AdamJ Report post Posted May 21, 2012 Perhaps I'm just having a bad day but I'm becoming rather disaffected by the dominance in this forum of a few members who have an awful lot to say about anything and everything. I accept that internet forums generally support free speech but without some self-restraint from its members, it risks losing members who perceive the forum's purpose differently. Sorry if I'm out of line, and shoot me down in flames if you want, but that's how I feel. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nickay12 Report post Posted May 21, 2012 Hmm, I guess I'm confused by your post.. Do you generally mean people who post too much, their opinions or the subjects? No offense intended, I'm just curious.. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
A-S warrior Report post Posted May 21, 2012 is it me? lol i have a very loud mouth once i get on here. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LancsLad Report post Posted May 21, 2012 Adam I must admit I am in the camp of free speech and that restraint has to be a personal thing. When making judgements of people who have an 'awful lot to say about anything and everything' I would tend to base any personal concepts of what may be valid and what may not in respect to their personal backgrounds. If someone has been through certain life experiences then I feel that this offers a valid position to comment from then others need to respect that position, this does not mean they have to agree with what has been said. In a similar way people who do post a lot, and I am one of those need to understand that we only see life from one position and that our experiences are not an answer in someone elses life, rather but one starting position from which they may choose to work through their own ideas at their own pace. There are periods in the life of any forum where there is little in the way of input. I know in the past on specialist forums I have been very aware of there being lots of visitors and yet little in the way of comment. In such situations I have put up posts of an inclusive nature which might ellicit a response in an attempt to create some activity, sometimes this works sometimes it doesn't. The reality is that there will always be members who will prefare to take a passive role and simply want to read through posts for the majority of the time. That is fine by me they are just as much an active member as someone who posts a lot. Adam if you feel the forum is dominated by a few the answer might be to post more yourself, I for one always welcome yours and anyone elses views. The last thing I would say this is a forum which by its nature has a large number of individuals on the autistic spectrum. For some of these individuals compulsive behaviour is part of their make up and I feel we all should be accepting of that element which without doubt does eminate from the forum. Adam I can however possibly see where you are coming from. There are elements of the spectrum which might be reflected in a quiet and reserved approach to life for many people. As such can the forum be reflective of the ASD community and their carers as a whole? I do not think so. I feel it is inevitable that it will be somewhat unbalanced, and I can understand how this feeling of unbalance might be somewhat disconcerting for some members. Hence I do not feel you are wrong here, nor are you right, rather you are saying how it feels for you and that is a valid comment and one which we all should take on board whatever our make up. I suspect there are a number of members who share your viewpoint and they will be pleased you posted your thoughts. Just a few thoughts, best wishes. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chris54 Report post Posted May 21, 2012 (edited) There are one or two knowledgeable individuals on here who often have a constructive contribution to make. If you been around any time you will know that it goes in phases. Iv know it were if it were possible it has almost come to blows such was the disagreement. I often read the post at work but cannot contribute at that time, and often by the time I get around to it my point has been made. My post tend to be short as due to my dyslexia, It takes my some time to compose then edit and correct, before I post. If I could get my ideas down easy I would be a prolific poster. Anyone who knows me will tell you that once I get my teeth into a subject there is no stopping me. This forum is what its members make it. Edited May 21, 2012 by chris54 Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
AdamJ Report post Posted May 21, 2012 LancsLad, you're right. It's sometimes easy to forget that the way in which many of our members engage with this forum is a manifestation of their personal idiosyncracies. I should remember to make allowances for that and I apologise for showing my frustration earlier. On reflection, I think I am just having a bad day. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
darkshine Report post Posted May 21, 2012 I think its for talking about ASD stuff and stuff related to the effects of ASD on life and stuff and the separate sub-forums classify what sort of topics should go where and the off topic is for off topic stuff so that when sometimes people don't want to talk about ASDs they can talk there or say funny stuff or rants and jokes and stuff that are sometimes fun to look at. Sometimes I talk about anything and everything cuz I want to know stuff or share stuff - it seems kinda pointless to just read all the time - but maybe that's cuz I spent 3/4 of my life just reading and now its sorta ok to talk (which is weird to me still). Sorry you had a bad day... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
robert7111a Report post Posted May 22, 2012 I think you just have to take things as they are. Internet forums are full of good and bad ...people giving constructive views or just venting. I joined this forum to learn from other members. Admittingly I don't read every post, just the ones that interest me. Also I try not to be too personal about sensitive issues but I am not immune from making a faux pas now and again that might annoy someone Hope your day gets better too... Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chris54 Report post Posted May 22, 2012 Further to my earlier comments. When in discussion with people (face to face) I will often play devil's advocate. I soon learnt not to do that on here. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
indiscreet Report post Posted May 22, 2012 Perhaps I'm just having a bad day but I'm becoming rather disaffected by the dominance in this forum of a few members who have an awful lot to say about anything and everything. I accept that internet forums generally support free speech but without some self-restraint from its members, it risks losing members who perceive the forum's purpose differently. Adam, when I first read this I wondered whether you were referring to posts about things that are not specifically concerned with autism/AS as such. From my experience this happens on all forums but at least here there is an "Off Topic" section for these posts. I used to contribute to a forum about a particular movie but I seldom do so now because it's become top-heavy with OT threads. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
A-S warrior Report post Posted May 22, 2012 LancsLad, you're right. It's sometimes easy to forget that the way in which many of our members engage with this forum is a manifestation of their personal idiosyncracies. I should remember to make allowances for that and I apologise for showing my frustration earlier. On reflection, I think I am just having a bad day. yeah join in dude! you posted on a thread of mine a while ago and i laughed like a naughty school girl. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
