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Hi!

I've recently been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. I feel relieved, slightly confused but more than anything.

I've always had elements of the eccentric inventor about me; I'm a writer and if I could, I'd write 24/7. As that obviously is not an option my life has gone haywire.

I literally stay up all night - sometimes all day too - so I'm severely sleep deprived. I spend so much time getting ready (I'll explain more about that in a second) that there's no hours left in the day to write at all, so technically I'm cutting off my nose to spite my face.

My mum is my amazing best (and only) friend and carer; she stays up with me, patiently being there - despite her having Myalgic Encepholomyelitis (ME). What a phenomenal woman; on the verge of collapse at times - yet so unshakably strong. I treat her as if I hate her. I shout, argue and act like a know-it-all and I hate myself for it. I have an empathy deficiency issue too.

 

The crux of the problem is my daily routine.

I spend an almost unlimited amount of time getting ready either for bed or in the mornings...or afternoons, and sometimes I'm not even ready to go to the shops which close at 8:00 pm!

Who knows why I do this. I'm not sure if there really is an answer. But I just know that I get sidetracked from what I need to do, and I find it really hard not to. I am so slow at doing everything, and I am very 'routines and rituals' orientated.

I love to wear headphones and listen to music when I'm getting ready, but the moment I slip them on, I start dreaming (I have this 'other life' in my head). I can dream without the headphones too, so having my mum hide them is only a little help (at night this isn't even an option: I have hypersensitivity ams my dad's snoring makes me want to explode).

Partly I feel motor skill issues contribute to this - I find putting my boots on and washing my face really tricky, and brushing my teeth is so awkward - so I spend as long as possible procrastinating in any way I can.

Also, lack of motivation is an issue. I just lie on the floor sometimes and laze about - even though my mind is begging me to get ready. Often I have really hyper, whispered conversations with imaginary friends, and it's all getting me down. I see the dawn most mornings, and I usually finish getting ready only when night casts its sulky shadow.

Could anyone shed some light on this? Please?

 

Thank you so much for reading all this...it means so much.

 

Wordsmith xxx

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Suze   

Just a quick reply , as sorting kids out.See your gp for referral for OCD,cognitive behavioural therapy may help you.

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Just a quick reply , as sorting kids out.See your gp for referral for OCD,cognitive behavioural therapy may help you.

Just a quick reply , as sorting kids out.See your gp for referral for OCD,cognitive behavioural therapy may help you.

Just a quick reply , as sorting kids out.See your gp for referral for OCD,cognitive behavioural therapy may help you.

Just a quick reply , as sorting kids out.See your gp for referral for OCD,cognitive behavioural therapy may help you.

Thanks for the advice - I'm currently waiting to have an assessment with a speech and language specialist, due to my precocious and academic yet monotone voice, and they said I do have obsessive tendencies - but that is a comorbid attribute of Asperger's. I think I have AS pretty bad. Meltdowns a lot, frequent social misunderstandings et cetera.

I think they are planning on CBT.

Thanks!

Wordsmith xxx

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You have written a very capable post.

Do you think you have OCD? Are you doing certain rituals and routines that you feel you must complete - and if you don't you think you will get ill, or something bad will happen?

 

When you say you get sidetracked is that because your thoughts are telling you you must do other stuff first.

 

Is the stuff you do when sidetracked things you enjoy?

 

Would writing a list of what you need to do to get ready help?

Could you buy a clock that you can set multiple alarms - say every 10 minutes, so that every time the alarm goes you check where you are on the list.

 

Are you ultimately fearful of going out and that is why you are delaying it so much?

Do you have a good understanding of time and can you plan other things and keep on time?

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Might be signs of dyspraxia (which is also at the higher end of the autistic spectrum). Sounds like you are very disorganized at one level, yet so deep rooted in OCD at the next level. Ask your SALT when you see her.

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Dyspraxia can affect organisation and motor skills so worth looking into further research more as could have both conditions are one can be common overlap with the other one can feed deep make other worse more of a difficult battle/struggle so be best to find out more information ???

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You have written a very capable post.

Do you think you have OCD? Are you doing certain rituals and routines that you feel you must complete - and if you don't you think you will get ill, or something bad will happen?

 

When you say you get sidetracked is that because your thoughts are telling you you must do other stuff first.

 

Is the stuff you do when sidetracked things you enjoy?

 

Would writing a list of what you need to do to get ready help?

Could you buy a clock that you can set multiple alarms - say every 10 minutes, so that every time the alarm goes you check where you are on the list.

Yes to all questions - we have tried timetables, but nothing seems to work. Thanks so much for the advice though!

 

Are you ultimately fearful of going out and that is why you are delaying it so much?

Do you have a good understanding of time and can you plan other things and keep on time?

You have written a very capable post.

Do you think you have OCD? Are you doing certain rituals and routines that you feel you must complete - and if you don't you think you will get ill, or something bad will happen?

 

When you say you get sidetracked is that because your thoughts are telling you you must do other stuff first.

 

Is the stuff you do when sidetracked things you enjoy?

 

Would writing a list of what you need to do to get ready help?

Could you buy a clock that you can set multiple alarms - say every 10 minutes, so that every time the alarm goes you check where you are on the list.

 

Are you ultimately fearful of going out and that is why you are delaying it so much?

Do you have a good understanding of time and can you plan other things and keep on time?

You have written a very capable post.

Do you think you have OCD? Are you doing certain rituals and routines that you feel you must complete - and if you don't you think you will get ill, or something bad will happen?

 

When you say you get sidetracked is that because your thoughts are telling you you must do other stuff first.

 

Is the stuff you do when sidetracked things you enjoy?

 

Would writing a list of what you need to do to get ready help?

Could you buy a clock that you can set multiple alarms - say every 10 minutes, so that every time the alarm goes you check where you are on the list.

 

Are you ultimately fearful of going out and that is why you are delaying it so much?

Do you have a good understanding of time and can you plan other things and keep on time?

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