New resident moved in

[JeanneA]

Hi guys, a new resident, a young man called Raji who is 19, same age as Glen moved into the care home on Wednesday. The home is full now, 2 upstairs: Glen & Raji, 1 person; David downstairs and Bryan who is a bit older and lives in the annex adjoined to the home.

 

I was a bit worried about Raji moving iin as Glen had been used to having all of the upstairs to himself including the bathroom, but it seems it's all working out ok. I went to see Glen yesterday and met Raji. He's a very happy, friendly, lively guy. Glen seems to find him very amusing, he's started giggling out loud since Raji moved in as Raji giggles a lot, so it seems to have rubbed off on Glen, which is great news as Glen hadn't laughed out loud in some time, it's a sign that he's really happy. So far so good! Glen in himself continues to be very settled and loves going out with the staff, enjoys walking, shopping and eating out :-) i'm so happy and more importantly Glen's happy :-)

[Sally44]

I'm glad it is all working out so well, and that Glen is happy with this new person moving in.

[JeanneA]

Thanks Sally it is very good news, I'm so happy :-)

[Special_talent123]

I'm so pleased for you. I wonder if the care home worked with him to help him cope with unexpected routines or they knew and so helped glen cope with the change.

[JeanneA]

Hi SP, the care home from the start worked with Glen to cope with any sudden change that could happen, and they did go and see him at the hospital where he was prior to the care home to get to know him. After 16 weeks of being at the care home, staff know Glen very well and he is now 'trusting' them, as he had been through so much in the past that I'm sure he must have had trust issues. I think now at long last after 2 long years, Glen is now at a place which is good for him and I hope he will be there for many years to come.

[dekra]

Great news. Maybe Glenn and Raji can develop a friendship and have a long and happy time as "flat mates".

[JeanneA]

Hi Dektra thanks very much for your comments. I do hope Glen and Raji continue to get on ok with each other. Glen ha never made friends in the past so I don't know if it will develop into a friendship time will tell. As long as Glen is happy there that is the main thing.

[oxgirl]

So happy for you and Glen, Jeanne, you both deserve peace and happiness. I hope that he enjoys many years of fun and laughter with his new friend and that you enjoy many years of contentment also. <'>

 

~ Mel ~

[JeanneA]

Thank you so much for your lovely words Mel. How is your son getting on now?

[trekster]

Really pleased Glenn is happy at last.

[JeanneA]

Hi, thanks yes it's fantastic that he's happy, I'm so pleased the right place has finally been found. I ran last night to hear that staff had taken Glen into town (which is somewhere you could never take Glen in the past), and opened a bank account for him, he was very good, very patient in the bank and had lunch in a cafe whilst out, and apparently went into the 99p shop where 2 elderly ladies at the counter said what a lovely smile Glen had. Glen is getting on well with the new resident at the home Raji, he makes he laugh. Going to see Glen again Saturday week, so looking forward to that. :-)

[lisac]

Aw Jeanne this has brought tears to my eyes. You and Gen deserve goodness , so happy for you , xx

[JeanneA]

Hi Lisa thank you so much. I'm so pleased for Glen that he is in a happy place, although of course I still miss him at home very much, but do visit him regularly and he will come home for a visit in the near future. How are things with your son now?

[lisac]

That is so very good to hear Jeanne. Yes, my son is doing fine. The past 4 yrs hes been going to a specialist college for a few hours each day. He does life skills stuff , using the ipad to choose items when shopping and cooking, visiting garden centres etc and has travel training. I still cant believe how lucky we are ( internet search) at finding this college, it really is a one off.x

[JeanneA]

I am so pleased to hear that Lisa, I'm glad it's all working out. College wouldn't be something Glen that I could have considered for Glen, I've always known that. He has been a far better and happier person since education of any kind stopped, so sending him to a College even like your son, teaching him life skills just wouldn't have worked for Glen, everyone is different. It's so nice to know that both are sons are now happy in what they are doing, long may that continue. x

[lisac]

Yes Jeanne I agree. My son was much better in himself when he left school and all pressure was off, he is 26 now. I never thought hed be able to learn anything as the right environment and approach was never found. He then had a series of different workers and agencies taking him out and about each day, to cafes, parks etc , until he started getting highly highly anxious again. Then I found this college that uses makaton, has some structure, but in a relaxed and respectful way and its been working.( so far). The one thing I can think that has made the difference is that my son is better for only a few hours, part time, anywhere than all day. In the past once lunch was over in the afternoons hed get very highly stressed, like hed had enough. But then gawd knows Jeanne, I could be wrong, as this is only through observation as it is impossible to know, as he is unable to have a conversation or tell me anything. Just so pleased I can drop him off for a few hours a day and not worry, x

[JeanneA]

It sounds the ideal place for your son Lisa, like you say a few hours a day is best. It gives him something to do and gives you a break. It sounds like a win win situation at the moment and long may that continue. It isn't easy for us when our sons can't tell us how the feel etc, life would be so much easier if they could.