Posted January 8, 2007 Thinking of you Hev, hope the meeting goes well <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nellie Report post Posted January 8, 2007 Hev, Will be thinking of you today, good luck! Nellie xx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lorryw Report post Posted January 8, 2007 Good luck today. Lorainex Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JenRose Report post Posted January 8, 2007 hev hope it went all ok for you today Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hev Report post Posted January 8, 2007 well i had the meeting and i thought it went well,have decided steve if poss will go to residential,woman was there from lea and she is going to arrange it all,apparently there is a chance he will get turned down first time so i need letters from cahms and social services to back me up and i need to write a letter to lea saying effect steve has on family etc,school is backing me up and hes staying there till residential comes up,i was originally told it would take 5 weeks but today was told quite lot longer than that,i think i got fight on my hands but as i said to smiley ive got my boxing gloves ready feel ok about it now but just know its going to take forever,if he goes to the certain school he can come home every weekend or fortnight thanks so much for your support,i think you are all Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
reuby2 Report post Posted January 8, 2007 Oh i'm so glad it went well for you <'> You sound so positive <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
baddad Report post Posted January 8, 2007 glad the meeting went well, Hev <'> suspect you are right about the long wait, but if the LEA are 'in' then that's the biggest part of the battle solved... what they WILL want to do is wait for a 'local' placement, but if it is firmly established that residential IS what's needed and that's agreed by all, and there isn't a 'local' placement available... Well I guess that implies an imperative for an out of area placement to meet an IDENTIFIED need that can't be met at a local level ('cos there aint a place!) L&P BD (He'd still get weekends home - wherever he is... And the transport!) Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
smiley Report post Posted January 8, 2007 And as i told you earlier......Go get 'em girlie!! <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bid Report post Posted January 8, 2007 Well done Hev <'> <'> It sounds as though you are in a very strong position, especially as the idea for residential came from the professionals in the first place (same thing happened to us, and it all went through relatively quickly). Bid Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Report post Posted January 8, 2007 It sounds positive hev, well done. Hope the process doesn't drag on too long. K x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bagpuss Report post Posted January 8, 2007 Pleased the meeting went well Hev <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
loulou Report post Posted January 9, 2007 Hi Hev, Glad it went well today, it's good that everyone is in agreement (makes a change!) <'> Loulou xx Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
oxgirl Report post Posted January 10, 2007 Good luck with it hev, sounds like a positive start to the process though. <'> <'> ~ Mel ~ Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
nellie Report post Posted January 11, 2007 Hev, Sorry, I'm a bit late responding to this but I've just read your post about your meeting with Social Services in the morning. You may have a better chance of getting a residential placement if Social Services are on your side and give evidence that he needs this placement. It's not unusual for SS and the LEA to share the funding for residential placements. Of course who pays for it is not your problem, as long as they meet his needs!! Good luck with the meeting. Nellie <'> <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
hev Report post Posted January 12, 2007 TOLD SOCIAL SERVICES ABOUT RESIDENTIAL,SHE GOING TO PHONE LEA WOMAN ABOUT IT AND GET IN TOUCH WITH HIS SCHOOL,HOPING IT GOES TO PLAN NOW IVE BEEN BRAVE AND MADE MY MIND UP Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
