steve123 Report post Posted June 6, 2008 Hi just came across the site, and thought I should sign up, i'm 35. Girlfriend said that I had Aspergers about 2-3 montsh ago which was alot to take on. Initially kind of blocked it out, but can see that alot of the symptoms are there but only seem to come out when I get nervous.... dont know if that is similar to other people, still learning I guess. But hello anyways. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tally Report post Posted June 6, 2008 Hi Steve, and welcome to the forum. Have you discussed this with your doctor at all? It's impossible to be sure whether you have Asperger's unless you have been properly assessed by a qualified psychologist. But if you have a lot of the traits, it is worth learning about, and looking into techniques that might help. I think it's quite common for the difficulties to become more apparent at times of stress. It might be because you have less energy left over to spend on trying to act normal. There are many other possibilities too. I was diagnosed with AS last year, aged 25, although I suspected for a few years before that. The diagnosis was a good thing, because it helped me to understand things a lot better. It was hard to come to terms with as well, but ultimately, a positive thing for me. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Kathryn Report post Posted June 6, 2008 Hi Steve Welcome to the forum. K x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ScienceGeek Report post Posted June 6, 2008 Hi Steve and welcome to the forum! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
baddad Report post Posted June 6, 2008 Hi Steve - welcome to the forum Totally agree with Tally about seeking professional advice/opinions (unless, of course, your girlfriend is a fully qualified professional in the field of autism and diagnostics! ). Reactions to stressful situations are not unique to people with autism, and neither are things like feeling uncomfortable or nervous in social or formal situations and 'getting it wrong' as a consequence - these are perfectly normal and natural parts of the human condition, and effect everyone on the planet to a greater or lesser degree. I recently posted this from a book by Tony Attwood - a leading specialist in autism research and diagnosis: Sometimes partners in a relationship may acquire information from the media and consider that a diagnosis of AS may explain their husband's (or wifes') unusual hobby and difficulties with empathy and social skills. It is important to remember that many typical women feel that their partner does not understand what they are thinking or feeling, and that many natural characteristics of males could be perceived as signs of AS... The full post is below, and the thread contains a link to the DSM IV diagnostic criteria that may be of interest: http://www.asd-forum.org.uk/forum/index.ph...st&p=215942 Of course, none of that's to suggest that you are or are not autistic - I couldn't possibly know! - but it may help you to decide whether you think there's any substance to your girlfirend's suggestion. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bagpuss Report post Posted June 6, 2008 Hello Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pearl Report post Posted June 6, 2008 Hi Steve & welcome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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steve123 Report post Posted June 6, 2008 Would like to say she's a qualified psychiatrist, probably feels like it after having read so much on the condition.... but being a mental health nurse probably raised her suspicions to the fact that my quirky behaviour could be attributed to AS. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Karen A Report post Posted June 15, 2008 Hi Steve Welcome to the Forum. Karen. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ASue67 Report post Posted June 15, 2008 Hi and welcome <'> Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mummy Report post Posted June 15, 2008 Hi Steve. When our son was disnosed with AS we researched and realise that my hubby clearly has it too. It has never been officially diagnos3ed but we just kinda know. since that revelation we have actually got on a lot better because there is more of an understanding between us. Mummy x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sarah Perry Report post Posted June 17, 2008 Hello and welcome Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gothschild Report post Posted June 17, 2008 Hello Steve Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pookie170 Report post Posted June 21, 2008 Hey Steve, nice to 'meet' you! Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Imelda Report post Posted June 22, 2008 Hi there! Yep, we are all learning every day. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites