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Hi, My 11 year old son had to come out of school 2 months ago due to the sress of being there.....he was very stressed anxious and i ahd no choice as it was affecting my health as well......i try and teach him at home with help from books internet sites etc., he likes them as he doesnt like writing very much....waiting to see if he will eb able to go to secondary school in september as he is gettign anxious about it already.... anyone have same problems would welcome any replies...thanks...lindy

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I took my son out at the beginning of Y5 for similar reasons. No support whatsoever despite mounting problems. We're stil HEing and he's doing well.

 

Did you deregister or is he still on the LEA roll?

 

Karen

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I took my son out at the beginning of Y5 for similar reasons. No support whatsoever despite mounting problems. We're stil HEing and he's doing well.

 

Did you deregister or is he still on the LEA roll?

 

Karen

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Hi, Yes i deregistered.......had 1 letter from some education department a few weeks ago i replied and told them what i was doing and about how he had been seen by an educational psychogist before xmas but unfortunately i di not see him for the oucome but his teacher had mentioned aspergers and she thought that was what he had my other 3 older children 31,24 and 20 have signs of aspergers as well.......i dont know how he will cope with secndary school it is a worry ahve to speak to them to see if i can get some support....he has 3 taster days this month so will se how it will go....its nice to speak to someone who understands my sons obsession is the pc.....so itry and get him some interesting sites to do maths etc., i suppose we have to teach them what they like as well or he will show no interest.......thank you lindy

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Hi, Yes i deregistered.......had 1 letter from some education department a few weeks ago i replied and told them what i was doing and about how he had been seen by an educational psychogist before xmas but unfortunately i di not see him for the oucome but his teacher had mentioned aspergers and she thought that was what he had my other 3 older children 31,24 and 20 have signs of aspergers as well.......i dont know how he will cope with secndary school it is a worry ahve to speak to them to see if i can get some support....he has 3 taster days this month so will se how it will go....its nice to speak to someone who understands my sons obsession is the pc.....so itry and get him some interesting sites to do maths etc., i suppose we have to teach them what they like as well or he will show no interest.......thank you lindy

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Sorry I dont have any experience,well a little.My son has been on a part time timetable since January,so I home ed him for 2 hours in the afternoon.I think as long as what he is doing has some educational value then its fine.My son is nearly 7 and uses BBC bitesize with games on but he does actually learn from it.Reading is good as well,Sam reads at least one book a day,sometimes more depending on the page and font size.

 

I was about to ask if he is going to see the school,but see he is,that is great.Hopefully when he goes he will feel more relaxed.Anyway you can meet with the school SENco at the new school before he even goes to the taster days? That way they can keep an eye and be aware of his problems from day1.

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My son struggles with writing too, among other things. It was really beginning to hold him back but he wasn't getting any help for it. Found out recently he has hypemobile joints which I'm sure didn't help - he's obviously been in discomfort for years :tearful: .

 

HE means we can concentrate on his handwriting more than would happen at school. For longer writing he can use the computer and type his answers, and we can work at a pace that suits him - if it's getting too much he can take a break and come back later. Same with other things he struggles with, like social skills, understanding emotions, communication, which we can fit into his day. He never had anything like that at school, was just expected to be the same as everyone else.

 

We did think about applying for secondary but to be honest I don't have the confidence that they'd support him as he needs. His problems are rather subtle and not obvious to those who don't understand Asperger's - you really need to know what you're looking for to understand where his difficulties lie. Besides, J's had so much negative experience at school that he can't bring himself to feel good about it. He enjoys HE has friends for the first time (ie people who like him rather than pretending as an excuse to tease him for laughs), and he's learning more than ever.

 

Hope the taster days go well for your son and he settles OK into secondary. When will you know if he has a place?

 

Good luck

Karen

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My son struggles with writing too, among other things. It was really beginning to hold him back but he wasn't getting any help for it. Found out recently he has hypemobile joints which I'm sure didn't help - he's obviously been in discomfort for years :tearful: .

 

HE means we can concentrate on his handwriting more than would happen at school. For longer writing he can use the computer and type his answers, and we can work at a pace that suits him - if it's getting too much he can take a break and come back later. Same with other things he struggles with, like social skills, understanding emotions, communication, which we can fit into his day. He never had anything like that at school, was just expected to be the same as everyone else.

 

We did think about applying for secondary but to be honest I don't have the confidence that they'd support him as he needs. His problems are rather subtle and not obvious to those who don't understand Asperger's - you really need to know what you're looking for to understand where his difficulties lie. Besides, J's had so much negative experience at school that he can't bring himself to feel good about it. He enjoys HE has friends for the first time (ie people who like him rather than pretending as an excuse to tease him for laughs), and he's learning more than ever.

 

Hope the taster days go well for your son and he settles OK into secondary. When will you know if he has a place?

 

Good luck

Karen

xHi Karen He has a place but i dont think he will cope with it too many children and noise.....he is getting worried now....he used to be in a welsh speaking only school i suppose that didnt help if i knew what was wrong.....as you get into trouble if you speak english.....i am scottish hubby is welsh n0 2......he is so much happier now my hubby is hoping he will be ok at the secondary he doesnt think he has aspergers so thats a problem thats why i want to speak to the psychologist......im in limbo...........but whats to be ......speak soon lindy x

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Hi Lindy

 

We took our son out of school at the end of Y4 because he was getting so distressed due to lack of support and bullying it was affecting his physical health. He's intellectually able but at a total loss when it comes to handwriting, spelling, arithmetic and motor skills. He also has specific problems with expressive and receptive speech and with reading.

