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My ds2 came home last night with homework...It was about fiction and non fiction. When i saw it i couldnt belive it, only last week he was sent home work that he couldnt even read and i ended up doing it for him.

Today i had a word with the head and showed her and said its self explanitre (soz for spelling) what the issue is.

She said just read it to ds2 which i had already done and told her he didnt know what i was going on about. That i was doing his homework for him.

The other pieace of homework he was given i saw briefly and havent seen it since.. Im guessing its a certain male teacher that my ds2 seems to off taken a dislike to for reasons unknown. Which i also mentioned. The last peice of homework set by certain male teacher ended up in a bush. My ds1 told me which i left in their hands to find as there are many bushs in the school premises.

The head is going to find out whats going on. I dont know the male teacher,i havent even seen him but my guessing is that he as probably raised his voice and put my ds2 off him.

Anyone else had these issues either as a parent or as a teacher?

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my son is 8 this year and gets homework,its ususally reading and spelling and some sums, i have to get him in a good mood and interested in doing it,which is a challenge, because he is reluctant to write,so i have to persuade him and reading, he can do beautifully,but he has to be intrested in reading the book, sometimes, i have had to write refused with a :( on the space of his reading diary and try again later. The progress is slow and steady.

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My 11 year old daughter (she's not AS) came back with maths homework on bonfire night she was struggling with it so we said she could finish it when she got home from the fireworks, however we didn't get back till 9.45pm so it was too late to start. I told her not to get distressed and we would have a look at it in the morning.

 

Come the next morning I'm feeding the babies and we looked at her homework - unfortunately it was fractions :( and I am rubbish at them. So I said I couldn't do it she'd have to wait for her brothers. Eldest (he's doing Further Maths at A level) looked at it, sat down and explained the working out but she didn't understand that so we waited until the next eldest (the genius) came down and he took one look and said:

 

"Oh that's easy, you just take the denominator................." at which point my daughter threw the homework book across the room :lol:

 

So I told her not to worry, just take the homework to the teacher and tell her you couldn't understand it and could she go through it again. Did the teacher do this?....no, she just took the book and wrote "Homework Unfinished" and didn't even explain it to her.

 

When I was at school if you got stuck the teacher showed you what to do grrrrrrrrr.

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Hi clintess,

My dd struggles with homework, but also with school work in general, she has to be kept on task, motivated and really understand before doing it.

It always ends in tears, but we are improving, i feel if i dont help her now to do it she will not progress and this will be tough for her in secondary school.

I think this is the hardest task in our household at the moment so good luck and i hope you find the answers

Nicola

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My son has left school now but, the mere mention of the word homework sends shivers down my spine :tearful: . Alex used to struggle so much at school full stop and was so stressed by it that coming home and having to do even more school work used to cause world war 3 at home, but we used to try. If he had to write some paragraphs on a subject and only managed a couple of lines before getting too stressed, then that was good enough for me. It was better for him to have tried than not do any at all.

 

 

So I told her not to worry, just take the homework to the teacher and tell her you couldn't understand it and could she go through it again. Did the teacher do this?....no, she just took the book and wrote "Homework Unfinished" and didn't even explain it to her.

 

When I was at school if you got stuck the teacher showed you what to do grrrrrrrrr.

 

Couldn't agree more Daisy :thumbs: .

 

Annie

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i love homework!!!!!!!! he doesnt understand it, i explain, he still doesnt get it, and i do it for him cause they put them on detention if they dont do it it... :clap: :clap:

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i love homework!!!!!!!! he doesnt understand it, i explain, he still doesnt get it, and i do it for him cause they put them on detention if they dont do it it... :clap: :clap:

 

 

I read an article in the Saturday Broadsheet about pressures on parents re school projects.It appears you have lots of company.

Large numbers of parents spend evenings doing projects,craft,outfits for events etc etc.

Some really do enjoy it. :rolleyes: Karen.

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Now JP is working, we don't have homework for the first time EVER ..... ohhhhh, the relief!

He is soooo much happier being able to chill out & watch Autumnwatch with us, then shower, supper, bed. He said to me just tonight, I look forward to going to work each morning :wub:

 

He starts his NVQ soon though. It CAN'T be as bad as 6th form workload though, surely?

 

Anyhoo, I know its horrible - one day, it will be a distant memory >:D<<'>

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When B sits his GCSEs in 2011, I want to sit them too. With the amount of homework and home learning we have shared, I bet I'd get A*s all round.

