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Over the past few weeks I've noticed that DS2 (eight, ASD) is withdrawing more and more into his own world and it's worrying me. He interacts much less with us - parents and brothers - at home and when he does he shouts and is really belligerent, often hitting/scratching.

 

He's always had a tendency to do this, but it seems to happen more and more constantly now. He just wants to 'daydream' - his word - about Power Rangers, or watch them on DVD, or watch the models being built on You Tube.

 

I'm wondering what is behind it. Could it be

1. He's getting a bit older and he just wants to do his own thing

2. He's currently finding life a bit tough and it's more comfortable to withdraw

3. More is being demanded of him at school and this is just his way of having some down time and relaxation

4. something else

 

We recently went to tribunal over his amended Statement and he now has 25 hours of support a week, which is being used in a much more positive way, for example a specialist teacher is now teaching him 1:1 for three hours a week. I wonder if maybe the fact that he has to 'switch on' more at school means he is switching off more at home? I suppose we'll get a better idea of whether this is the case once the school holidays start and there's no more off this specific teaching (don't get me wrong - I'm thrilled it's happening!). He refuses to do any of the exercises or play any of the 'games' that he does at school with us at home, although I've tried. I suppose school is school and home is home. The problem is, home life with him is getting worse and worse!

 

I'm just worried as to why he seems to be withdrawing from us. He just seems to want to live in his Power Rangers bubble - even walking to school he walks 10ft behind and recites the scripts, waving his hands about. This is different from how he used to be a few months ago, when he'd walk next to me and sometimes he's answer questions. Now he just shoos us away and if we interfere he gets angry. I'm sure he disappears into that bubble at school, too, but it doesn't get noticed so much because he's nice and quiet when he's in it, just away in his mind!

 

Sorry for the waffle, but I'd welcome any thoughts.

 

Lizzie :(

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Hi Lizzie

Do you think it could have anything to do with it being the end of the school year and all the talk of the holidays, moving up a year in school, new teachers etc. It always affects Z

Good Luck Hope you get to the bottom of it soon >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'>

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Hi Lizzie

Do you think it could have anything to do with it being the end of the school year and all the talk of the holidays, moving up a year in school, new teachers etc. It always affects Z

Good Luck Hope you get to the bottom of it soon >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'>

 

I don't know - he doesn't seem obviously bothered by anything - usually he makes it pretty obvious what he does and doesn't like... But you may be right. There's a lot to put with in the last week of school, too - school always totally underestimates the effect it has on my boys. But he isn't complaining about school, and isn't not wanting to go (unlike his older brother, who hates it with a passion...)

 

Lizzie xx

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He may not be aware if something is getting to him. It's very common in autism to have difficulty recognising and expressing emotions.

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Hi Lizzie

Do you think it could have anything to do with it being the end of the school year and all the talk of the holidays, moving up a year in school, new teachers etc. It always affects Z

Good Luck Hope you get to the bottom of it soon >:D<<'> >:D<<'> >:D<<'>

 

There may be something in that. L is always more stressed at this time of year I've noticed - so many disruptions to the normal routine. So it may be his way of coping and keeping control when everything around is changing.

 

I suppose you'll have to wait and see whether he's still doing it in a couple of weeks' time.

 

It's good to hear he's getting some proper support at last - about time! >:D<<'>

 

K x

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Wow that?s tough.

 

My son used to throw tantrums and over night he stopped, he then became withdrawn and over time stopped talking I did noticed over the summer holiday he improved but revert back to his world in a matter of weeks once he retuned back to school. It was not the school fault however my son just could not cope so further changes needed to be made.

 

Sorry it?s not much help but see how your son is over the holidays and if he improves but slips back to his own world in September you have your answer. Try to stay optimistic and good luck.

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L has been hard work this last week and i too am thinking it could be the school holidays coming up!

Oh boy! School holidays! :blink:

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we r also having a nitemare with reece at the mo shouting swearing and biting hitting cratching ec t;

he is really stressed at scool at the mo so i would do wat the others have sugested and see if hes better wen the holidays start!!

thats wat im gonna do....

 

goodluck

 

love donnaxxxxxx

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Hi BusyLizzie,

 

my son calls his internal world 'daydreaming' too! He spends a lot of time daydreaming and as he's getting older, (he's 7 and diagnosed with AS), he seems to be doing it more. (If he's daydreaming in the evening, he calls it 'nightdreaming'). My son does the same sort of thing as yours, as he's walking along he's living out a different world in his head, and he hums and sort of sings. He'll answer some questions sometimes, but most of the time he's thinking and talking about Ben 10.

 

School is getting hard socially for my son now and I suspect he's daydreaming a lot there. He finds school very tiring and exhausting and he has no idea why the other kids do the things they do :tearful: .

 

Just wanted to let you know that my son is a bit the same >:D<<'> and I'm interested in people's thoughts too.

 

Eva

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thanks all, for your replies. It's so nice to come on here and 'express' without being told, oh he's all right, nothing to worry about... so thanks. :notworthy:

 

Eva, had to laugh at 'nightdreaming' - just the thing my lad would say, too!! :lol:

 

Lizzie >:D<<'>

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It has really helped me reading this thread also.

 

My Max, 7, has been moving into his own world more and more, particularly over the last 6 months, and more so lately. With Max its all soldiers and guns, he calls us Seargent Smith, or tells us he is Corporal so-and-so, and if we don't play along he gets so angry. Its getting worse as he is getting older. I had wondered if it was because he is becoming more aware of the world and didn't want to be in it, but in his. He calls it "his world".

 

I had wondered if this was something that 7 to 8 ASD children do? Reading this, others are very similar.

 

Also he's not liking the end of term, as activities are different, today its a beach party at school which thinks is terrible.

 

Don't feel so alone now.

 

Sorry have no answers, but just the reassurance that its similar.

 

Jo

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My lad is the same he just want to be in his own little w.w.e world n when he is with us he is always in a bad mood and really grumpy n quite nasty sounding with his words itms. Another odd thing is my lad has an 'imaginary' baby he cares for!!!????? :huh:

 

Sorry edited for awful spelling!!

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