llisa32 Report post Posted June 29, 2007 Hi, Whilst I had J in the car yesterday and in a fairly 'chatty' mood (in that he would answer my questions), I thought I'd ask him if knew how I could describe what a friend was...I confess I sortof white lied and said I wanted some good answers cos I was entering a competion ... I have to admit to being really really surprised at what he answered with: 1. A friend is someone who helps you with difficult stuff 2. A friend is someone who helps you not feel lonely 3. A friend is someone to play with He did give me 5 altogether but I confess to forgetting what the other 2 were at the moment...I think because I was so shocked at what he answered me with. That sounds a little bad I think...I just really wasn't expecting anything so 'deep' re points 1 and 2 from my 7 year old. I think I'd thought to myself that he didn't know what a 'friend' was as he has such difficulty making them etc...so I underestimated him. I asked whether they had been discussing friends at school...maybe circle time etc...he didn't answer so I don;t know. I don't know how I feel about his answers...on the one hand I was really proud that he knew what a friend should be, but then I struggle in my head to work out the current reality. I guess given his replys I now know why he does want friends so badly...which sortof makes me sad ....but I know we're currently on a mission of social 'practising' with any child within a 2 mile radius..so If my patience can hang in there hopefully he'll end up with a couple of friends that are friends. I know he's still only ickle...but ahhhh.....y they always get u right there Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mumble Report post Posted June 30, 2007 Knowing what a friend is, as opposed to making and keeping a friend, are two very different things. I can do all the theory 'what is a friend', 'how can we be a friend' - indeed I did as a teacher, so I know and can tell the theory, but applying it myself is quite different. This is, for me, one of the things that makes me upset about my AS - because I know exactly what it is I am missing out on and what I do not have/am not able to 'do' that others do naturally. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Faithnomore Report post Posted June 30, 2007 AJ's mentor asked him the other day what he thought he was good at. One of the things he said was being a friend, and he is provided he always gets what he wants when he wants and how he wants. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