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L's first major project at junior school was to make a rainforest. She was having trouble getting started, so while she watched, I made a beautiful rainforest in a big glass jar, went to the garden centre and selected the plants for it and I was especially proud of the mirror pond and the lianas made out of brown thread. :dance:

 

The teacher had decided it would be a competition. Sadly, another child won - her dad worked at the Natural History Museum specialising in rainforest flora and fauna. :rolleyes:

 

We never stood a chance really. :lol:

 

K x

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"So I told her not to worry, just take the homework to the teacher and tell her you couldn't understand it and could she go through it again. Did the teacher do this?....no, she just took the book and wrote "Homework Unfinished" and didn't even explain it to her.

 

When I was at school if you got stuck the teacher showed you what to do grrrrrrrrr."

 

Last year we had a real issue with P's teacher doing this, so i started replying in his homework book. Every time she wrote "not finished" I wrote "not compulsory". She hated me!. He's changed teachers this year and it's sooooo different. It'll be a different matter when he hits secondary school though as homework IS compulsory there.

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[Last year we had a real issue with P's teacher doing this, so i started replying in his homework book. Every time she wrote "not finished" I wrote "not compulsory". She hated me!. He's changed teachers this year and it's sooooo different. It'll be a different matter when he hits secondary school though as homework IS compulsory there.

 

 

 

:thumbs::thumbs: You are very brave.I have thought it but would never be that brave.Karen.

Edited by Karen A
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I give my lad extensive help with his homework. We do it on a Sunday morning while his Dad is out on his bike. I'll leave him to get on for as long as he can manage on his own but then I'm straight in there before he has a chance to get stressed out. I take over the writing for him, if it's Maths I'll draw all the boxes and graphs for him and he'll just fill them in or else he'll tell me what to write and I'll write it. If he has to write a paragraph or something for Science or English, I'll type for him word for word what he dictates. It's totally his work, it's just that I act as his secretary and scribe for him. If he needs to come up with ideas I'll break it down for him and ask questions until I coax the ideas out of his head and jot them down for him, it's like getting blood out of a stone, but they do come from him eventually! My fav bit of homework was for English, he had to read a piece of poetry and answer questions. He didn't have a single clue, so I had to talk him through it bit by bit and I loved it and he really got into it by the end. In these ways we get homework done and dusted as fast and as stress-free as possible and I haven't had any complaints from teachers yet! :whistle:

 

~ Mel ~

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Hi.We also help with drawing boxes in maths and similar activities that are not a significant part of the work.

If it enables Ben to do the work that is being assessed then it is worth it.Karen.

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You know what I like this thread and why? It's just so good to know your kid isn't the only one struggling in a world of homework. My older lads have never struggled with homework and the daughter only occasionally so to hear you all talk this way about the problems I have with Martin - well it's kinda comforting in a strange way :)

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I'll leave him to get on for as long as he can manage on his own but then I'm straight in there before he has a chance to get stressed out. If he has to write a paragraph or something for Science or English, I'll type for him word for word what he dictates. It's totally his work, it's just that I act as his secretary and scribe for him. If he needs to come up with ideas I'll break it down for him and ask questions until I coax the ideas out of his head and jot them down for him. In these ways we get homework done and dusted as fast and as stress-free as possible.

~ Mel ~

 

Mel, that's EXACTLY what I do with B.

I also teach him other strategies for remembering things like MFL vocabulary and science formulae.

Because of the time, patience and 1:1 teaching from me, he has a much better, fuller understanding of what his subjects are about. That means that in class, he is more confident, less confused and stressed. So his classwork is benefitting from the individual tuition and support. He dictates, I scribe, he copies.

He writes a first draft, we discuss it, read it through, alter or reorganise material. Then I write it out neatly, so that he can see to copy it correctly.

It's not cheating or wrong. The fact that the work B produces in class shows he knows his stuff when I'm not there is enough for me to be sure that I'm doing the right thing.

Takes a lot of time though, well done us! >:D<<'>

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HOMEWORK In the Goverments Homework Policy says that the work should be at a suitable level for each child.

 

J does get homework but it is tailored to his ability and only two peices a week.

 

We do struggle even with this so i do understand.

 

The school should make reasonable adjustments in homework related issues if your child has a spersific difficulty.

 

I am aware now that Librarys now do Homework clubs, and schools are adding Homework workshops after school now too who have trained staff who can help them from there fractions to there dots.

 

Maths is my weekness, and I am thinking about going on a Adult Ed Course and having a go at a level one?

 

If you want to know more on Homework then I found this on homework.

 

http://www.bbc.co.uk/schools/parents/life/..._how_much.shtml

 

JsMum

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Homework and children with special educational needs

 

Schools are expected to consider carefully the needs of individual children and think about how they can best work with parents and carers to support their learning, including their personal and social development. Teachers are asked to be careful to ensure that children with special needs in mainstream schools are given good quality homework tasks rather than just completing class work. They should also work with school's special educational needs coordinator (SENCO) to make sure the level is right.

