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can somebody give me some advice please -im at my wits end and dont know whom i am meant to ask for help

 

 

my 6 year old has no statement-school say hes doing really well-blah blah-hes good at his work and causes no problems at school-but socially struggles i think in playground

 

he was dx in may autistic spectrum disorder-but no plans were made foe state ment-as he does well

 

ive struggled since nursery getting him to school and back

 

hes in year 2 now -and tbh im sick of it-he treats me like dirt and carrys on in the car -sometimes scraming and kicking me -if i talk with my other son whos 5 and he goes same school.

its not safe to drive tbh with him in the car i make him sit at back and other son in front cause they fight all the time.

 

im allowed on the car park with the taxis who get escorts ect

 

it feels so unfair that i have to be going under this stress everyday and my 5 year old with my 6 year olds carrying on

 

its first thing in morning-shouting -screaming arguing ect to get out door to get school -then he starts in the car

 

then home time same thing

to top it all my 5 year old is now coming out of school being abusive to me cause he sees his brother doing it-

ive had enough

would i get any help-with transport

the thing is i have to take my 5 year old anyway and collect him-will this matter.

what do i do-the school teacher knows i have trouble -and my son gets thumbs up or tghumbs down if hes come into school ok

tbh its a pile of ######-cause he carrys on most days

then walks into school ok

im left really depressed and stressed out and im scared of driving while hes in the car

 

to walk its a fair way and he refuses to do it

as he cant walk brill -and he gets low rate mobilty

 

help please

rq xxx

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hi rq

 

Sounds like you're having a rotten time. I know before Bill was signed off sick I struggled for years before that taking him to school, he'd regularly make us late, and my other two would often be upset by the time we got there.

 

I know you should never say never, but I don't think you have a chance of getting transport. Even with a statement many people have to fight to sort out transport. There's no harm in asking, but I doubt very much that without a statement you'd have much joy... even with a statement you might find it a difficult to get.

 

Flora >:D<<'>

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I feel for you. I ve had this since ds2 started sch. I dont drive and my typical mornings are this:

Ds2 doesnt want to get up and when he does its hell.Ds2 is always in a anxiuos mood which results in him having meltdowns,throwing things and hitting out at myself and siblings. This can be caused by someone in his chair,using his cutlery or even not having his clothes a certain way. By this time he as normally upset the others ds3 is by then having a tantrum whilst ds1 wants to kill ds2. When i eventually get out the door which i normaly late by this time for school run. I proceed down the road in which by this time ds2 is trying to kick ds3 or push ds1 into the road. Ds1 also got ADHD which results in him climbing anything and everything such as lampposts,walls and the bridge we walk under along with the bus stop.All the time ds2 is kicking off picking on ds3. I normally get to the bridge where ds2 is refusing to walk any further and ds3 is sitting on the ground due to ds2 being aggressive towards him.

To be honest im glad when they are dropped off and dont look forward to collecting them as i repeat the experience over again. This happens every day for me.

In the car (husband drives) He hates any music or anyone talking. If it happens he will kick the back of the chair and go into a meltdown.

He has been like this since he could walk and its never changed.

im starting to think its always going to be like this and i dont know what the answer is to it.

Transport is normally only supplied if they have statements. My nephew has an escort to/fro his sen school. My sister doesnt seem to have the problems i do with getting her son around either walking or by car.

Stress is an understatement sometimes.

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I feel for you. I ve had this since ds2 started sch. I dont drive and my typical mornings are this:

Ds2 doesnt want to get up and when he does its hell.Ds2 is always in a anxiuos mood which results in him having meltdowns,throwing things and hitting out at myself and siblings. This can be caused by someone in his chair,using his cutlery or even not having his clothes a certain way. By this time he as normally upset the others ds3 is by then having a tantrum whilst ds1 wants to kill ds2. When i eventually get out the door which i normaly late by this time for school run. I proceed down the road in which by this time ds2 is trying to kick ds3 or push ds1 into the road. Ds1 also got ADHD which results in him climbing anything and everything such as lampposts,walls and the bridge we walk under along with the bus stop.All the time ds2 is kicking off picking on ds3. I normally get to the bridge where ds2 is refusing to walk any further and ds3 is sitting on the ground due to ds2 being aggressive towards him.

To be honest im glad when they are dropped off and dont look forward to collecting them as i repeat the experience over again. This happens every day for me.

