Hello!

[ScottLewis]

Hello,

 

I'm 19, was diagnosed with Aspergers as a child, however I left the country to live with my dad before anything further could be done.

Lived a life of near social hell and was eventually told about my Aspergers at age 18 after failing to stick out university after I moved to Britain for it.

 

I moved back to China for a year afterwards and spent a whole year doing essentially nothing. I'm back in Britain now to try and get something sorted but little seems to be happening, I have seen doctors etc, have a ###### social worker and some other person seeing me almost every week.

 

I'm just stuck here, in a rented flat, dead end town, on the dole, no prospects it seems, no friends. Horrendous social anxiety and extremely low self confidence, I never seem to smile, am incredibly depressed...just so sick of everything and don't know what to do or where to turn?

 

Sorry if this is a bit of a downer but I don't know where to look for help...doesn't seem like anyone understands and this site seems to be one of my few last resorts..

[smiley1590]

hello there

 

i can relate to you and your problems as i have similiar things myself depression,severe social anxiety low self-confidence i get 'sick of everything' common term used when depression got you there stuck you tried meds anti-depressants? how long you been depressed for would you say?

 

i understand and get you there many people just like you out there that have AS with common MH probs alongside that with lack employment just general lonliness and unhappiness with themselves! are you confused frustrated you sound it? correct me if im stating wrong im same age as you are now i know how hard and tough life can be daily battle field when feel dragged down tired and worn down mentally and emotionally! have you seen pyschlogists,pyschtrists? when say you not smiling you know that physical effect of your depression showing on the outside?

 

you spoke to NAS? for help and support? and doc to refer you somewhere to support for your range of MH probs you go through sounds like you need desperately! could you appeal to change your social worker if you feel no working relationship or personal connection with her? anyone you can complain to about her? as this may make things feel worse if you feel you can't open up and talk about how you feeling? NAS can assess you to use their range of services they provide in your local area eg employment benefits support! i would seek advise ASAP hun really no time to hold back!

 

sounds like you also angry,bitter upset ??? this true?

 

take care

keep your chin up

always here to listen if need to sound off anytime know how it all feels and builds up inside over the years!

love ya loadz

 

XKLX

[Dawn22]

Hi,i felt compelled to write to you.

 

My name is Dawn,and I am the mother of a recently diagnosed 9 yr old.

I don't have aspergers myself,and have been through a steep learning curve with my son,as have the rest of the family.

I can't pretend to understand how aspergers has affected your life,but i can completely relate to the feeling of depression,living in a small town,feeling miserable,no social life etc.Although we have different reasons for the causes of these feelings,i felt them all the same.

I have only posted a few times on here,but i have gained so much information,support from behind the scenes as it were,just reading the posts on here makes me feel less alone.You will find other people on here in similar situations and also an outlet for your feelings and thoughts.

I have found that just writing my problems down in a message to members on here,has partly solved my problems,as it has allowed me the time to reflect on MY thoughts and FEELINGS.

 

You are not alone,and i just want you to know that,also,when you are in the middle of a foggy nightmare and are feeling rubbish..things do get better..you will find a way forward,and am sure you will get a great response on here.

 

I hope this makes you feel a little better,

 

warm welcome,Dawn, <'>

Edited June 16, 2009 by Kathryn

[something_different]

hello and welcome!

[bid]

Welcome to the forum

 

I think having to live on your own is tough for anyone at 19, before your bring AS into the equation

 

Bid

[Thompsons]

Welcome

 

I'm also in a similar situation - I turn 19 next week and I can relate to your post. Are you on medication? I've been taking anti-depressants since I was 14 and like you described, I just had no motivation, I couldn't even smile or laugh anymore. I didn't even bother getting out of bed. But the medication has really helped me. It lessens my anxieties and my mood improves significantly.

 

As for your social worker, she should be trying to help you out with all of these things. My social worker takes me to a group with other people with mental health problems once a week. She's been looking into online learning for me and has been taking me out into different social situations. Maybe try suggesting these things (though to be honest you shouldn't have to, she should have already). If she's still of no help then I'd find someone else.

 

I still live with my parents.. I can't imagine living on my own - I wouldn't no where to start! No wonder your finding things difficult at the moment. Have you looked into supported living? I don't know a whole lot about it, but it was suggested to me that if I wanted to try things out on my own, there are places you can go where you have support and opportunities to socialise with people.. Like I said I don't know much about it really, you'd have to look it up or inquire about it

 

Good luck!!

[kats]

Hiya Scott, I feel able to understand what your going through.

 

I'm also 19 and finding it hard to get by with AS and it seems that no one understands what your g9oing through, which makes life a lot harder. But with places like this where you can talk to other people that has AS, will help make things better. its also nice to talk to people that are on the same level as you to help sort things out togethe4r.

 

 

If you ever want to talk just let me know

 

 

kats

Edited June 20, 2009 by kats