Big decisions

[hsmum]

Hello,

 

It has been quite a difficult year for my family and in particular for my two sons (14 and 16). In February my son was accepted on the roll at a school which specialises in meeting the needs of young people with ASC/ADHD. However, it seems like the placement has broken down and there is an emergency meeting on Tuesday to discuss next steps. Meanwhile, my youngest son has been refusing school since January and is diagnosed with Generalised Anxiety Disorder. My husband, who is the boys' main carer, finds the situation incredibly difficult to deal with (he also has AS) and there are multiple agencies involved with our family. My commute to work (2.5 -4 hours each way) extends the time I am away from home to 13 or 14 hours a day and leaves me drained in the evening.

 

So, I am considering moving the family much closer to where I work. There is an excellent specialist college in the area where, if the authorities permit, my son could attend as a day student or lodge as a weekly boarder. Being closer to work would mean I could try to home school my youngest and perhaps introduce him to a vocational course in the college where I work next year.

 

 

Yet, I feel so sad when I think about this. It almost feels like everything has failed and I keep worrying that I will simply move the problem from one area to another because there is no guarantee that my plan will succeed. Another problem is that my job is not secure and I had imagined that if any change was to take place it would be that I would find a job closer to our current location.

 

In fact, I am full of doubt and worry and I suppose i am just looking for a bit of advice or support so that I do not go to the meeting next week unable to present a coherent case.

 

Thanks

 

J

 

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[Livelife]

I can see the reasons your concerned and not sure what is the best thing to do. The main thing to remember is that you do have a number of choices a lot of people don't have options that they can consider to change their lives.

There would definitely be a benefit to moving closer to your work but I suppose it depends on whether it will be worth the move if the job is not that secure. However nothing is certain and you may remain there and moving would make life a lot easier for you given what you have said and it could be the basis for much improved life for your family.

There are nothing in life that can be guaranteed but from what you have said unless you could find a new job near to your home it may be worth the risk especially the benefits to your children and being able to spend more time with family rather than traveling not to mention how less tired you will be as a result.

A informed decision is the best any of us can make.