In the car (husband drives) He hates any music or anyone talking. If it happens he will kick the back of the chair and go into a meltdown.

He has been like this since he could walk and its never changed.

im starting to think its always going to be like this and i dont know what the answer is to it.

Transport is normally only supplied if they have statements. My nephew has an escort to/fro his sen school. My sister doesnt seem to have the problems i do with getting her son around either walking or by car.

Stress is an understatement sometimes.

thanks for replying-glad to hear other people are having same trouble....the outlook is grim then-do your children comply when they are at school then?.....

my sons been same to since he could walk

im not sure what to do -as im a shy quiet person i feel im letting my son down cause im not fighting more for him-why i havnt asked for statement is cause they are telling me hes doing ok at school.

i had to struggle ect to get him dx......

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Hi

My son does not have a statement even though i have tried to get him one but he is provided transport, to his unit. It was queried that he didnt have a statement but because he goes to an asd unit i think they had to provide transport for him. Hope that helps.

Brooke

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Does ur son have any learning difficulties..ie: is he on p scales? any social communcation disorder and language difficulties?

These all count towards a statement.

Ds2 also has a specialist teaching service go in to help with his behaviuor and also a social communication teacher along with salt. He has extensive 1:1 all day every day and is monitered in the playground.

pm if you need to chat.

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thanks clintess -added you

 

 

no he has no learning difficulties but has just completed a social skills group run by speech and lang at local hospital -and they said he would get ongoing salt at his school-had this a while ect....

 

he was dx with global developmentally delay when he was 2 and a half.

in hindsight i really should of pushed for a statement back in nursery before school i guess.....

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thanks clintess -added you

no he has no learning difficulties but has just completed a social skills group run by speech and lang at local hospital -and they said he would get ongoing salt at his school-had this a while ect....

 

he was dx with global developmentally delay when he was 2 and a half.

in hindsight i really should of pushed for a statement back in nursery before school i guess.....

 

Sorry to butt in here but could you contact the transport team yourself, not sure how your area works, but My kids do not have a statment but I contacted the transport team as my mum was taking my AS son to school with is sibs as I am unable to drive due to medical condition. It got to braking point as meltdowns always seemed to happen in the car with gran, not good! The very nice lady that coordinates our area took my details and told me she would contact the area medical officer to see if we could get transport sorted, and we did. So it is possible, my kids have this until they finnish at secondary school. So might be worth a try!

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Hi Taggingalong.

 

Have you actually had any access to any of his work? also he is still revitally young, the struggle with work will be when he reaches 8 or 9 and the work becomes more complex, but there is nothing at all stopping you from requesting an assessment due to his diagnosis of ASD because under the COP you are in your rights to request one.

 

so first step would be request an assessment.

 

Secondly regaurds transport I would write to the HeadTeacher expressing the kind of behaviour your son is delivering on transporting to school and that you are deeply concerned, that for a child with a communication difficulty it may be his reluctance to school may well indeed be something to do with in the scedule of his timetable or his vunrability in the playground, it may that he needs extra provisions at breaks, dinner and playtimes.

 

I would only continue with the journey to school if it is safe to do so, if at any time you or others or the child is at any risk return home and report it to school.

 

You should not be placing yourselves at risk.

 

I would keep a detailed diary of his behaviour in all transportation and see if it rises on school trips and I would book an appointment with his GP to see if there is any suggestings he has.

 

Good luck

 

JsMum

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Hi Rainbow queen I was just wondering if the problems happen when you are going to other places in the car ? Karen.

 

 

yes -i dont go far in my car with my sons in it.....hence ive never driven on motorway or places a way off.....i think its worse going to school because its a rushed thing...and also maybe his anxiety about the school day ect...

 

but yeah i wont go to no places that i havnt already driven to and basically thats just our town really.....

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yes -i dont go far in my car with my sons in it.....hence ive never driven on motorway or places a way off.....i think its worse going to school because its a rushed thing...and also maybe his anxiety about the school day ect...

 

but yeah i wont go to no places that i havnt already driven to and basically thats just our town really.....

 

 

I was wondering whether the problems in the car are to do with stress about school or whether it is car travel generally that is the issue.

I don't know whether anyone on the forum has found a way to help with difficult stressful car travel.

I am in a similar situation to yourself but fortunately we live very near the school.

Anything but a local journey is very stressful if OH is not in the car. :rolleyes::rolleyes: Karen.

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