Aviemorticia Report post Posted August 6, 2013 https://plus.google.com/b/103773036814582919078/103773036814582919078/posts This is a link to the publicly viewable Google page with coping strategies guides I have written on the subject of disciplinary action at work, redundancy, claiming disability benefits, moving house and coping with large scale crowded events, specifically the Edinburgh Festival from when I lived there but the principles can apply to other events. I hope they can help others who are going through similar situations x Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
robert7111a Report post Posted August 6, 2013 Hi, I was particularly interested in the redundancy guide but easier said than done. Although you make some good points, many will not work for me. 1. Redundancy means I can't pay the mortgage or afford to run my car. (have you seen the cost of public transport in London lately?) 2. I am too old to be employed elsewhere (given the current climate) and nobody else would touch me with a barge pole 3. I am skilled in a particular professional field 4. Redundancies are already happening in my field so finding another job elsewhere in this field is totally out of the question 5. I am terrified and resistant to change 6. Redundancy would put me into a spiral of depression as I won't know what to do (I have been there before and I could not cope) 7. Redundancy would eliminate all that I have worked for This list is far from exhaustive I know I need to prepare myself so any help would be useful Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aviemorticia Report post Posted August 8, 2013 Dear Robert, I am very sorry to hear of your dilemma and that I have unfairly raised your hopes by posting a guide which has not been as helpful as you anticipated. It is difficult to give more personalised suggestions without knowing your circumstances in detail and I appreciate that you may not want to give any more details away to a stranger especially on a thread viewable by others but I have spent time today doing some research and putting together a few more general pointers. It really is important that you get support and financial advice in place as soon as possible; I would recommend that you contact autism specific services in your area who may be able to suggest contacts with a proven track record in giving informed, autism friendly and aware assistance. The National Autistic Society: http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/employment/looking-for-work.aspx You may also be interested in the work of Sarah Hendrickx who has written several books on autism and life situations including employment related matters; she is also involved with training and support services and is UK based so the law related information in her works is appropriate to your area. http://www.asperger-training.com/sarah-hendrickx/ http://www.amazon.co.uk/Asperger-Syndrome-Employment-People-ebook/dp/B0041OTALG/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&qid=1375962807&sr=8-6&keywords=Sarah+Hendrickx I appreciate that my own personal experience from which the guides were written is different in many ways from yours and I hope that others with more in common will see this thread and be able to add their own input. I wish you all the very best, Aviemorticia Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
robert7111a Report post Posted August 8, 2013 Dear Aviemorticia I'm sorry if I sounded a bit negative but I can't see an easy way out of my situation. Also I can't go into too much detail here, not because of strangers, but because I think somebody at work knows I am on this forum (and therefore knows my position). Without giving too much away, the biggest problem (for me) is that I have 3 children to support, have been in the same routine for 4-5 years and the last change of job (and relocation) was a huge upheaval and so stressful that I hoped I would never have to go through it again. I have noted your links and will take a look Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tanya52 Report post Posted August 13, 2013 Hi Aviemorticia, Thanks so much! It helps. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aviemorticia Report post Posted August 14, 2013 Thanks, Tanya! Robert: I completely understand, hope you find practical support and feel less alone. Thinking of you. Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
robert7111a Report post Posted August 15, 2013 Hi Aviemorticia I have ordered a couple of Sarah Hendrickx's books - thanks for the recommendation. Looking forward to reading Quote Share this post Link to post Share on other sites