 

Soon after starting home education, we discovered that he has specific visual and auditory problems that explain all the things he finds difficult. He now has a diagnosis of autism, but it isn't the autistic characteristics that caused most difficulty at school. It has been really hard to get appropriate treatment for his auditory and visual problems, but at least knowing what the problems are has enabled me to adjust what he does at home to make it accessible to him, and of course being in a familiar, quiet environment has helped him make a lot of headway with things he's best at, like science and reading. He's been able to take handwriting and arithmetic etc at his own pace. But it did take time for us to find a routine that suited him and a lot of patience and faith that he would learn. He was so averse to anything 'schooly' at first that I really wondered if we'd done the right thing. It was only the fact that there wasn't an alternative at the time, that kept us going.

 

Originally, we intended to home educate only until we'd found a suitable secondary school. But we couldn't find one - not mainstream anyway - so he's still at home three years on. We are still planning to look at schools, but they will need to be specialist ones. Ds couldn't cope with a large junior school - there is no way he could handle a mainstream secondary, and he will therefore need a statement. At least now I know that if we decide to go down this route and it doesn't work out, that home education really works for him.

 

Hope this helps. Home education doesn't have to be a final decision. Your son, and schools, can change. It's what he needs now that's important.

 

cb

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Hi Lindy

 

We took our son out of school at the end of Y4 because he was getting so distressed due to lack of support and bullying it was affecting his physical health. He's intellectually able but at a total loss when it comes to handwriting, spelling, arithmetic and motor skills. He also has specific problems with expressive and receptive speech and with reading.

 

Soon after starting home education, we discovered that he has specific visual and auditory problems that explain all the things he finds difficult. He now has a diagnosis of autism, but it isn't the autistic characteristics that caused most difficulty at school. It has been really hard to get appropriate treatment for his auditory and visual problems, but at least knowing what the problems are has enabled me to adjust what he does at home to make it accessible to him, and of course being in a familiar, quiet environment has helped him make a lot of headway with things he's best at, like science and reading. He's been able to take handwriting and arithmetic etc at his own pace. But it did take time for us to find a routine that suited him and a lot of patience and faith that he would learn. He was so averse to anything 'schooly' at first that I really wondered if we'd done the right thing. It was only the fact that there wasn't an alternative at the time, that kept us going.

 

Originally, we intended to home educate only until we'd found a suitable secondary school. But we couldn't find one - not mainstream anyway - so he's still at home three years on. We are still planning to look at schools, but they will need to be specialist ones. Ds couldn't cope with a large junior school - there is no way he could handle a mainstream secondary, and he will therefore need a statement. At least now I know that if we decide to go down this route and it doesn't work out, that home education really works for him.

 

Hope this helps. Home education doesn't have to be a final decision. Your son, and schools, can change. It's what he needs now that's important.

 

cb

Hi, Thank you for the informatiom and support..... he is fretting about going for the taster days... i will feel better once i have spoke to a teacher about our problems......it is taking time for a routine for us some days he wants to learn others hes not so interested....i will speak more soon when i have more time.........lindy

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hi my dd is 14 and never made it to secondary school!!! i have slogged for 2 years to try and get her her education sorted out and now have hopefully got somewhere,i was advised not to deregister because then you are on your own totally so i didnt and have since had visits from the education office and as said have now been told the school will finally provide her with course work for 4 standard grade exams,we are up in highlands of scotland.and have also agreed to pay for her to do a art and design course on line to get a city and guilds qualification,as she doesnt go out at all she has been unable to go to school,as said its taken 2 years to get this and now i have just have to get her to do the work!!! which is the next big step.

so hopefully in the end it will be worth it because i just didnt feel confident enough to try teaching her at her age ,just found there was not enough help to do it alone ,maybe easier for younger children .hope it all works out.

julia

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we have just deregistered our daughter [yesterday] but im in a different position ,we have gone through the statement process and she will move to a special school september at the latest. after numerous fruitless meetings we decided to call it a day as she is currently being assessed for as/asd they will do nothing to help her untill she had a diagnosis. she developed abdominal migrain was constantly vomiying almost every morning and schools response was "she will just have to get used to it ". how i didnt lamp the senco there and then i dont know .

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Sounds very similar to our experience jollypig - no intervention until there's a formal diagnosis. Mind you, they didn't do anything once he'd got one, either :tearful: so in the end we had no choice but to HE. Fortunately it's working out for the best.

 

Good luck with your daughter's new school.

 

Karen

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Sounds very similar to our experience jollypig - no intervention until there's a formal diagnosis. Mind you, they didn't do anything once he'd got one, either :tearful: so in the end we had no choice but to HE. Fortunately it's working out for the best.

 

Good luck with your daughter's new school.

 

Karen

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Mine had formal diagnosis at 6yrs of age, he didn't get pro support until he was 11 ! It was a succession of baby-sitters. He will never recoup those lost years. I wasn't in a position of being able to home teach or I certainly would never have sent him to school... on the grounds he wouldn't have learnt anything, since the main reason 'interaction' and 'inclusion' never happened, it still doesn't inside or outside school. It took a very long time to convince people it just wasn't feasible, and they STILL try ! I suss they are scared we will tell them main streaming and inclusion policies do not apply to some autistics at all.

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its just been a couple of days but the change is amazing , she is getting up around 7am of her own accord and doing her own breakfast [always a fight + struggle when going to school] i give her a little time to wake up fully then she is ready to learn. i take her to spend a morning at her new school on Tuesday and she is really looking forward to it .

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