 

JsMum

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I do agree with you, Js mum, good schools treat children as individuals and support parents.

The problem that my son faces is that he has no learning difficulties.

I know that sounds a bit strange, but he is in Y8 and his current working levels are between 5 and 7. His predicted grades are 6s and 7s for the end of KS3. The difficulties that he has in school are linked purely to his AS; noise, working with others, concentrating in a busy environment, taking things literally etc, etc.

Most of his teachers are very AS aware and use strategies and methods that enable him to learn in their classes. Sometimes it's as simple as giving him his own worksheet instead of 1:2.

Some don't adapt, usually PE, French and supply teachers. Then there are consequences!

So helping and supporting him with his homework, teaching him ways to learn information is what he needs me to do. Armed with that, he copes well and enjoys school.

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I do agree with you, Js mum, good schools treat children as individuals and support parents.

The problem that my son faces is that he has no learning difficulties.

I know that sounds a bit strange, but he is in Y8 and his current working levels are between 5 and 7. His predicted grades are 6s and 7s for the end of KS3. The difficulties that he has in school are linked purely to his AS; noise, working with others, concentrating in a busy environment, taking things literally etc, etc.

Most of his teachers are very AS aware and use strategies and methods that enable him to learn in their classes. Sometimes it's as simple as giving him his own worksheet instead of 1:2.

Some don't adapt, usually PE, French and supply teachers. Then there are consequences!

So helping and supporting him with his homework, teaching him ways to learn information is what he needs me to do. Armed with that, he copes well and enjoys school.

 

And what a good TA should also do. So many of the things described on here are what JP got in house - scribe services, differentiation etc. We were so very lucky in the superb support he got throughout. Homework was NEVER an easy ride for him, but at least we knew he was getting the support at school/college.

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Mel, that's EXACTLY what I do with B.

I also teach him other strategies for remembering things like MFL vocabulary and science formulae.

Because of the time, patience and 1:1 teaching from me, he has a much better, fuller understanding of what his subjects are about. That means that in class, he is more confident, less confused and stressed. So his classwork is benefitting from the individual tuition and support. He dictates, I scribe, he copies.

He writes a first draft, we discuss it, read it through, alter or reorganise material. Then I write it out neatly, so that he can see to copy it correctly.

It's not cheating or wrong. The fact that the work B produces in class shows he knows his stuff when I'm not there is enough for me to be sure that I'm doing the right thing.

Takes a lot of time though, well done us! >:D<<'>

 

 

Yep, it does take a lot of effort and patience doesn't it, but it's certainly worth it. :thumbs: If I left him to get on with it on his own he'd end up a gibbering wreck and would become hysterical to the point where it would just be unbearable for him. Some work that is sent home he just could not do it on his own, he wouldn't have a clue where to start, he needs the intervention and I'll carry on giving it to him no matter what. He did have a TA once who, on looking at his Maths homework, told him that I shouldn't be doing it for him. For one thing, I wasn't doing it for him, I'd just written it for him, he'd done the work, and for another thing, she isn't his teacher and if the teacher did have a problem, well, she could come to me with it and I'd tell her what for.

 

The thing is we understand how our children's heads work and we're best equipped to help them understand things. Jay has a new TA at the moment and she's going about things in the wrong way in lessons and her methods aren't helping him really. I could sit with him and get the work out of him in five mins, but she's struggling because she's not understanding how his head is wired and what he needs. It's a bit tricky at the mo, though, 'cos I get frustrated when I hear how she's done things but I don't want to go in there putting their backs up and giving tips, so I'll just wait and watch for the mo.

 

~ Mel ~ >:D<<'>

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I have to say I really do not agree with young children being given "homework" as far as im concerned my son goes to school 6hrs a day 5 days a week why then should he be given homework every other day??? Doesnt he do enough while he is there? :angry:

He rarely get its now he is at the unit and i certainly dont mind reading homework but when he was 5 he was getting homework 3 times a week, and had no clue what he was meant to be doing. In the end i said to his teacher i am not having my son hysterical at home because he doesnt understand or know how to do his homework, even though i practically did it for him i thought im not putting him through this.

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I have to say I really do not agree with young children being given "homework" as far as im concerned my son goes to school 6hrs a day 5 days a week why then should he be given homework every other day??? Doesnt he do enough while he is there? :angry:

 

I agree, Brooke. It's stressful enough for them having to cope with being at school all that time, when they get home they deserve to be able to relax and recharge their batteries without having to get stressed out all over again about homework. Jay doesn't get much homework compared to others, and I refuse to do homework with him after a full day at school, we save it up until Sunday morning and get it out of the way then in a relaxed way and that has become our routine now and it works well for us. But, yes, after a full day at school they should put their feet up and chill.

 

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